ARGG the inlaws are desending tonight *shock*

[glitzyglamgirl]

OMG

Now ive already met his mum, dad, sister and her kids, and his brother. But his brother and his wife and kids have decided to pay us a visit tonight for a couple of days. Yeha nice one, cos like...we dont work or anything and dont need to sort out the spare room or anything do we, just visit us from scotland at the drop of a hat, use our house as a hotel why dont you

Ive already been warned by his mother that his brothers wife is a bit of a nightmare, gobby and rude etc. The kids are apparantly ok and well behaved though lol

Oh this should be fun.

I always feel odd around his family as they are all muslim and seem to look down thier nose at me because im not...well niether is OH but that fact seems to escape them They talk about me in Urdu aswell, I can hear my name but not understand what they are saying

 

[muppetmummy]

oh dear! To talk to you in a language they know you can't understand seems a bit rude! Good luck, I don't envy you!

 

[jenna]

Thats not fair, id ask them to leave if i were you You cant go to some ones house and start chatting and leave them out.


Hope it goes alright hun

 

[skairdykat]

I'm afraid I'd have to tell them. It's just disrespectful to talk in another language about you when they know you don't understand them. I'd ahve to tell them either they respect you and speak in English or don't come at all.

 

[glitzyglamgirl]

I didnt mind so much when his mum did it as I know she doesnt speak any english atall and I could tell by the tone she wasnt being nasty and she kept smiling and nodding at me trying to communicate, actually hes mum is adorable, but his dad and sister can speak perfect english so there was no excuse!

I know his brother speaks perfect english too and so does his wife and kids apparantly, so if there is any urdu going on I will ask them politely to speak in english when im in the room so I can get involved in their conversations.

What annoys me more than anything is last time, when it was his mum and dad, sister and her kids, they treated our house like WE were the guests, even moving furniture around to how they liked it, refusing to let me cook or clean, (which wasnt so bad lol) and they basically treat it as thier holiday home for when they have to visit wales or bristol for business or whatever. Thats what annoys me as they dont ask if we can put them up, they tell us!

 

[jenna]

Pretend your not in till they go away, then ina few weeks time go to there house unannounced, say sorry and you really want to spend time with them so here you are

 

[budge]

I always feel odd around his family as they are all muslim and seem to look down thier nose at me because im not...well niether is OH but that fact seems to escape them They talk about me in Urdu aswell, I can hear my name but not understand what they are saying

oh dear how rude ill keep my gob shut

 

[OopsyDaisy]

Your situation is reminding me of a book I read recently - Divide Loyalties by Patricia Scanlan.

Good luck!!!

 

[Vicki83]

God, all i can say is good luck!

 

[glitzyglamgirl]

thanks everyone, they'll be here in about an hour and ive just worked up a sweat making sure the house is spotless and they have fresh beds etc, now they can only complain that I stink but atleast the house doesnt

 

[violet-glow]

Maybe when they knock on the door you should pretend your not in lol.

Id hate it if my OHs family talked to each other in a different lang. That seems really rude to me.

If you need a break you can always go to the park and feed the ducks. Just tell them you have 'forgotten' to do something very important for work and you wont be long

Let us know how its going xx

 

[laetitia85]

eerm... good luck! make sure u let us know how it goes

 

[kazlin]

It a bit out of order isn't it, that would really get on my pip!

Just try to grin and bear it huni, maybe ask OH to ask them in a pleasant and descreet way if they could talk in Engish when you are around. If it comes from him then it shouldn't cause any friction between you and 'gobby' wife!

You know where I am

xxxxx

 

[glitzyglamgirl]

Hey kaz, im calling you on saturday for that long awaited catch up so you better be ready

Anyway, it went ok actually! I like his brother, hes pretty realxed and easy going, his wife was actually quite nice if a little shy (I can see how it could have been taken for arrogance though) and the kids are adorable!

They were very respectful and nothing like his parents who take over, and they gave us some gorgous gifts from pakistan - a wooden fruit bowl that is made from one piece of wood and cut around like a spiral so when its on legs it kind of falls down to form the bowl, if that makes sense, and this big wooden wall hanging with 100 symbols carved on it which are apprantly all the names for allah. They said we should hang it upstairs in respect for Allah, I'll go along with it for thier sake and out of respect for them but im not converting

 

[leckershell]

I always feel odd around his family as they are all muslim and seem to look down thier nose at me because im not...well niether is OH but that fact seems to escape them They talk about me in Urdu aswell, I can hear my name but not understand what they are saying

oh dear how rude ill keep my gob shut

Ditto!

Glad it went alright for you though, that would have been an uncomfortable situation to be in otherwise..

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[HappyAlice]

Glad it went OK - they sound great to me! Must be very interesting learning about their culture

 

[glitzyglamgirl]

Glad it went OK - they sound great to me! Must be very interesting learning about their culture

they are and it is very interesting as id like our child to know as much about it as possible, Ive come to the conclusion its just his dad and sister that are the problem in-laws and the rest are great

 

[kazlin]

Yep, I'll be free

Will be at mums in the morning, but I can either phone you there or when I get back around 3ish. So glad it's going well mate, oh and the only convertable you will get close to is your car!

 

[glitzyglamgirl]

Yep, I'll be free

Will be at mums in the morning, but I can either phone you there or when I get back around 3ish. So glad it's going well mate, oh and the only convertable you will get close to is your car!

text me when your back from your mums and I'll give you a ring xx