Bedtime problem!

[Urchin]

After months of trying to get Brody to sleep better I think I'm just making it worse
Basically, my approach so far has included feeding him as much food and milk as I can in the day to fill him up. This means at night when I put him down he's well and truly stuffed.
The problem is that whan I put him down, he cries, then is sick, so he ends up sleeping with an empty tummy again
Sometimes I've had to resort to rocking him to sleep so he isn't sick, but then he wants me to do that all the time

Anyone else had this problem?

EDIT: As I typed this OH brought him back down cos he was crying too much upstairs!

 

[emilia]

Urchin, I've just been thinking about it for a wee minute....

The one thing that I have been doing with Oscar, is to swaddle him again. I hadn't done it for a while, but now, as soon as I do it, he thinks SLEEP
Perhaps "Sleep Association" is needed again. Decide on the routine and stick to it without fail. Brody might just chance his arm, or maybe he really feels a wee bit out of sinc.
The bedtime routine might be a bit of a nightmare to start. Perservere and comfort as much a possible. I don't feel comfortable (and never have - dispite trying it)in leaving Oscar to cry. He finds it upsetting and as a result, it takes me doubley long to settle him again.

I can only think to say...
1. Re-establish a bedtime routine
2. Create sleep association
3. Consider swaddling Brody whenever you KNOW he's tired. Feed him to sleep if it helps him feel safe and secure. Perhaps prevent him from crying for a while.

I hope this helps. I almost feel as if you're going to have to start from the beginning again. Trust your instincts.

Emilia xx

 

[Urchin]

Thanks Emilia, I'll try and get more of a routine going and see if it helps.
At the moment his routine is
5pm Dinner
7pm bath
7.30 bottle (which he faffs about with for ages, then has about 4oz)

After this I just want him to go to sleep on his own, but with the thing etc I just end up rocking him to sleep. Then he wakes 3-4 times in the night, probably expecting to be rocked to sleep again

He was sick all over himself in his cot tonight, I only put him down for 2 mins, it's not like I let him get worked up

 

[emilia]

When we sleep trained my son (12 years now), I had read that some kids are smart enough to puke in order for you to feel sorry for them and then they'll be lifted. My son did exactly that, and we would go in there.... one changing baby, the other stripping bed. Military operation.

 

[Rosebay]

Oh dear, poor you .

Have you tried feeding him then holding him until he's nearly asleep then putting him in awake but just about to go off? We've been doing the whole rapid return thing with Elliott since the beginning and even though we still have to do it probably every other night it doesn't go on for very long. Sometimes just standing there with my hand on his chest while he's in his cot seems to relax him. I read this book by Elizabeth Pantley called the No Cry Sleep Solution which gave lots of tips, my sister in law has it at the moment otherwise I'd send it to you but I think I got it secondhand on ebay. She has lots of tips whatever stage you're at.

Hope you get through this phase soon!
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p.s. We've just had two months of him flipping onto his front while asleep then yelling when he wakes up a bit and finds himself on his face- on a bad night 4 or 5 times. All you have to do if flip him back but it totally disrupts your sleep to get up go next door and turn him over! This last week he's got much better at flipping back though and actually prefers sleeping on his front- babies are strange!

 

[Lou]

Hi

Isaac has his last bottle about 8ish and whatever he doesn't drink I use to make up baby rice to fill his tummy but I always give him water aswell and its the only time I still wind him. Very rarely he is sick or cries but if he does its usually wind related! It might be something this simple? Maybe you could try gripe water? Or even try infacol before the last feed?

Lou

 

[ToriElla]

I'm hqving a similar problem Urchin http://www.pregnancyforum.co.uk/forum/v ... hp?t=12798

Eva wants to be rocked too. Do you think it could be a phase they are going through? She is waking every few hours and wont go back over unless i cuddle her. Don't know whats going on! x

 

[Lindsay]

Jacob is the same, he won't go down without being rocked to sleep first too - it's very tiring especially as he now weighs 12lb 8ozs!!! He doesn't go down till about 11pm, not for the want of trying earlier!!!

We are putting him in his own bedroom tonight in his cot for the first time as he is too big for his moses basket - it feels strange knowing that he won't be in the room with us, I have got the monitor out ready. I hope that he is ok.

Xxx

 

[Manda]

Abi is the same and she weighs a ton now 21lb i've tried everything feels like we're going backwards