Decided I'm going to start eating for 2

[handbagqueen]

I’ve been so cautious of putting on weight cos I don’t want to become a big fat bloater by eating loads as well as baby storing the fat but someone else said to me last night that I didn’t look pregnant and thought I might just be getting fat! Dh said to ignore it but that’s 2 people too many now and I’m so fed up with it- in the space of a week my self esteem has been blasted to pieces.
I wouldn't mind if it was because I was really skinny to begin with but I've always had a large frame but a fairly flat stomach so to me its obvious that its a baby and not too many pies.

So I've decided I might as well eat loads cos it won't make a difference- people are going to think I'm just fat anyway until they ask me and then they'll just be like 'ahh that explains it'

I've closed my office door and having a cry, feeling sorry for myself cos the only person here I can speak to is one of the people that made a nasty comment.

 

[Mrs_Jay]

awww im sorry that people were making harsh comments, thats how i feel at the moment too, but i ate soooo much last time and gained 3 stone, and DS popped out at 8ib 12 so im trying to calm it down a bit this time lol. but here are lots of and try to ignore them

 

[millylillyrose]

People should keep their big mouths SHUT! You dont need comments like that,
My sister who means well says everytime i see her says "Owwww it looks like a real baby now, you really look pregnant"
And the thing is i dont at all, i just look like i've put weight on, and i know she means it well but i wanna hit her everytime she rubs my stomach, ugh!

Dont let go and start eating like crazy, just be healthy and make sure you feel good about yourself, its hard to grow from a normal shape into a monster. Keep up healthy excersise and diet, and you'll go right back after baby arrives

 

[xJodieLoux]

Some people are so insensitive!!

Don't worry about being in that in between stage though, I think most woman have a short period of time where they look 'fat' to other people and not pregnant (even though to you it's obvious baby bumpage). I've only just started to look pregnant, but even still I get people staring and I know they are thinking 'is she fat or pregnant?'. Don't let it get you down, I bet you look great

 

[abcd1234]

It's not nice when u dont no if you look pregnat or fat, i hated it, but after about 18 weeks decided to wear tight things and "show off" what i knew was baby.

As for eating, i'd jsut eat what your body tells you you need. I've been eating normally (well maybe a bit more then normal), im not counting calories or cutting things out where i normally might, and i dont think i've put on loads of weight, i know my arms and legs are the same size as before cos i take measurements to be sure lol.

You need to ignore other people (hard though it is when your hormonal) very soon you're bump will be so obvious no-one will question

 

[Sandi4Paul]

Oh i know how you feel. I have loads of body issues and over the last few weeks have started a very definate bump. I have had commetns like , wow you weren't that big last week (from HR), to you'll soon need a new winter coat (when my coat is already 2 sizes bigger thatn normal) and then sometimes, you're not very big for your dates (i like those ones).

it really makes you feel rubbish and discriminated against. if you were gaining weight for any other reason people wouldn't feel its ok to comment but if it as a baby it's considered fair game. they seem sometimes to forget we are still people not just breeding machines!

Sandi

 

[Penstraze]

aww I just look fat not pregnant right now and despite not pigging out have put on weight on my hips and thighs and bum since becoming pregnant and I get friendly teasing off everyone at work (I work in family buisness) they all call me tubs or chunky and if im having a bad day it really upsets me but I know they don't mean to be nasty so try to just laugh along, My OH upsets me the most when his mum offers me something to eat he'll say jokingly 'not doing her any favours look at the state of her' and other such comments especially early on when I was very bloated he went on how it wasn't baby and I should be careful cause was getting fat!! I have since had a word with him and hes abit beter but we do tend to tease each other thats the way we are we dont mean it!

Baby aside you are carrying I think twice the volume of blood as normal, I also read that you need to put on about 7lb in fat to supply the baby (or something like that) and then theres water retention its no wonder we look bigger other places then just on our tummies and your gorgeous bump will get bigger and bigger until theres no mistaking your pregnant and gorgeous and then lots of broody women around you will have bump envy and think how great you look!!

 

[debecca]

You're only 21 weeks... in the next couple of weeks your bump will really grow anyway and it will be COMPLETELY obvious to the world that you're pregnant, you'll feel much better then. Remember that everyone has bumps of different shapes and sizes!

And DO NOT diet! Eat when you're hungry!!!! That's the baby saying it needs nutrition!

 

[mandspice]

Aw, take no notice of jealous people and wear your bump with pride Like the other girls say, all of a sudden you'll just pop out, just in time for the nicer weather and you can start wearing some tight yummy mummy tops to show off your lovely bump.

In the meantime give in to a few cravings for def xxx

 

[handbagqueen]

I'm going to venture out and get a chocolate muffin now- hope this makes me feel better.
God I feel like such a loser today, I can't believe how much I've let this get to me.

Thanks for all your kind words.

 

[nickilubs]

Huggles! You go get two chocolate muffins! Have one for me......hehe I am sat with a packet of chocolate caramel biscuits if it makes you feel any better......shhh butits actually half a packet the rest have disappeared to my tummy!

 

[Mildly]

Aww meanies for saying you look fat

I feel very fat conscious at the moment and I have been eating loads so have put on weight - it looks horrible. I have gone up 2 dress sizes I blame first tri, where most people throw up, I had to eat every 2 hours to stop me from feeling sick

 

[dannii87]

Ah bless you darlin' Some people can be so rude and inconsiderate. Try to ignore them hun, some people get a kick out of hurting someone's feelings and if he/she was in a bad mood then it usually makes nasty people feel better by putting someone down

It's not on though sweet, you didn't deserve that comment and I'm sure you have lovely bumpage.

Ahh I feel really sad that you're crying at work Please don't cry! You get to see your LO on Monday! You going to find out the sex?!

xxx