Arguments

[cassi]

I knew someone for years as friends, we are both very stubborn and very alike with certain things.

A few months ago he came over with a friend of mine for dinner, just a friendly thing but I realised I quite liked spending time with him, but thought nothing more about it, with uni, troubles with Jakob's dad etc I did not have the time to think about a relationship, especially since we argued quite often about stupid little things. 6 weeks ago he helped me when I went to pick up a car and I realised that I felt for him more than a friend, so things changed that day, things were really nice but then the silly little arguments came back, ridiculous little things, then 5 minutes later we would be acting like nothing had happened and be fine again.

But the other day we had a a stupid little argument on the phone that escalated and he ended it.

We have spoken again and he does not want to walk away from it all but he doesnt thing things could change.

I think they could, I think that feeling that hurt that he ended it made me realise where we were going wrong and what needs to change and it made me realise how much he meant to me, which can make people better together, or am i deluding myself?

Veiws please ladies

 

[Lou]

Sounds like its worth giving it a shot! Tell him how you feel Can't really say much more because I don't know what it is you argue about and theres always 2 sides to every story so maybe he has issues that he needs to deal with?

Hope it works out the way you want

 

[bonny]

I agree tell him how you feel, but make sure he is willing to change as well and your not always giving in to him for the sake of not causing an argument, because that wouldnt work either hun.

Hope you get it sorted though.

 

[trixipaws]

I think that feeling that hurt that he ended it made me realise where we were going wrong and what needs to change and it made me realise how much he meant to me, which can make people better together, or am i deluding myself?

no thats how i always feel when me and OH argue. our relationship has been volatile to say the least. but i think thats made us stronger! check out my sig

i think about all the people iv NEVER argued with- colleagues etc. and then the people i HAVE argued with- best friends, family, boyf- the more i care for someone the more we argue! there's nothing to argue about if u dont care about someone's opinions or actions. i wouldnt define a relationship as serious until its had its first tiff!

like the others hav said, talk to him. communication is really important, iv kinda learned that the long-winded way

 

[cassi]

Thought I would update this and say thankyou for the replies . I did read them a while ago but was in a rush and didnt have time to reply and dont get much time to come on lots these days.

All is much better now, we got back together "per se" we are seeing how it goes so nothing official, but it has been much better now and we have only had a few tiny little arguments and instead of dragging them into something really bad we seem to be able to stop and say what the f*** are we arguing with eachother about something so meaningless and petty for then we laugh and stop....which is good

Love spending time together and its much nicer with things how they are now, i think we have realised we needed to put a line between when we were mates and how it is now, and also remember that other "new relationships" are often people that havnt known eachother for ages so we are really comfortable with eachother which means we arnt too shy to whinge at eachother if need be. So i guess being that comfortable with eachother is good in ways but bad in that respect.

Anyway not usually one to put relationship info out to public but hopefully this can make other people see that anything can work if it's wanted enough!!!

xxxx

 

[mamichuli]

glad things are working out for you

Lisa x