Dilemma!

[Pinkjoanne]

Hello,

Looking for a little bit of advice from you ladies as OH thinks I've gone loopy!
Right from the start we've been really set on both names for a boy or girl (we're team yellow) and have managed to keep them to ourselves.
A few months ago one of my best friends had a baby boy and has used Arthur as his middle name. Arthur being exactly what we were set on for a boy.
I've tried to think of others but am totally in love with Arthur (if it is indeed a boy!).

I'm not really sure if or how to tell her and whether she would be offended that we have 'taken' her name. We don't live in the same city and I'll be seeing her for a catch up soon. Should I bring it up and ask 'permission' or just keep quiet?
Has anyone been in a similar situation?

 

[mrs_b_x]

Just keep quiet! She doesn't own the name! When you give birth and reveal the name you can explain then that you'd already chosen it before. As you say they won't be going to school together and even if they were its only the middle name of the other boy. I'm having a boy but if it had been a girl Ava was one of my faves, which iv liked for ages and a girl at work called her baby that last year, I'd have still used it if I'd had a girl! X

 

[CARNAT22]

I'd speak to your friend.

As it's not her babies first name though I can't see the issue?

My friends little boy's middle name is James and it never even occurred to me when we picked our name.

X

 

[kinkers]

I agree with carnat. Just explain that you really love it and had it chosen but you are worried about her being a bit miffed if you use it as your child's first name. I can't see any reason for her to be annoyed.

 

[Pinkjoanne]

Thank you for your replies.
I think I will speak to her about it. I'll make it clear we had already chosen it and nicely say that I hope she doesn't mind.
I never knew baby names were such a minefield!

 

[GEH]

I agree, would just make a joke and say it was a relief you didn't use it as a first name as it was our only real option for so long. I wouldn't be remotely offended / bothered about using a middle name. I never use mine/ think they're more just symbolic x