CH0C0H0LIC
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Going to be a long one so bring a flask and a sandwich!
When I had my son 10y ago, I was suffering from anxiety and depression and had regular panic attacks. My doctor and community psychiatric nurse that I was under informed the labour ward of this and requested that I have a single room with or close to a toilet/shower because of this. I was given a date to be induced and on arrival was given a single room which was all good. I had an awful labour due to the anxiety and I was put on a ward after the birth and struggled to cope. I and my (then)OH kept asking for a single room but it had been given to someone else while I was in the delivery suite. I kept asking my (then) OH to pull curtains round me but midwives kept opening them telling me I was being silly. I was in for two days and couldn't physically leave my bed to shower or go to the toilet and could not eat in front of the other mums. Because of this I discharged myself and was told I couldn't leave without speaking to a social worker - My OH told them where to stick the social worker and we left. Two months later I found out they had had a child protection meeting behind my back because the midwife doubted my ability to look after my baby. Fortunately my comm psyc nurse stuck up for me and explained that my whole stay there would have been completely different had the hospital followed the advice given so I never lost my baby.
Now obviously the pregnancy is moving forward and my anxieties are coming back about going into hospital and due to a new gp and no psyc nurse anymore (so no referral letter) I am worried I'm going to be shoved on a ward again and everything that happened 10y ago will happen again!
I know its too early to ask them what will happen regarding my own room but at what point should I mention it and who to? I don't have a community midwife as I have a lot of appts with hosp due to diabetes etc. My community midwife (if I still saw her) is the one who called me silly and involved the social worker so wouldn't be the best one to speak to anyways!
Sorry about the ramble but it's now all i'm thinking of and I just want to enjoy my pregnancy not fear it.
Sarah xxx
When I had my son 10y ago, I was suffering from anxiety and depression and had regular panic attacks. My doctor and community psychiatric nurse that I was under informed the labour ward of this and requested that I have a single room with or close to a toilet/shower because of this. I was given a date to be induced and on arrival was given a single room which was all good. I had an awful labour due to the anxiety and I was put on a ward after the birth and struggled to cope. I and my (then)OH kept asking for a single room but it had been given to someone else while I was in the delivery suite. I kept asking my (then) OH to pull curtains round me but midwives kept opening them telling me I was being silly. I was in for two days and couldn't physically leave my bed to shower or go to the toilet and could not eat in front of the other mums. Because of this I discharged myself and was told I couldn't leave without speaking to a social worker - My OH told them where to stick the social worker and we left. Two months later I found out they had had a child protection meeting behind my back because the midwife doubted my ability to look after my baby. Fortunately my comm psyc nurse stuck up for me and explained that my whole stay there would have been completely different had the hospital followed the advice given so I never lost my baby.
Now obviously the pregnancy is moving forward and my anxieties are coming back about going into hospital and due to a new gp and no psyc nurse anymore (so no referral letter) I am worried I'm going to be shoved on a ward again and everything that happened 10y ago will happen again!
I know its too early to ask them what will happen regarding my own room but at what point should I mention it and who to? I don't have a community midwife as I have a lot of appts with hosp due to diabetes etc. My community midwife (if I still saw her) is the one who called me silly and involved the social worker so wouldn't be the best one to speak to anyways!
Sorry about the ramble but it's now all i'm thinking of and I just want to enjoy my pregnancy not fear it.
Sarah xxx