Apparently Im boring!

[mrs_tommo22]

Was very upset by this comment off my supposed friend. Im boring because i know the babys sex and have a name for her.
Surely its polite to keep opinions like that to yourself.

I explained that for personal reasons i wanted to know the babys sex, and if i hadnt of known the sex i wouldnt have been able to bond with my unborn baby the way i have ( agin my opinion) and plan my little girls future and by the coloured clothes etc.

Maybe i am boring, but i did the same with my first baby and no one said nothing there, is it the whole i should be more patiant with this pregnancy? the answer to that is i dint think so. Its as exciting and magical to me as my first one.

So that friend wont be gettting a invite to the naming ceremony

 

[lmarszall]

We know the sex and name.

We have told everyone it is a boy but kept the name to ourselves.

People all have an opinion especially about things like finding out the sex and we have had people saying stuff like that. Or being horrible because 'they' didn't find out. But i don't care i had loads of reasons i wanted know and like you its helped us bond with him.

Don't worry about it hun

Lau
x

 

[Vicki & Nathan]

i dont think your boring at all, i know the sex of mine and have a name for him too

 

[Vickyleigh]

What a nasty friend! In that case we must all be boring!!!

We wanted to know the sex and what name to give her as soon as we could because we wanted her to have her own little identity (if that makes sense)
Even though we haven't decided on a name (we can't agree on one) we don't want to wait until she's born to name her, she is still our baby and we want to be able to call her a proper name instead of just baby.

 

[Nicola]

What a thing to say....we know the sex and have decided on a name too. I guess were boring too!!

 

[FeeFee]

OOOOO

Can i join the boring club too please,

 

[Baileysmummy]

What a thing to say....we know the sex and have decided on a name too. I guess were boring too!!

ditto.. but like you sarah i needed to fnd out for sleeping arrnagments and clothes.. tell ya friend where to go, does she have children? maybe she doenst undertand the needs to know these things.. dont worry about it babes,

ps my mum said i was boring too...

 

[mrs_tommo22]

All my family and close friends know shes called phoebe and have said its a beautiful name and it suits her (we had 4d scan and saw her face) and have been very supportive and lovely.

But my friend, a so called good friend, goes and says that.

I am very hurt by it.

Thanks for what you have said though girls, we know why we do these things and why should we have to explain.

 

[Vicki & Nathan]

exactly you shouldnt have to explain yourself. may i ask does this friend have children?

 

[Nicola]

OOOOO

Can i join the boring club too please,

Yes!! The more the merrier!! It's nice to be boring together!!

Sarah: I think Phoebe is a lovely name....I do wonder why people have to make comments like that sometimes I really do, it's perhaps one of those "nothing" comments to them but honestly think before you speak type thing.

 

[FeeFee]

 

[mrs_tommo22]

Shes up the duff with the rest of us and has turned into a right snooty cow,she has to be right all the time and sits there with her DH james and say they couldnt possibly find out the babys sex, would 'spoil' their surprise.
Well i said to them thats upto you.

As for the preaching, surely as a mum already i should do it to her lol!

Cant believee this is the girl i taught to smoke behinf the bike sheds!

Her hubbys form public school and his mummy and daddy are loaded, shes going along with it all.

But why be nasty?

 

[Baileysmummy]

No theres no need for it sarah, she will understand if she has any more kids..

 

[mrs_tommo22]

Thanks SSS nice to know i havce some mates on here that dont think im a boring miserable cow.

 

[Nicola]

Spoiling the surprise? I think not.
Your just choosing to have the surprise earlier that's all.
You'll either have a surprise at the 20 week scan or a surprise at the 40 week delivery....what's the difference other than those who know in advance can plan our appropriate names, decorate the nursery in more appropriate colours, buy clothes that are not just cream or lemon etc!! I don't think it's the slightest bit boring to know in advance, actually I think it's even more exciting....I've LOVED every second of knowing I'm having a boy, the clothes shopping, bonding reasons, nursery accessories etc. How on earth can pure excitement be boring? She's nutty as a fruit cake I think her pregnancy hormones have gone to her head to say things like that!!

 

[pigletpoo]

OOh, I'm boring too then!

My OH's Sister in Law in PG and due 5 days before me - and she has said to him (because she won't speak to me like the rest of his family)

"I don't believe in finding out the sex and if I am going through all that then I want a surprise at the end of it all!"

And he listened to her and reported back to me! As you can imagine I hit the roof!! After we had our gender scan at 16weeks my OH phoned his mother to tell her the news, and she cut him off and said she didn't believe in knowing the sex!

People are so rude!! Grrrrrr!!! It is down to personal choice at the end of the day, try not to let it get to you

Piglet xx

 

[*saulino*]

Hi

Im boring too
Some poeple just cant keep thier mouths shut i always get comments like aww why did you find out the sex, why does it matter
Just ignore her hun and tell her if she dont like it too bad!!
Katrina

 

[SarahJJ]

I've not found out the sex of my baby, but there is no way I think anyone that has is the slightest bit boring!! Fair play to anyone who has in fact. It's just my choice, as it is your choice to go and find out. We're lucky to have the choice and that's the whole point, everyone is different. What would be boring is if we were all the same. She sounds like a silly cow. You just go ahead and enjoy the rest of your pregnancy and don't worry about her stupid comments. If anything when pregnant we learn who the decent friends really are! I could compile a book of stupid comments I have received since I got pregnant. Some people are idiots!!!

 

[mamichuli]

Why is it that pregnancy creates this need in everone around a pregnant woman to have opinons about absolutely everything! From naming, to finding out the sex, to deciding on the type of birth you should have, to cloth nappies or disposable
If you think about it, it's really wierd, at no other time in my life have more people given out as much free, unwanted advice!
Poor Sarah, I feel for you, it is very much up to you to make all and any decisions regarding your little one. I suggest you just ignore this "friend"

Lisa

 

[mrs_tommo22]

This morning i run into her at antenatal and told her that her comments were unwanted and unessacery and what more it was personal choice that i wanted to know i was having a daughter. Her jaw hit the floor, but she did apologise!