I was just wondering how you are all finding your boyfriends/husbands during your pregnancy? My boyfriend is doing a lot round the home where I feel too ill to do very much at the moment, but then rubs it in my face later and says he's the only one doing everything! He keeps telling me I could be doing more round the house and that "it's not an illness!"...and this morning he was up at 8:30am and made so much noise (deliberately) that there was no way I could snooze for a little longer so I had to get up! Is anyone else finding their other half to be a little unsympathetic?
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My husband is great around the house, although I feel guilty for not doing more and think he resents this, I think it is more about me and how I feel than him. My only concern is that while he is being amazingly practical with everything, he doesnt want to talk about the baby and shows no interest in development etc. This may be because he doesnt want to get emotionally involved in case something goes wrong though. I would suggest trying to talk to your other half and explain how much pregnancy can take it out of you and how important rest is right now for you and baby. Hope he understands and is a little more sympathetic x
Believe me I've tried and all I get is "it's not an illness" every time...he doesn't understand just how awful I feel. I'm a shadow of my former energetic self and he just doesn't get this at all. He seems to think I'm enjoying being sat at home feeling ill all the time lol! Nevermind...perhaps he'll get it when I walk out one day and take the baby with me 
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He'll do extra stuff round the house if I ask but doesn't always think to. I'd twat him if he said anything like that though 
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we only got a bfp yesterday but husband doesnt seem hugely wanting to talk bout it, though he says he is excited inside!
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Well, to be honest it is not an illness. My bloke treats me more or less like he always did, and I'd get annoyed if it was any different. He does interact with the bump and is massively proud to become a father, but that doesn't mean that I don't need to do the washing up when it's my turn. Obviously he takes over things I physically can't do, such as very heavy lifting, but that's it.And I wouldn't want it any other way. I get annoyed enough when other people try to wrap me in cotton wool just because I'm up the duff.
When I feel off, he looks after me and provides ginger biscuits/chickensoup/hot water bottle/whatever is needed, but that's nothing to do with me being pregnant. He's done it before and I do the same for him when he's not well.
When I feel off, he looks after me and provides ginger biscuits/chickensoup/hot water bottle/whatever is needed, but that's nothing to do with me being pregnant. He's done it before and I do the same for him when he's not well.
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My DH was pretty crap when I was preggers with DD. He took no interest, and even made me carry our sofa down the stairs 
I was really quite worried about how he would react when LO was born. But the second he laid eye's on her everything changed. He had been amazing every since. He openly admits that he was S**t 1st time around. When we got our BFP this time he took me by the hand and said "I promise I will be different this time round" and so far he has been true to his word. Apart from the other day, when he had the cheek to tell me he "felt a little bit sick"!!!! 
I could'nt stop laughting and said "GOOD,when you have been feeling like that for 3 months, come and talk to me!!!"
It's difficult for them to get there heads round. You are feeling all the hormones, so you think about it every second of the day. But for them you look exactly the same, and they can't quite grasp what is going on inside. You should get your energy back in a couple of weeks, and in the mean time don't feel guilty about taking it easy
I was really quite worried about how he would react when LO was born. But the second he laid eye's on her everything changed. He had been amazing every since. He openly admits that he was S**t 1st time around. When we got our BFP this time he took me by the hand and said "I promise I will be different this time round" and so far he has been true to his word. Apart from the other day, when he had the cheek to tell me he "felt a little bit sick"!!!! I could'nt stop laughting and said "GOOD,when you have been feeling like that for 3 months, come and talk to me!!!"It's difficult for them to get there heads round. You are feeling all the hormones, so you think about it every second of the day. But for them you look exactly the same, and they can't quite grasp what is going on inside. You should get your energy back in a couple of weeks, and in the mean time don't feel guilty about taking it easy
pregnancy ive found effects everyone differently. Some pepolemight be able to do the housework still and some feel awful all the time and for some it's on and off. I know how you feel as i feel bad as i have no energy and i was trying to get the washing sorted earlier and watned to cry i felt so sick and knackered. My OH is being very good and like oyu say with yours is not as talkative as me but grins massively whenever i talk about it! He does say he jsut wants to get out of the unsafe stage before getting too excited. Us girlys are different though, its just the way we are made we like to talk so dont worry that's he's not too involved yet! I do sympathise though sweetie, have you had your booking in appointment, the Midwife could explain how bad you feel, give him some info that says you do need to rest, your pumping blood around very fast and stuff so feel tired and the sickness is awful not to metion headaches!
I even went to bed last nigth at 8pm as i was so tired after work. I must admit i am dragging my arse in every day even though i feel i need to boke every 10 seconds so when i get home all i want to do is sleep. I get to work at 8am and finsih at 5.30, its a friggin long day and i cant wait for us all to feel better soon!
You take all the rest you need hun and just think that as soon as you start your 'blooming' period in the 2nd tri you can make up for it then with all your energy! xxxx hope you feel better soon and tell him to stop being an arse! You were obvisouly too good to him before that now a little bit of work is alien to him, he'll get used to it and it'll all be fine. xxx
I even went to bed last nigth at 8pm as i was so tired after work. I must admit i am dragging my arse in every day even though i feel i need to boke every 10 seconds so when i get home all i want to do is sleep. I get to work at 8am and finsih at 5.30, its a friggin long day and i cant wait for us all to feel better soon!
You take all the rest you need hun and just think that as soon as you start your 'blooming' period in the 2nd tri you can make up for it then with all your energy! xxxx hope you feel better soon and tell him to stop being an arse! You were obvisouly too good to him before that now a little bit of work is alien to him, he'll get used to it and it'll all be fine. xxx
I have been really lucky, my OH has been amazing.
However, even though pregnancy is not an illness, it makes you feel like actual turd in the first tri!! Anybody that says any different were obviously extremely lucky. I had NO energy and was absolutely exhausted all the time and just wanted to attach myself to my bed but couldnt lol. AND i was one of the lucky ones that didnt get ANY morning sickness lol.
I feel for you hun, I think once your bump starts to get in the way and he is well aware that his child is inside u (men are weird, sometimes takes the whole "seeing is believing" to make them realise lol) he might change.
Since mine has grown my OH has been so protective lol, makes me smile though.
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However, even though pregnancy is not an illness, it makes you feel like actual turd in the first tri!! Anybody that says any different were obviously extremely lucky. I had NO energy and was absolutely exhausted all the time and just wanted to attach myself to my bed but couldnt lol. AND i was one of the lucky ones that didnt get ANY morning sickness lol.
I feel for you hun, I think once your bump starts to get in the way and he is well aware that his child is inside u (men are weird, sometimes takes the whole "seeing is believing" to make them realise lol) he might change.
Since mine has grown my OH has been so protective lol, makes me smile though.
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