Do you think im selfish?

[faithsmummy]

i keep thinking about it but when i was offered a screening for spina bifida and downs syndrome i turned it down as if i do have a child with this i would keep it and care for it!
what do you girls think?

 

[Minxy]

It's such a personal choice honey, you're not selfish.

I didn't have the tests as it wouldn't have affected my decision to proceed with the pregnancy and I didn't feel the need to be 'prepared' for any eventuality.

I can understand how some people might want to know if they're high risk, particularly if there are other children so the family can prepare for such a high responsibility.

 

[Emmylou]

Each to their own babe - I certainly don't think you are selfish at all!! We have had the test as we feel we would like to know.......not sure how we feel if we get a bad result - but we'd be prepared...that's the way I look at it.

There are planty of other girls who are not having the test done, and i don't think anyone would think you are selfish

 

[rach]

i certainly dont think your selfish hun ive chosen not to have the tests also as i would carry on with the pregnancy and love and care for my baby no matter what its a personal decision which nobody should feel selfish about whatever they decide to do xxxxxx

 

[Icecream]

Of course not. you are completely the opposite. I feel the same. I will love and look after my baby whatever. I only had the test because I thought I may as well let them take the blood while its being taken anyway. The only reason for such a test is so that if baby has it you can have the option of termination so it doesn't matter if you wouldn't be affected.

Even if high risk and you are sure about wanting the child anyway then it is best for baby if you find out after it is born if anything is wrong.

 

[Eblinx]

I had the test done..it wouldnt have effected my decision in any way about keeping the baby..but i would have had more chance to prepare for things, thats how i felt about it..but i think its 100% up to you what you want to do and your not selfish in any way at all

 

[mary70]

your not selfish hun, i didnt have the test with my first but i did with my second because i thought i also had my son to consider in the way that being an older mum if anything was to happen to me he would be left to care for the baby.
i think it is fine not to have the tests

 

[Fiona]

we took the same decision as you... decided not to take the test as it wouldn't effect our decision to keep the baby....

we will love and baby and accept it whatever happens...

 

[Tasha20]

we took the same decision as you... decided not to take the test as it wouldn't effect our decision to keep the baby....

we will love and baby and accept it whatever happens...

Exactly how I felt

 

[kirlykird]

I don't think you're selfish, I'm turning it down too

 

[sarah113]

i dont think your selfish hun, im having the test even tho im at low risk, i had it done with my other 3 children, im only having it done because if the baby does have something wrong i would like to know before its born so that i could prepare, i would never get rid of a baby even if it did have something like that wrong with it.

sarahxxxx

 

[rusks]

your not selfish at all. its a personal choice, i had the nuchal scan as i would have liked to have known either way and then been able to make an informed decision, i don't know what that decision would have been as i have not been put in that position.

you have no reason to feel guilty or selfish at all, try not to worry.