Desperate for as girl

[mrsbrickelltobe]

i know this is going to sound really bad, but is anyone else hoping for a certain sex? im soooo happy to be pregnant after 16mths ttc, and believe me, i am chuffed. but i guess you always take things for granted and want a little bit more.... i have a boy, as does everyone else in my whole family, there hasnt been a girl in either side for years... im praying for one, ive got a feeling it is but worried ill be disapointed. we are finding out sep 11th, if its not how will i feel? i hope i wont be disapointed, i know i shouldnt as long as the baby is healthy... i KNOW that.

cant stop thinking about it? any myths out there about carrying girls? i am carrying completely different to when i had my son, i breezed through last time, now im sick/tired much worse.

ill put my scan phoyo on now, please guess for me.... xxxx

 

[Squiglet]

I know its bad of me... but I really don't want a little boy... I want another girl.... I just don't know anyone who doesn't have a little boy who isn¡'t an absolute monster, or a pain in the arse.... Yet my daughter is an absolute star, kind loving and helpful. I can't face having a little boy and all the problems he will bring.

I know I should be grateful for whatever I have, some people spend years trying to have a baby and never succeed and I shouldn't be so selfish...maybe it's the pregnancy hormones making me paniky...but I can't help how I feel....but I haven't breathed a word of this to anyone which kinda makes it worse as I really want to tell my husband and my family....

I have had a month to get used to the idea of having a boy,...but I still secretly wish it was a girl. I just hope it gets better once he is born....

 

[emma28]

I don't think it's bad to feel that way.
We all have ideas/preconceptions of what having a certain sex will be like. I was totally gutted when I found out I was having a little girl, even though I know I'll love it just the same when it is here. Cried for days, good job we can all blame the hormones!
I also feel bad for not being as excited this time round and I don't know if thats cos its a girl or cos it's our 2nd? It's also hard to imagine loving anything as much as we already love our son. Even though we were ttc for months.

I'm sure when we get our babies we'll be overjoyed, regardless of the sex! Hope so anyway, I'm a bit concerned I won't bond with it as I won't know what to do with it.

 

[little*red]

We're really hoping for a little boy this time as we already have a little girl.
i dont think its wrong to be disappointed when finding out what gender your baby is going to be if it isnt the one you were hoping for. We imagine what it will be like to do certain things with that baby in the future i.e for girls planning weddings, going shopping, and boys watching them play football with dad. silly thing like that are all gone when you find out its the opposite sex, and its almost like your mourning for that 'lost' child.
Although everyone knows you wont love your baby any less it is hard to deal with. I thought my little girl was going to be a boy and was so disapponted when the sonographer said her best guess was a girl. Now i cant imagine her being anything but Evie and wouldnt change her for the world.

i hope you get the little girl your longing for .

 

[Babylicious]

I'm hoping for a son too, I only ever wanted boys

 

[sophie-jordan]

i dont think its a bad thing
deep down im hoping its a little boy this time find out 2mora
x sophie x

 

[kellysomer]

I always thought i'd want a boy after having Isla, but i dotn i want another girl..... dunno why.

 

[lisa&alex]

this is one of the reasons we arnt finding out.. or rather im glad we arnt finding out because if its a girl.. i have 20 weeks to get over the fact im having a girl, where as when its born if its a girl i have no time to get used to it and i have to and will love it.. coz its there..and i dont have time without a baby to think oh god its gonan be a girl.. i wish it was a boy kinda thing.. i know it sounds terrible.. but i really really want a boy this time..i will obviously love it if its a girl, however i know i will be a little disapointed..

 

[KJLorraine]

I really really want a girl this time after 2 boys and it's no secret either! All my friends and family know how much I want a girl and they are all keeping their fingers crossed for me.

I will find out on 25th Sep and part of me is excited and the other is so nervous. What if it is another boy? I'm terrified I will cry in front of the sonographer and how terrible is that?? Instead of being thrilled it's healthy (hopefully) I'll be in tears "grieving" for a daughter that doesn't exist!

I do feel selfish but I can't help the way I feel. I always thought I would a daughter and I just don't know how I will react if it's another boy. I know I will love it just the same and at least I will have 20 weeks to get used it!

 

[lisa&alex]

im just glad im not the only one.. i dont feel so guilty now hahaha

 

[emma28]

I'm terrified I will cry in front of the sonographer and how terrible is that??

I did this and believe me, they couldn't care less!! And even if they do you're likely not ever gonna see them again anyway. Don't worry hun!

 

Hi girls,

When I posted a thread about this very topic when I was in Tri 2, I was shot down in flames by a few people

First of all, let me reassure you ladies who have preconceptions about a particular sex - children are individuals: you could have 4 daughters/sons, all with different personalities. If you have already raised a sweet and loving child then, chances are, no matter what the sex of your next child s/he will be lovely too.

Anyway, what I really wanted to say was - if you find out the sex around the 20 week mark and it's not the sex you wanted, I'd suggest that you have a 3D/4D scan done in Tri3 if you can afford it.

I was so disappointed at my sexing scan (and I already have a boy and a girl!), but now that I have seen my baby's little face, I've fallen in love. I wouldn't have cared if they'd decided the baby was a hermaphrodite at the last scan it was my baby and I was smitten.

It's also natural to wonder whether you'll love your 2nd child as much as your first (it doesn't seem possible and, in fact, can seem a bit "disloyal" to your first), but that's natural too, regardless of sex.

I just hope we all have healthy babies at term!

xxx

 

[okiegirl]

i have 2 boys and would love a girl. when i found out last time i was pregnant i was really upset for a couple of days it was a boy and then after the initial dissapointment i was fine bout it. i think it is better to find out before the birth as u get time to adjust. the day leo was born i totally forgot i wanted a girl so much as i loved him instantly and im sure it will b the the same for u ladies who arent having the sex they wanted.

 

[mrsbrickelltobe]

ahh thanks for all the lovelly words im not alone then?!! i find out 2 weeks today, i will def keep you posted!!!! xxx