Being part of "The mum club"

[Hazel]

Ever since I was showing properly when pregnant I have become part of "The mum club" as everyone talks to you when you are in a queue in the supermarket, in a lift or in the ladies loos.

Since Connie was born whenever we go out I feel like a celebrity as people smile at us all the time and stop to talk. It takes ages to get anything done in the town now. I suppose as she gets bigger people won't ask as much but I love talking about her to people and showing pictures .

 

[DebbieM]

LOL, I know how you feel. It's lovely isn't it?

 

[CoreysMummy]

Its great!! I love the old dears in supermarkets that come and fuss over them, talk to them and tell you how cute they are!!

Really wierd to start with though...

 

[pilkers]

I love the "mum club"... colleagues at work who I never really associated with now come over to talk baby...I've made loads of new friends through being a mum and for an anti-social bugger like me thats quite an achievement!

 

[Red_Fairy]

hmmmmmmm, you know if im out with my mum and shes pushing one of the little ones, then EVERYONE comes over and chats, tbh, it hardly ever happends to me when im on my own with them both....
I think its either cos i
A) look unaproachable...
B) look like ive got my hands full as it is...
C) cos i look alot younger then my years... still geting ID for alchol so must look about 17-18 or somthing?

I actually think the answer is C.
grrrs... bloody 25 in a few weeks!

 

[sparky]

i love it! plus Isla gets lots of silver put in her pram whenever we're out, her piggy bank is starting to get full!

 

[rusks]

yeah i like it too get some wierdos though too though

luke loves it also hes a flirt especially with the older ladies

 

[LisaJ1986]

Here they feel the need to tell you what you're doing wrong. I've been told it's dangerous putting her in the front of the car and they don't like seeing it. Oh yeah and it's illegal apparently! I've been told off for being out too late with her. Going for a walk a 7pm to try and settle her before bed i didn't think was too late. And i dress her inappropriately.

I get made to feel crap so go home and cry.

 

[maybebaby]

I like that it gives you an automatic subject to talk about when meeting new people - there's not that awkward 'what do we talk about' moment, it's just 'how old's your LO' etc.

I love being a mummy.

 

[maybebaby]

Here they feel the need to tell you what you're doing wrong. I've been told it's dangerous putting her in the front of the car and they don't like seeing it. Oh yeah and it's illegal apparently! I've been told off for being out too late with her. Going for a walk a 7pm to try and settle her before bed i didn't think was too late. And i dress her inappropriately.

I get made to feel crap so go home and cry.

Aw hun don't let them bother you I used to get upset about getting dodgy looks (I'm 23 but look quite a lot younger - maybe 17?) from the old dears but realised I actually don't care what Random Stranger thinks of me or my parenting. I know I'm a fab mum and I'm sure you are too so that's all that matters

 

[daftscotslass]

Here they feel the need to tell you what you're doing wrong. I've been told it's dangerous putting her in the front of the car and they don't like seeing it. Oh yeah and it's illegal apparently! I've been told off for being out too late with her. Going for a walk a 7pm to try and settle her before bed i didn't think was too late. And i dress her inappropriately.

I get made to feel crap so go home and cry.

Lisa I'd tell them to get bent. The worst comment I ever had was in the days when Becky was sick ALL the time and we had actually just left the doctors' surgery having had a diagnosis of reflux. She threw up in her carrier, I stopped to clean her up and an old lady walking past grimaced and said "well THAT'S a pretty sight, isn't it?". I was so shell shocked I didn't say anything back but I wish I had.

The only thing I haven't felt comfortable doing so far is joining my local "yummy mummy" brigade. I've been to a few baby groups but feel horribly out of place amongst all these people driving up in their BMW X5s, talking about their 5 bedroom houses and being bombarded with comments/questions along the lines of "my baby can do this, what can yours do?". I'm quite lucky that some of my own friends have had babies recently (funnily enough there are 4 of us and there are exactly 3 months between each from the oldest to the youngest!) so I don't feel completely isolated!

I get mostly nice and interested comments from people, especially in the last few days with her out and about in the mei tai. People always talk to her before me I love that about being a mum, it's so easy to talk to people about her.

 

[Hazel]

The only thing I haven't felt comfortable doing so far is joining my local "yummy mummy" brigade. I've been to a few baby groups but feel horribly out of place amongst all these people driving up in their BMW X5s, talking about their 5 bedroom houses and being bombarded with comments/questions along the lines of "my baby can do this, what can yours do?".

My mate had this at the school her son goes to. When I would go with her to pick him up I always used to laugh at the "orange lady" who had on too much fake tan .