Hi everyone my little one is 1 week old and i am finding it really hard to cope as he doesnt seem to be sleeping enough.He is awake all night and sleeps for about 4 hours in the day.Whenever i put him down to sleep he crys non stop till i pick him up.I have tried feeding him,changing his nappies,playing with him and leaving him alone but he just wont stop crying and i dont know why.I have asked for help from my midwife but they cant find anything im doing wrong nor is he ill.I am exhausted and want to know if this normal as i dont feel he should cry all day when im not near him.I dont want to pick him up every time he cries as i dont want him getting used to that.has anyone else felt at their wits end and any suggestions
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I'm not sure if its a help but when leorah was a newborn she just couldn't settle flat on her back., it would cause a build up of painful wind. We put a cushion under the matress which helped a bit. She only now is starting to be able to settle on her back.
Or he could be overstimulated/tired. Leorah also gets like this and it really hard to get her to sleep. In fact this is more likely what it is bless him.
Have you tried wearing a sling? He probably just misses being close to Mum! It wont spoil him at this age to be carried a lot and he will definitely fall asleep in the sling.
Its really stressful to hear your baby cry, I hope you can find a solution soon
Or he could be overstimulated/tired. Leorah also gets like this and it really hard to get her to sleep. In fact this is more likely what it is bless him.
Have you tried wearing a sling? He probably just misses being close to Mum! It wont spoil him at this age to be carried a lot and he will definitely fall asleep in the sling.
Its really stressful to hear your baby cry, I hope you can find a solution soon
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Hi Hun
I understand how stressful and exhausting this can be.
When Gabriella was born it seemed to me like she was crying a lot and I also found it very exhausting.
Obviously go with your own instincts but I always feel that they are crying because they want/need something and this may be that he just wants a cuddle. Remember he has been nicely tucked up in your warm womb for 9 months and now he is in the outside world and that must be big and scary to him. I believe that you can't spoil a new baby so if he wants a hug give it to him. The sling idea from SKatty is a good idea.
It does get better, I found as soon as Gabriella could see more she was much more content (although believe me she still has her moments).
Good luck hun and hope it all settles down
I understand how stressful and exhausting this can be.
When Gabriella was born it seemed to me like she was crying a lot and I also found it very exhausting.
Obviously go with your own instincts but I always feel that they are crying because they want/need something and this may be that he just wants a cuddle. Remember he has been nicely tucked up in your warm womb for 9 months and now he is in the outside world and that must be big and scary to him. I believe that you can't spoil a new baby so if he wants a hug give it to him. The sling idea from SKatty is a good idea.
It does get better, I found as soon as Gabriella could see more she was much more content (although believe me she still has her moments).
Good luck hun and hope it all settles down
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I agree completely. If he cries and needs comforting don't worry about spoiling him, you won't at that age. Ellie suffered from colic from about 2-3 weeks old until she turned 3 months, when it thankfully stopped. Although she still screamed while we held her, it was even worse if we put her down. So we held her as much as she needed. Now the colic has passed she barely cries, she goes down beautifully for naps, and to sleep and will sit happily for a bit in her chair while I do things like the washing up. I hope it last 
I know how hard it is especially when they have been crying most the day and then can't settle after their 3:30am feed, at it is 5am and you are absolutely shattered. Good luck.
NB We found the noise from the vacuum cleaner helped calm her, you could try that for a bit?
I know how hard it is especially when they have been crying most the day and then can't settle after their 3:30am feed, at it is 5am and you are absolutely shattered. Good luck.
NB We found the noise from the vacuum cleaner helped calm her, you could try that for a bit?
How are you Mrs H have been thinking about you a lot
I also thought have you tried swaddling? Leorah spent the first few weeks of her life in a swaddle gor bag type of thing. We also held her nearly all the time and after so many sleepless nights I began co-sleeping. In fact she went to her own room in her own big cot from a week ago. We still have problems in the early evening when she wants to snuggle up to Mum or Dad and get herself to sleep but i truely believe she doesn't mind being in her own room now because she knows one of us is always there if she needs us. Being there for your baby now will encourage independence rather than spoil him I'm sure.
Is Mr H home with you for a few weeks? You have to find what works for you but me and my DH slept apart as I was breastfeeding and thought there is no point us both having sleepless nights. This meant he was fresh in the day and would and still does when he's not working take Leorah out for long walks in the pram between feeds. Nearly all babies sleep when going for a walk.
Please look after yourself too, its a very emotional time and not getting sleep makes everything a million times worst. I have and still have some really rough days and nights. I have decided to use my instincts more and sod the books. Some have some great tips but all babies are different. For example most say let your baby get itself to sleep, Leorah is not ready for that yet and I don't believe that just because she falls asleep with us she wont be able to in the future, she already does it after her night feeds. The more you get to know your baby the more you will understand him. Its hard though isn't it? I am still often in tears but its getting better all the time.
Remember you will always be able to get lots of support on here
I also thought have you tried swaddling? Leorah spent the first few weeks of her life in a swaddle gor bag type of thing. We also held her nearly all the time and after so many sleepless nights I began co-sleeping. In fact she went to her own room in her own big cot from a week ago. We still have problems in the early evening when she wants to snuggle up to Mum or Dad and get herself to sleep but i truely believe she doesn't mind being in her own room now because she knows one of us is always there if she needs us. Being there for your baby now will encourage independence rather than spoil him I'm sure.
Is Mr H home with you for a few weeks? You have to find what works for you but me and my DH slept apart as I was breastfeeding and thought there is no point us both having sleepless nights. This meant he was fresh in the day and would and still does when he's not working take Leorah out for long walks in the pram between feeds. Nearly all babies sleep when going for a walk.
Please look after yourself too, its a very emotional time and not getting sleep makes everything a million times worst. I have and still have some really rough days and nights. I have decided to use my instincts more and sod the books. Some have some great tips but all babies are different. For example most say let your baby get itself to sleep, Leorah is not ready for that yet and I don't believe that just because she falls asleep with us she wont be able to in the future, she already does it after her night feeds. The more you get to know your baby the more you will understand him. Its hard though isn't it? I am still often in tears but its getting better all the time.
Remember you will always be able to get lots of support on here
Our baby isn't born yet, but I'm really concerned about the crying. We've bought a slumber bear for it that has got really good reviews, might be of interest if the other methods mentioned above dont work. There's some info on it here: http://www.babysleepshop.com/acatalog/Slumber_Bear.html We found one in our local John Lewis.
Great tips from Skatty - I agree with you, it seems like such a huge change to have to go through.
Great tips from Skatty - I agree with you, it seems like such a huge change to have to go through.
Gingerpig that looks great! Wish I'd seen that before! My baby doesn't like anything that plays those baby tunes so we don't put on her mobile or rocker chair but I have bought a white noise CD though she doesn't like the hoover at all! If it rains in the day I wrap her up in her snowsuit and let her sleep in the conservatory in her pram, she loves the noise of the rain on the roof. Its so hard because you just don't know what your baby will like and not like and then it also changes as they grow. That bear covers all the options, in fact I wonder if I should drop some hints for Xmas as I don't think I could get it here in Denmark.
Your baby will be here before you know it Gingerpig
Your baby will be here before you know it Gingerpig
Ooooooo well I'm glad you think it looks so good! It's quite lightweight, so should be easy to wrap and post to Denmark That shop I posted the link from also does overseas shipping. We've already listened to the noises it plays and they are very soothing - what I like is that you can start with the womb noise, and and the move to white noise and then the sea noise as baby gets older. Apparently I've got quite good pitch in musical terms, and I find some of those baby music things really awful to listen to, quite painful, so I'm never surprised if babies have a hard time with them lol.
That shop I posted the link from also does overseas shipping. We've already listened to the noises it plays and they are very soothing - what I like is that you can start with the womb noise, and and the move to white noise and then the sea noise as baby gets older. Apparently I've got quite good pitch in musical terms, and I find some of those baby music things really awful to listen to, quite painful, so I'm never surprised if babies have a hard time with them lol.Thanks for everyones ideas i actually had a good night last night with my son.He woke up 3 times at night but after feeding and changing he went back to sleep.i feel i am getting somewhere now.
My husband is a great help and i feel he is coping with our sons crying better than me.Im determined to have a good night tonight again
My husband is a great help and i feel he is coping with our sons crying better than me.Im determined to have a good night tonight again
That's great Mrs H! Yes men can cope with the crying better but that's because tour baby crying releases a hormone in the Mum that is something to do with nurturing and breastfeeding! My DH also copes much better!
I'm glad to hear your little man is getting used to the big world, give him a cuddle from me and Leorah
I'm glad to hear your little man is getting used to the big world, give him a cuddle from me and Leorah
