Disciplining a 10 month old...

[Krystal]

Ok before we even start i'm not talking strict discipline with smacks or anything like that

How does everyone start teaching their child what they can and can't have/touch/smash/chew? Now Jack is crawling he is all over the place, he has taken a particular fancy to the coals on my fire so I often find him chewing a piece of fake coal with black all over his face & hands

I always put down plenty of toys for him no matter what I put down he goes to what he shouldn't have, DVD player, Surround sound, photo frames.

I usually go over tell him a stern no and move him away to sit with his toys but he literally goes straight back there. I don't agree with me having to move things out of his way, he needs to learn there are things that he can play with and things he can't play with.

How the hell do you do it?

 

[Xena]

ummm you don't lol

I don't think there's much you can do at this age hun - just keep on your toes

 

[Squiglet]

You remove the object and move it higher and you get a fire guard for your fire even when its not on...

 

[Krystal]

or buy a leash?

 

[1sttimemum]

i agree with you crystal - if you go elsewhere you cant ask them to move items away from jack.

i would keep doing wat your doing, even if he goes back, keep saying no & taking him back to his toys.

 

[Babylicious]

just keep moving him away and saying no - it works in the end

 

[SarahH]

I refuse to move anything for Arianna and guard anything, except the heater for safety reasons.

I think you just have to continue doing what you are doing... he is still young and it will probably take a while for it to settle and understand the "no"

 

[leckershell]

Now Jack is crawling he is all over the place, he has taken a particular fancy to the coals on my fire so I often find him chewing a piece of fake coal with black all over his face & hands

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I usually go over tell him a stern no and move him away to sit with his toys but he literally goes straight back there. I don't agree with me having to move things out of his way, he needs to learn there are things that he can play with and things he can't play with.

Ryan was *exactly* the same with the coals. We just kept doing it, saying No, No, No every few seconds and then moving him. It worked though, he actually understands no now and if we say it he stops.

Admittedly he might carry on after a pause, but you can see his little head is thinking about it.

 

[Redshoes]

Repetition and patience

I read somewhere that it can take up to 3months for some disciplinary actions to take affect

Isaac is sort of there now, he does know certain things are a definite NO, and like yourself, I've always picked him up, sat him away from the object/item, and sais a stern 'No!' He now will sit and mumble to himself or throw his arms up and have a whinge, but doesn't go back to it, but he used to

I'm very relaxed about what I say no to him about, I will only move him away from objects/items that are potentially dangerous.
In example, if he touches the volume buttons on the TV, so its goes real quiet or real loud, I will simply ignore him, he gets bored from lack of attention and eventually moves on. If he tries to open any of our glass cabinets I say no, if he doesn't move immediately I move himas said above.

You will find what works for you and Jack just be prepared for it to possibly take a while, and think about what really needs instilling in him because saying no to everything, as they touch EVERYthing, I found too much and it spoiled the day, as both of us were just upset all the time, plus they are still babies and they need time

Sorry I just wittered on, could say loads more but my main response would be to focus on danger items first, then as he grows move to lesser issues such as ripping up your magazines, ringing last number dial on the telephone, turning on the PC

Oh and on the issue of when you're at other people's, I find Isaac's very good and adhere's to what the people who live there say, I think because its not Mummy, they aren't as keen to push it or test it. Isaac is so good at his Grandma's, its not even funny, but nice that he can be left and will be good

 

[Krystal]

Thanks for all your advice ladies.

Redshoes I agree with you.. I don't want to be saying No to absolutely everything and do remain fairly relaxed unless it something that could be danger or he could smash to smitherines.

I just wanted reassurance really that what I was doing was right, i'm prepared for it to take a while.. I will win the war

 

[Rosieroo]

One word - FIREGUARD!

Just after we moved in I was in the kitchen scrubbing the bits of wallpaper and paste off our floor (wonder why I went into labour 4 weeks early ), was so chuffed at how clean it came up. Went into the front room and Ella (aged 14 months) had pulled all the coals out of the new fire and rubbed them into the brand new carpet, she'd also tried putting them inside various toys...her mouth.... I could have cried!

Took all the coals out and managed quite well without one for a few more months but finally had to give in and buy one when we started to use the the fire. I hate it, it's ugly, but it's safer (and I can have the coals back )

 

[nancy]

What you are doing sounds like the right thing to be doing. I went through the same with William but I must admit I "baby proof" to a certain extent. If I love an object a lot I will lock it away in my cupboard or put it out of reach. It's all well and good saying that babies need to learn but there is always that time when you aren't looking and they destry something that you didn't want them to.

My OH and I were fighting a battle recently. I was putting my consoles away after use so that William couldn't destroy them. OH wanted them out all the time and nothing I could do would convince him to put them away. Well William sat on the Xbox and then had an accident, which as you can imagine killed the console dead. I can't afford to buy another so that's £200 down the drain and he's got a load of games he now can't play. Not 'appy is an understatement. x

 

[KJ]

Well William sat on the Xbox and then had an accident, which as you can imagine killed the console dead. I can't afford to buy another so that's £200 down the drain and he's got a load of games he now can't play. Not 'appy is an understatement. x

Wish Asher would do that to DH's x-box. Wouldn't mind it having a 'nasty accident', then we'd get to spend more quality time together!!

Kxx

 

[jools221181]

I agree! We just repeated the same thing over and over again - saying no and moving him away! It worked eventually!

It's now I find it harder as he has a tantrum whenever I say no!

 

[trixipaws]

u cant rele lol melissa is the same she prefers my laptop, boyf's ps3, the plasma tv or anyone's mobile fone to any of her toys

she's actually naughty already tho coz when i DO move her away/take things away stuff she shouldnt be touching she bites and smacks!

i posted a similar thread a couple months ago and was told the only way to discipline her violence is to ignore it, which i do anyway look away from her and say nothing if she attacks me! tbh i think its working she hasnt whacked or bitten me for awhile!

 

[nancy]

Well William sat on the Xbox and then had an accident, which as you can imagine killed the console dead. I can't afford to buy another so that's £200 down the drain and he's got a load of games he now can't play. Not 'appy is an understatement. x

Wish Asher would do that to DH's x-box. Wouldn't mind it having a 'nasty accident', then we'd get to spend more quality time together!!

Kxx

You're fighting a losing battle with that one hun lol. I figured if you can't beat them join them! At least you know where he is when he's holed up playing computer games lol. I consider myself lucky that I know where my man is every minute of the day, he's in bed, at work or in front of his computer screen PMSL. x

 

[Sabrina]

We are having the same problem with George. He's obsessed with wires, plugs, the Wii sensor and rubbish bins for some reason. We just keep saying no and moving him away. Now though he shakes his head, waves his hand into a "no" sign .... and then just goes straight back to what he was doing!? LOL

I hope perseverence works. I really don't want to remove everything from the house (yes we do have a fireguard, plug socket guards etc)

 

[mum2A&L]

No is the most used word in my house! Problem is Alice now picks things up she shouldn't have passes them to us and says "no" I have taken to saying things like, "you shouldn't have that should you", or "please put it back" or "please give it to mummy". She seems to pay more attention if i speak to her and ask her to do something instead of just "No" - if you know what i mean.

Its almost as bad as trying to 'train' men to put their dirty socks in the laundry bin or wash out their stubble hair from the sink when they have had a shave

 

[x-kirsty-x]

Oh God, most of the replies in this thread sound exactly like Ryan

He has LOADS of toys but he goes straight for the Wii, remotes, my mobile, just anything that he shouldn't have!

I think he's learning though cos when I say 'No' he quickly reaches out to pass me whatever it is he has and then he sits there chewing his fingers and looking at me with puppy eyes for a minute

He's totally obsessed with my laptop, it does my head in!!!

Sorry, I wasn't much help was I?