Bit pissed off

[Babylicious]

OH has been out 3 times this week so I've hardly seen him, twice to footy and once to the pub, I've had Paris all week, who's autistic but upset about my cat who's seriously ill after an emergency op.

hacked off that he fucks off out all the time leaving the house a shit hole for me to clean up

 

[Emma58]

Men why do they seem to think they can just f**k off and do what they want whatever the situation?

Have you had a word with him about it? He might not even think he has done anything wrong. In my opinion blokes don't think about others before they do anything.

Sending you lots of these

 

[keli]

my bf didn't come in till half 6 on sat morn 7 on sun morn and is out now!! rang him and told him this is unacceptable he said hes doing nothing wrong just in pub and from time to time he needs to go on bender!! thats him and i'll just have to accept it! he has been good and not been out for a while.. but still out all night it's just not on! dont sleep well when he not here im 8+5 wks pregnant and in the last 5 days i've worked 57 hrs! men are just selfish and think only of themselves!!!

 

[Babylicious]

I've talked to him, but he doesn't think it's unreasonable I've told his mam too and I know she'll give him rocks

 

[Emma58]

I've talked to him, but he doesn't think it's unreasonable I've told his mam too and I know she'll give him rocks

Get his mam to sort him out. I've done that a few times they always listen to their mother

 

[Babylicious]

He hasn't listened that much as he's out tonight and saturday

MEN!!

 

[lella]

Well my husband went off on one this week, he told me that he is sick of coming in from work and not being able to do anything except help look after the baby. I wont let him go out etc.

firstly, i told him ages ago he needs to go out for a drink with his mates, not that he has many cuz he cant be bothered to keep in touch with people.

secondly, what does he think i do all day, when im looking after the little one, i tidy the house, i feed wash clothe the baby. I moisturise the baby several million times a day cuz of his bad eczema.

he told me he doesnt want to come in and have tea and just veg, he said it feels like im watching him to see how much he does with Evan. Im not watching him, but if he could do just one bottle and change one nappy that would be great. Also what do i do now? Do i cook dinner for him or just leave it. Im really confused as i feel like im unappreciated. I thought i was doing the right thing by cooking dinner but obviously not.

We have had a chat about it and we have said that we need to get out more, but it doesnt help me cuz when he gets in from work now im afraid to ask him for help with Evan as he has basically said that he needs time out from it as he is knackered from work as well. What he doesnt realise is that i do it for 24hrs a day 7 days a week, i dont get a break.

He has really thrown me, i thought we were happy but now i know he wants his freedom back.

 

[Funkylady]

Well my husband went off on one this week, he told me that he is sick of coming in from work and not being able to do anything except help look after the baby. I wont let him go out etc.

firstly, i told him ages ago he needs to go out for a drink with his mates, not that he has many cuz he cant be bothered to keep in touch with people.

secondly, what does he think i do all day, when im looking after the little one, i tidy the house, i feed wash clothe the baby. I moisturise the baby several million times a day cuz of his bad eczema.

he told me he doesnt want to come in and have tea and just veg, he said it feels like im watching him to see how much he does with Evan. Im not watching him, but if he could do just one bottle and change one nappy that would be great. Also what do i do now? Do i cook dinner for him or just leave it. Im really confused as i feel like im unappreciated. I thought i was doing the right thing by cooking dinner but obviously not.

We have had a chat about it and we have said that we need to get out more, but it doesnt help me cuz when he gets in from work now im afraid to ask him for help with Evan as he has basically said that he needs time out from it as he is knackered from work as well. What he doesnt realise is that i do it for 24hrs a day 7 days a week, i dont get a break.

He has really thrown me, i thought we were happy but now i know he wants his freedom back.

I can soooo sypmathise with you here. I really feel for you. You almost describe my life perfectly. They just don't realise what it's like looking after a baby all day... my partner had Livvy for the first time for a whole day on Saturday on his own, and I came back, bottles weren't sterilised, dishes weren't done, hoovering wasn't done.. yet he still seemed to think that looking after a baby is easy! Well it is, if you don't look after the house as well! grrrr.. makes me so angry.
No matter what I say, or do he just doesn't seem to think he is in the wrong. He thinks he doesnt have freedom, yet hes out 3 or 4 times a week to the gym, then out to his mates! Whilst im still at home! grr...

But on the flip side, he is a fantastic dad when he gives the time. I love him so much... but I just can't change him!

I suppose I don't have an answer for you, just wanted to know I sympathise totally with you.

xxxxx

 

[lella]

Well my husband went off on one this week, he told me that he is sick of coming in from work and not being able to do anything except help look after the baby. I wont let him go out etc.

firstly, i told him ages ago he needs to go out for a drink with his mates, not that he has many cuz he cant be bothered to keep in touch with people.

secondly, what does he think i do all day, when im looking after the little one, i tidy the house, i feed wash clothe the baby. I moisturise the baby several million times a day cuz of his bad eczema.

he told me he doesnt want to come in and have tea and just veg, he said it feels like im watching him to see how much he does with Evan. Im not watching him, but if he could do just one bottle and change one nappy that would be great. Also what do i do now? Do i cook dinner for him or just leave it. Im really confused as i feel like im unappreciated. I thought i was doing the right thing by cooking dinner but obviously not.

We have had a chat about it and we have said that we need to get out more, but it doesnt help me cuz when he gets in from work now im afraid to ask him for help with Evan as he has basically said that he needs time out from it as he is knackered from work as well. What he doesnt realise is that i do it for 24hrs a day 7 days a week, i dont get a break.

He has really thrown me, i thought we were happy but now i know he wants his freedom back.

I can soooo sypmathise with you here. I really feel for you. You almost describe my life perfectly. They just don't realise what it's like looking after a baby all day... my partner had Livvy for the first time for a whole day on Saturday on his own, and I came back, bottles weren't sterilised, dishes weren't done, hoovering wasn't done.. yet he still seemed to think that looking after a baby is easy! Well it is, if you don't look after the house as well! grrrr.. makes me so angry.
No matter what I say, or do he just doesn't seem to think he is in the wrong. He thinks he doesnt have freedom, yet hes out 3 or 4 times a week to the gym, then out to his mates! Whilst im still at home! grr...

But on the flip side, he is a fantastic dad when he gives the time. I love him so much... but I just can't change him!

I suppose I don't have an answer for you, just wanted to know I sympathise totally with you.

xxxxx

Thanks, my hubbie is a good man and is a good dad but i just get frustrated when all he can see is his issues. i went out with my friends and stayed out over night last month, cuz my mates live quite a way away from me. I came back and he thought looking after evan was a doddle but bottles werent done and evan hadnt been bathed etc. He actually questions me to what i do all day. He forgets that although i dont work like him, looking after a little one and the home is a full time job that i cant walk away from at the end of the day.

MEN!

 

[Babylicious]

 

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