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Hi lovely ladies 
hope you're all well! I've been fairly crap at keeping up with posting but have been reading when I can, so happy to see so many safe arrivals of lovely babies! I've finally got 5 mins so thought I would share my birth story It ended up as an assisted delivery but I still felt it was overall a really positive experience!
My due date was 25th sept, which came and went with NO signs. On the 27th I went for a big long walk and shopping with my mum, followed by bouncing on my ball for 2 hours. I had a pain down my thigh when walking almost like a pulled muscle, but didn't think anything of it. Around 5pm I noticed a tiny bit of blood when I wiped... Tried not to get too excited but hoped this was it! Me and hubby went for a meal at my mums and had a lovely evening. I started to get very mild period-type pains around 8pm... I asked some friends who have children and they said that could be the start, but that things may not start to happen for 24-48 hours, so I managed to go to sleep
Woke at 4am on the 28th sept with stronger pains... These were different to the period pains but not that painful. Woke hubby up but I didn't think much of it at first, went for a wee and tried to go back to sleep, until I realised that they were coming in fairly regular intervals! We started timing around 4.30am and they were 11-12 mins apart but easily bearable. I spent the next couple of hours bouncing on my ball. Around 6am they were quite painful and every 7-8 mins or so, so I got in the bath. This seemed to make them worse, and I could only stay in the bath for about 5 minutes as I hated not being able to move around! Realised that they really bloody hurt now so I rang my mum around 7am, as I wanted both her and hubby present at the birth. By the time she arrived at 7.30 I had started being sick and contractions were coming every 4 mins or so. Rang the labour ward and was told to stay at home, but they increased to every 2-3 mins so rang back and told them we were coming in! Got to hospital around 8.30am where I was told I was 6cm - this made me so happy! Was dreading being told I was only 1cm and sent home!
I got into the birthing pool around 10am and thought it was wonderful! The contractions were painful but at no point did I feel unable to cope. Don't get me wrong, I needed a lot of encouragement from my mum, hubby and midwife and I do remember saying 'I can't do it' quite a few times but overall I felt in control. I was still being sick quite a bit so midwife advised against gas and air as she thought it could make me more sick. Somehow I managed with no pain relief at all except the pool! I was much calmer than I thought I would be, I kept telling myself with each contraction that the pain would pass and trying to breathe through it. My mum and hubby were holding my hand, rubbing my back and splashing me with warm water then fanning me with a sick bowl, as I would be boiling after each contraction and then freezing again!
Around 2.15pm I needed to push. Mw examined me and said I was 9.5cm dilated and to try and hang on a bit longer, which I really tried to do. Started pushing around 2.30pm. I almost enjoyed the pushing, it took the pain of the contractions away! My waters went at some point while I was pushing, and I also felt like I was wee-ing! Around 4.30 midwife suggested I got out of the pool as baby just wasn't coming. I was gutted, I really wanted my water birth but I wanted the baby out even more so I agreed. Got onto the bed and pushed like my life depended on it. Still no pain relief and still no baba. Around 5.30 midwife decided we needed to bring the doctor in, who examined me and said babys head was too big and I would definitely need an epesiotomy, and my options were ventouse, forceps or c-section! That was pretty scary. I had been traumatised by an episode of OBEM with forceps, and knew I didn't want those! Doctor decided to put me on the drip for half an hour to see if I could get babys head down low enough for ventouse. I have never tried so hard at anything in my life than I did pushing for that half an hour! I told them I wanted a c-section as I was scared of being ripped to bits down below. Doc came back and decided that yes, he could use the ventouse. By this point I just wanted baby out and didn't care what they did. They promised me baby would be born within 10 minutes or so if they used ventouse which made me so happy - finally light at the end of the tunnel! I used the gas and air for the first time while he attached the ventouse to babys head - that hurt, and I was glad of the gas and air! Suddenly I was told to push with all my might, and 5 mins later our beautiful baby boy was born at 6pm. I felt like I was being torn in two while the head was coming out, but it only lasted seconds and I felt such a relief when I felt the rest of him be born! He was placed on my chest and I just couldn't believe he was here! He was so gorgeous. He weighed in at a whopping 9lb 9oz - I am usually a size 8, no bloody wonder I couldn't push him out myself!
I needed quite a few stitches and used gas and air for those - I went as high as a kite and kept saying 'I'm a bad mother cos I'm drunk!'. I won't lie, the stitches were the worst part but I had my new baba to cuddle which took my mind off it. After that the rest of the evening is a blur of being so happy! Me and hubby couldn't believe we were finally a little family.
Despite the fact that it ended up fairly traumatic, I still feel I had a really positive experience! I was terrified of giving birth and imagined it to be a horrendous bloodbath but I honestly felt calm and in control for most of the time. If you had told me before that my baby would have been so big and that I would have managed without pain relief for most of the time, I would never have believed you but your body really does take over and you just do it! It really wasn't as bad as I had imagined it to be, and yes I would do it all over again. The doctor and midwives were amazing and really helped reassure me at the end. I am really proud of myself and so in love with little man, can't believe he is here! We are absolutely knackered but he is so worth it I've had a few down days with the baby blues, have been in a fair bit of pain with my stitches and gave up breastfeeding at day 11 as I could only do it lying down due to the pain from my stitches and baby wasn't latching on properly due to my positioning, but I'm feeling better each day now. Our little boy is a delight and makes me and hubby laugh every day, we are so lucky!
I will catch up with you all very soon!
Xxx
hope you're all well! I've been fairly crap at keeping up with posting but have been reading when I can, so happy to see so many safe arrivals of lovely babies! I've finally got 5 mins so thought I would share my birth story It ended up as an assisted delivery but I still felt it was overall a really positive experience!My due date was 25th sept, which came and went with NO signs. On the 27th I went for a big long walk and shopping with my mum, followed by bouncing on my ball for 2 hours. I had a pain down my thigh when walking almost like a pulled muscle, but didn't think anything of it. Around 5pm I noticed a tiny bit of blood when I wiped... Tried not to get too excited but hoped this was it! Me and hubby went for a meal at my mums and had a lovely evening. I started to get very mild period-type pains around 8pm... I asked some friends who have children and they said that could be the start, but that things may not start to happen for 24-48 hours, so I managed to go to sleep
Woke at 4am on the 28th sept with stronger pains... These were different to the period pains but not that painful. Woke hubby up but I didn't think much of it at first, went for a wee and tried to go back to sleep, until I realised that they were coming in fairly regular intervals! We started timing around 4.30am and they were 11-12 mins apart but easily bearable. I spent the next couple of hours bouncing on my ball. Around 6am they were quite painful and every 7-8 mins or so, so I got in the bath. This seemed to make them worse, and I could only stay in the bath for about 5 minutes as I hated not being able to move around! Realised that they really bloody hurt now so I rang my mum around 7am, as I wanted both her and hubby present at the birth. By the time she arrived at 7.30 I had started being sick and contractions were coming every 4 mins or so. Rang the labour ward and was told to stay at home, but they increased to every 2-3 mins so rang back and told them we were coming in! Got to hospital around 8.30am where I was told I was 6cm - this made me so happy! Was dreading being told I was only 1cm and sent home!
I got into the birthing pool around 10am and thought it was wonderful! The contractions were painful but at no point did I feel unable to cope. Don't get me wrong, I needed a lot of encouragement from my mum, hubby and midwife and I do remember saying 'I can't do it' quite a few times but overall I felt in control. I was still being sick quite a bit so midwife advised against gas and air as she thought it could make me more sick. Somehow I managed with no pain relief at all except the pool! I was much calmer than I thought I would be, I kept telling myself with each contraction that the pain would pass and trying to breathe through it. My mum and hubby were holding my hand, rubbing my back and splashing me with warm water then fanning me with a sick bowl, as I would be boiling after each contraction and then freezing again!
Around 2.15pm I needed to push. Mw examined me and said I was 9.5cm dilated and to try and hang on a bit longer, which I really tried to do. Started pushing around 2.30pm. I almost enjoyed the pushing, it took the pain of the contractions away! My waters went at some point while I was pushing, and I also felt like I was wee-ing! Around 4.30 midwife suggested I got out of the pool as baby just wasn't coming. I was gutted, I really wanted my water birth but I wanted the baby out even more so I agreed. Got onto the bed and pushed like my life depended on it. Still no pain relief and still no baba. Around 5.30 midwife decided we needed to bring the doctor in, who examined me and said babys head was too big and I would definitely need an epesiotomy, and my options were ventouse, forceps or c-section! That was pretty scary. I had been traumatised by an episode of OBEM with forceps, and knew I didn't want those! Doctor decided to put me on the drip for half an hour to see if I could get babys head down low enough for ventouse. I have never tried so hard at anything in my life than I did pushing for that half an hour! I told them I wanted a c-section as I was scared of being ripped to bits down below. Doc came back and decided that yes, he could use the ventouse. By this point I just wanted baby out and didn't care what they did. They promised me baby would be born within 10 minutes or so if they used ventouse which made me so happy - finally light at the end of the tunnel! I used the gas and air for the first time while he attached the ventouse to babys head - that hurt, and I was glad of the gas and air! Suddenly I was told to push with all my might, and 5 mins later our beautiful baby boy was born at 6pm. I felt like I was being torn in two while the head was coming out, but it only lasted seconds and I felt such a relief when I felt the rest of him be born! He was placed on my chest and I just couldn't believe he was here! He was so gorgeous. He weighed in at a whopping 9lb 9oz - I am usually a size 8, no bloody wonder I couldn't push him out myself!
I needed quite a few stitches and used gas and air for those - I went as high as a kite and kept saying 'I'm a bad mother cos I'm drunk!'. I won't lie, the stitches were the worst part but I had my new baba to cuddle which took my mind off it. After that the rest of the evening is a blur of being so happy! Me and hubby couldn't believe we were finally a little family.
Despite the fact that it ended up fairly traumatic, I still feel I had a really positive experience! I was terrified of giving birth and imagined it to be a horrendous bloodbath but I honestly felt calm and in control for most of the time. If you had told me before that my baby would have been so big and that I would have managed without pain relief for most of the time, I would never have believed you but your body really does take over and you just do it! It really wasn't as bad as I had imagined it to be, and yes I would do it all over again. The doctor and midwives were amazing and really helped reassure me at the end. I am really proud of myself and so in love with little man, can't believe he is here! We are absolutely knackered but he is so worth it
I've had a few down days with the baby blues, have been in a fair bit of pain with my stitches and gave up breastfeeding at day 11 as I could only do it lying down due to the pain from my stitches and baby wasn't latching on properly due to my positioning, but I'm feeling better each day now. Our little boy is a delight and makes me and hubby laugh every day, we are so lucky!I will catch up with you all very soon!
Xxx
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It's so lovely to hear from you and glad you're experience was more or less positive 
