Anyone thought abt giving birth?

[kedi376]

I always thought I was good with pain until I had the last miscarriage. The medical management had me on the bathroom floor for two hours in absolute agony. The pain was coming every minute in waves and I can only describe it like I would expect labour to be. Eventually OH took me to the hospital and I was giving pethadine which helped a lot.

I'd like to think I could breathe the pain away during labour and channel it into the right direction but I'm not so sure anymore. Who knows eh?

 

[cosmicgirl]

That's what I'm going to try and I hope it's true!
I'm worried that it won't work because I know the intensity of the pain but I'm going to give it my best shot x

 

[kedi376]

That's what I'm going to try and I hope it's true!
I'm worried that it won't work because I know the intensity of the pain but I'm going to give it my best shot x

I'd have thought with the number of babies you've had you could give a couple of coughs and baby would be here? Does it not get easier with each one then?

 

[cosmicgirl]

Hahaha if only eh
No, it hasn't got easier for me, in fact my last delivery was the worst of them all (but that was a twin delivery so not really comparable).
My second singleton delivery was just as hard and long as the first.
I believe labour gets shorter for lots, not for me though.
I think it can be harder when you know the pain that's coming too. I know what I'm in for.
One thing that has changed is my mind. I'm hoping I can zone out to an extent. We'll soon see x

 

[kedi376]

Yeah I would imagine if you really know what's coming its got to make the anticipation a lot worse. I do think if you can stay calm and control the breathing the pain can help your body do what it's supposed to do.

The one thing I do know is the pain I got from the mc may have been made worse because I knew I was losing baby. At least this time I know it means I'll soon be meeting baby.

Does having the OH there help? I suspect my OH will just not know what to do with himself and will actually irritate me a little.

 

[cosmicgirl]

It is great support, I wouldn't want to do it without oh. You do have to tell them exactly what you want and don't want thought, that changed constantly and they need to understand that. One minute you'll want your back rubbed, the next you won't want anyone to touch you. They can't take it personally x

 

[kedi376]

I really don't know how my OH will cope. He doesn't have a great attention span, but I wouldn't want anyone else to be there. I guess time will tell.

 

[cosmicgirl]

My oh has the patience and attention span of a gnat!
I let him watch the tv, get him mags and let him play on his phone - keeps him occupied and out of my way while I get on with it. Although he is called upon for support when needed.
I also have my sister as a birth partner, she's more attentive x

 

[kedi376]

I watched an episode of OBEM and there was a Turkish guy on it. Everytime the wife started screaming in pain he left the room. Luckily she has a friend with her too. He came back for the main event but just kept leaving the room. As OH is Turkish he has joked this is what he will be doing. I'd seriously hurt him if he event attempted to leave the room!!

I've already spoken to OH about packing a bag for him with snacks and toys to keep him occupied. I know he'll be ok with the blood, he started training as a doctor years ago but gave up, so he can cope with the gross stuff.

 

[Lolly85x]

I'm actually excited about the whole labour thing! People think I'm in denial...
Its my 1st, and have no idea what to expect, but I can't wait to feel the contractions, see how my body reacts... Like everyone has said we dont know how it will pan out, but I think being as relaxed as possible will be an advantage...
I'd like to try and go for natural labour. Using the ball, and a tens machine at home, then hopefully some gas and air and id love to be able to get in the pool... I'm not saying no to an epidural, will need to wait and see... But I really really don't want diamorphine... Have got a leaflet about a painkiller that's put in your had through iv and you top up when needed, like a mini epidural, definetly going to look into this more!xxx

 

[CARNAT22]

My OH is still asking me "are you sure you want me to be there?"

Yes I fecking well do.....

For anyone that is scared of even the thought of labour I would 100% recommend picking up the Marie Mongan Hypnobirthing book.

I have only read a little so far but I am so excited about it.

The premise if the book is that giving birth is a natural process, a process a bodies and are designed to do and that without fear all women can have a painfree and calm labour.

Fear is our enemy and makes is physically harder for our bodies to give birth (when you are seriously afraid your body effectively shuts down and blood flow to non essential organs - including the uterus - becomes restricted making it more painful to birth when we are terrified!)

The book really resonates with me, I am so excited already to meet my bambino and I am not scared of anything that will get me to that point!

xxxxxxxxxxxx

 

[cosmicgirl]

I was petrified giving birth to the twins, I mean stiff with fear! My pulse rate was through the roof and I was in a state of panic. I can honestly say that it was the most painful labour I've had.
It's so true about fear = more pain x

 

[poppypd]

Totally recommend hypnobirthing and tens. I got to 6cms at home with total focus on breathing and visualisation. Was 8cms when I got to hospital and then had some gas and air on the pushing part. I just wasn't prepared to feel so weak afterwards (maybe because I laboured in the night with no sleep) the hypnobirthing gave me confidence and a purpose and also made me feel confident my body could do it. I was mentally prepared for interventions if it didn't go to plan though and think this is important as my friend thought it was going to be straight forward and baby had unexpectedly turned breech (after being head down for ages) and ended with a section. She said she was a bit traumatised by it.

 

[mrswoody]

I don't know how I feel about labour yet. I've had moments of sheer terror and then excitement. I originally wanted to give birth with no pain relief, not even gas and air! But the more labour crimes a reality I think I may need something. I can handle pain very well so I think I am just going to have to go with the flow. I would rather not have an Epi as I want to feel and experience everything I can. Labour can't be so bad otherwise we wouldn't have more than one baby
My hubby can be a bit distracted and a bit useless sometimes so hopefully he will be able to keep himself entertained with his kindle and phone! Which I say now but when I'm in labour I will probably be peeved at him for not running my back or something! Lol I did get him a book called a guide to be a dad which came highly recommended and he said has a lot of information in it x

 

[fresh]

Not sure how I feel about it yet, was terrified in Tri1 but now fears about babies health will hopefully help me overcome fears about my own labour
I'd like to think I can do it by myself, but I do tend to panic

I have a heart problem with tachycardia (high pulse) too so think they may want to intervene with planned C section

 

[cosmicgirl]

I was tachycardic throughout labour because I suffer panic attacks. Maybe hypnobirthing would really help you??
You can do it! x

 

[fresh]

Hope so, I'm doing yoga with a lady who does birthing partnering, wish I could afford to book her for the birth cos think she would help no end, she is drumming it in about breathing and how we can get through it all without panicking
read a bit about hypnobirthing going out of the window after a few contractions, however, will get that book you mentioned

Guess I'm worried my dodgy heart valve will pack up half way through labour

 

[cosmicgirl]

You'll be monitored throughout for your heart. I remember seeing a lady on one born every min who had a heart issue like you, she was well looked after and they kept an eye on her heart throughout labour xxx

 

[fresh]

Very good to know, at least I know I'll be in the right place

 

[vixxie77]

I am a bit scared about labour this time, as it was so awful last time! 37 hours from first pain to giving birth then my placenta got stuck and had to have manual removal, which in itself was ok. The pain was a lot worse initially than I thought it would be too. I'm so hoping that I will be one of the lucky ones where labour gets easier every time lol. Have got birthing pool for at home this time for pain relief, so hoping that will help. I'm not sure that fear had anything to do with how bad my pain was really, it was just bloody terrible all by itself lol x x