Car acciden: Can't stop thinking about it...

[Steelgoddess]

I know this isnt directly preggo relkated but yesterday I had my first proper car accident...

I was coming out of a junction just as the lights were turning from amber to red and a car oncoming car hit my car from the right hand side.

I was surprisingly calm at the scene, the person who hit me was quitre young and he said he had only just got his car back as he had been waiting for 2 weeks...

I know I could of avoided it completly if I had stopped just to be on the safe side however I didnt and I cant stop playing it out in my mind, its really grating on me...

When stuff like this happens it makes me think will I even be a good mother, shouldnt i be being more cautious and now i guess in the back of my mind im worried more incase i do silly things when i have baby

His car was ALOT more damaged then mine, i luckily escaped with some bad scratchs to the rear bumper side and next to the wheel bit, he was even crying...

I couldnt sleep properly last night because of it and i just cant stop beating myself up, i guess i think what would of happened if it was worse and bebe got hurt

 

[MissSara]

No wonder your having a sensitive day hun.
Something like that is bound to shake you up and stir up the emotions.

Don't beat yourself up about it, it was as you said an accident and these to happen, it doesn't mean because of the accident it wil make you any less than a brilliant mummy AT ALL.

 

[LaineyG]

Don't beat yourself up luv! You'll be a fantastic mother!

I was amazed at how much my driving changed after I had Mhairi. When she was in the car with me I turned into a super cautious, super safe driver!

I can still feel a difference when I'm on my own in the car. This instinct comes naturally, and it effects everything you do....but in a good way!

You'll be fine, and you are bound to be shaken up by what happened yesterday!

xxx

 

[Steelgoddess]

Thanks girls...

 

[Mildly]

I agree, you are going to be a great Mum! I think you can wrap babies up in cotton wool too much so don't worry too much about doing silly things. Once your mothers instinct kicks in you'll be great. And if there is anything you aren't sure of, just post on here and you'll have a load of experienced Mums opinions on the subject - that's what I intend to do

You can still go on amber, especially if you are committed. If definitely sounds as though the other driver was in the wrong and you can't beat yourself up for things that happen beyond your control - it just isn't worth it

Glad you and bubs are all right

 

[claireyfairey]

Aw sweethert, you poor thing I am just glad to hear that you and bubs are okay, I can understand you'd be shaken up though

C xxx

 

[Hazel]

You're bound to be shaken up.

Put your feet up and have a chilled out day.

 

[dannii87]

Oh hun! That has absolutely no indication that you are going to be a bad mum in the slightest! You'll be a great one, your bubs is loved so much already and that loves is only to grow more and more.

Bet you were really shook up Can't imagine how you felt/feel. I'm glad you and baby are ok and hope you can get through the shock soon xx

 

[MissyRee]

Hi, you might have read my post about last saturday night me and my OH had a car accident aswell. All i can say is ive cried a few times in the week, alot of it being pure relief and the shock of it all!!

I found it helped thinking of it in a more positive way rather than thinking of what could of happened, for example im fine & babys fine & OH's fine & we were very lucky to just have bruises and cuts, we even managed to sell the car to a friend even though it was really smashed up at the front but dwelling on the what could of happened made me feel worse and guilty too for my baby's sake, so try and think of it more positively if you can I hope your alright though xx

 

[MagicMarkers]

Even if you werent pregnant, i know plenty of people whove been in everything from fender benders to write offs who are really cut up about it for ages, just the idea that it could have been avoided, or what if . . etc. One of my friends got into an accident ( not too serious but had to wait for police etc ) and this lovely little lady came out of her house and gave her a cup of tea, and she'd drank half of it before she realized the woman had put a good amount of whiskey in it * for her nerves *, but when the police got there she was convinced she'd nbe the one arrested for drink driving although it was clear from where the cars were the other driver was in the wrong ! Crashes are scary not matter what but even the most cautious driver will end up in one eventually , im sure you'll be an absolutely amazing mum !!!

 

[Steelgoddess]

Thanks ladies for the response, I guess the fact i have to speak with the insurance company is worrying me, I know u girls are right I came off very well my car isnt majorly damaged and no one is hurt, especially Bubby.

I guess from now on at least ill be mega careful when driving!!

xx

 

[nickilubs]

Awww huggles! Things like this just happen sweetie and you never realize how dangerous something is until it is too late sadly. Your gonna be the best mum in the world! Shit happens sometimes xxx

 

[beanie]

I think its because all of a sudden you realise that you are not just responsible for you anymore, there is another person who relies on you for safety and its a bloody scary thought. I had an accident in Dec, a speeding car slammed into the back of me and shunted me into the car in front who then went into the car in front of them. I was ok apart from whiplash but Seren was in the car with me (thank god she was only shocked and nothing else - was so grateful we had a proper car seat), and Cally was fine (was 7 months pregnant at the time). It wasn't my first car accident, but it was my worse but normally I would have brushed it off. However the thought my children could have been harmed really hit me, and I lost my nerve driving with them in the car and kept having horrible thoughts and flashbacks.

When I read what you wrote the thing that stood out to me was how concerned you were about your baby, not about you or your car. To me that shows that you are already a mum, putting your child first. Don't be harsh on yourself. Glad that you and baby are both fine.

 

[Steelgoddess]

I think its because all of a sudden you realise that you are not just responsible for you anymore, there is another person who relies on you for safety and its a bloody scary thought. I had an accident in Dec, a speeding car slammed into the back of me and shunted me into the car in front who then went into the car in front of them. I was ok apart from whiplash but Seren was in the car with me (thank god she was only shocked and nothing else - was so grateful we had a proper car seat), and Cally was fine (was 7 months pregnant at the time). It wasn't my first car accident, but it was my worse but normally I would have brushed it off. However the thought my children could have been harmed really hit me, and I lost my nerve driving with them in the car and kept having horrible thoughts and flashbacks.

When I read what you wrote the thing that stood out to me was how concerned you were about your baby, not about you or your car. To me that shows that you are already a mum, putting your child first. Don't be harsh on yourself. Glad that you and baby are both fine.

Omigod! you poor poor thing! My story is like a walk in the fields in comparasion, its weird cause when i drove to work this morning I just chilled out, when ppl overtook me i just let them, i dont think im going to allow driving affect me anymore, my baby and family are all i car about so going to be loads more careful now, i also phoned th einsurance company and it wasnt as bad as I envisioned!! I will have to pay £350 excess but thats a small dip in a large ocean and thats the worst that happened...

I guess these things are sent to test us...

Thanks so much for your response girlies i feel alot better now