comments at work...

[jrm06]

I planned my annual leave to be taken this year, so i booked august off and a few days here and there,
confirmed this with my manager and she said its fine, i can take it whenever i want, i drive apprx 24 miles a day to get to work and really don't want to be driving all that way on the last month of my pregnancy.
Anyway a woman at work was saying how "silly" i am to be doing that and most woman here never do that.
Another collegue then said "i bet shes not coming back next year so thats why shes taking it all now, nobody can believe that im taking it all now" which means people have been talking about me which i dont like. another comment was made by the same woman telling me i should "pretend to cry" if i couldnt get some time off amd then i should get what i want, also making remarks about how "fat" im going to get.
I dont know if im just taking things to heart but i am getting quite annoyed by these comments

 

[SARAHSTAR]

Some people can be right bitches can't they!

It has nothing to do with anyone else hun, what you decide to do is up to you.
Why did she think you were "silly" taking that time off?
As for the "fat" comment that's totally out of order - you should def tell your
manager if anyone says anything else, it's nothing short of bullying.

They're probably all just jealous hun, keep your chin up! xxx

 

[Karate Kid]

Oh bless you!

Only you know how you feel and nobody has the right to dictate to you when you should go on maternity leave.... How many weeks will you be when you finish work? No two pregnancies are the same hun so you have to do the best for you and LO. Is it really that 'silly' that you do not want to over-exert yourself? The same goes for you going back to work.... it is your choice!!

If people cannot differentiate between fat and being pregnant then they plain stupid! I don't think some people engage there brain before they say things because if they did they would realise that they are being hurtful.

I think a lot of it is bred out of being jealous, I know it is hard Hun but just remember that you will be the one with an amazing little bundle soon enough x

 

[FirstBabyEek]

Completely agree with Karate Kid, let the comments wash over you because you'll be on maternity leave soon and have such a precious bundle to enjoy.

I'd be tempted to tell your line manager that you've heard some comments, some said directly to you and some behind your back about various aspects of your pregnancy and that you are a little hurt by people's judgemental attitude. That way they can deal with it if it arises again and also they will be aware of it.

Unfortunately its the same where I work and I cant help but get upset, but once you are pregnant everyone who isnt becomes an expert on what you should and shouldnt do.

Chin up xx

 

[cosmicgirl]

I'd personally tell them all to get stuffed and keep their bloody fat noses out of your business. They obviously haven't got anything of interest happening in their own lives x

 

[babyem]

People say this to me all the time, especially my MIL, that if I cant get what I want or for it to be easy I should just start crying.. Im not 5 years old lol!! If I want to actually make something of myself I need to be faced with challenges! x

 

[Loula]

Im working up until 37 weeks and travel for an hour on the train to work everyday working 8am-6pm, people at work make snide remarks about me doing this, i have no choice and i want to work as much as i can as id only be bored at hom eon my own, some people think they have the right to air their opinion which they do but some do it in the wrong way xx

 

[babyem]

some people are so far up their own arses!

 

[dusanlusanage]

These people at work are just jealous I think, because they want time off work and are bitter and twisted instead of being happy for you. Try to ignore their nasty comments, but I know it's easier said than done. I've had some comments at work that have annoyed me as well, mainly for a woman who has chosen not to have children. She said at a team meeting in front of everyone that the team was going to struggle coz I was going on mat leave, it made me feel guilty, but we've got to do what is right for us and lo coz this is a once in a lifetime. Your colleagues sound awful though. Some people just don't think before opening their big horrible gobs. Xxx

 

[charliebear]

oh hun
Thats just their opinions and probably wanted August off themselves.

I'll be doing the same as you. If I dont use my holidays before mat leave then I'll lose them and there is no way I'll lose them. So I'm taking what I want for now and will be adding them on to my mat leave.
I have to start mat leave at 36wks (work policy) so will probably end up leaving around 33 wks for holiday then mat leave. I'm on my feet for upto 14hrs a shift so I know I will struggle after 33/34 wks. x

 

[jrm06]

Thanks for all the replies ladies, i really appreciate it.
I will be about 36/37 weeks when i have august off, i just don't understand why they need to say these things just keep it to yourselves! Another comment was "babies are boring in the first few weeks anyway" what?! Thats my baby and i think the first few weeks are the most important!! Everyone else at work is more than happy for me. just the 2 ladies today. grrrrrr!! Oh wel, thanks again xxxx