ANYONE ELSE FEELING.................

[emma1976]

Tired all the time and also feeling a bit down. I keep worrying what if I get ill and then Jaydens dad takes her away up North (i'm from Gloucestershire/Bristol and he's from Yorkshire) if something happens to me. As most know we aren't together, he sees her once a week more than twice now, gets impatient with her and generally has no bloody heart and to be honest is just a father not a daddy! I got upset with him one day and said I didn't want her going up there if anything happened. He said she would, his mum or sister wuld have her whilst he was at work all the time or he would put her in nursery! I mean I know that won't be allowed but is anyone else worrying what if.....something happend to them. I think maybe I am feeling like this cos of losing mum when I was 11 and would never want the same thing happening to her. Plus that fact it would finish my dad off if her dad took her away only to dump her on everyone else and carry on with his party lifestyle! He would never want the responsibility of a baby but it makes him look like a man cos he is a father!! It's really starting to bother me. Plus the fact I am tired all the time so maybe that's not helping xx

 

[emilia]

I'm really sorry that you're feeling this way. I don't know your circumstances very well, but I can feel the fear you're experiencing. I think it's very normal to think more about our mortality when we have dependants. At times, I'm overcome with fear and concern for my children as I don't have a very close family to rely on.

But, I am a born worrier. It has taken me quite some time and focussing to trust the path of my life. We have to enjoy our time here today. Easier said than done, I know. You must try and be realistic about the situation. Explore your options. does your child have godparents? Take out a life insurance policy. Make a will - discuss all posibilities with a solicitor or go to CAB. Maybe your childs father doesn't neccessarily have the right to take her - ask as many questions as you can!!!

We all have that fear that no one will ever be able to bring up, or love, our bunnies like we do. But learn to trust your life, enjoy all the moments, as fear in itself, can erode our spirits.
You've had a devastating experience when your mum died - you were so young. It is bound to make you anxious, something I could take for granted.
Don't worry so much. Try and built a few bridges and focus all your energy on yourself and your baby. All that worrying will exhaust you physically and emotionally. Be kind to yourself. Join a meditation group - could do wonders to divert all the negative thoughts!

I hope you feel better - make a cuppa, get some choccie and watch a good comedy. A good laugh can really help!!
Thinking of you
Emilia xx

 

[lauramumof2]

Hiya,
I too could feel the fear in that post. There were a lot of what if;s in it and you cant go through your life like that. I agree with Emilia, go and see a solicitor and find out your position. Are you on good terms with the ex, would he understand your fears.

Have you spoken to the hv because if Im honest you sound as if you have symptoms of depression and thats not a critisism.

Try not to worry, we cant change what is meant to be.

 

[*saulino*]

Hi

Sorry you feel this way but im sure everything will turn out for the best and its very understandable why your feeling liek this after your mom.
Do you have a written thing who your daughetr will go with if not you should get this done for if anything did happen.
Does she have god parents cuz they would have just as much rights wouldnt they?

Hope your okay ,
Katrina

 

[emma1976]

Thank you. I think I am just a born worrier as well. I am sure all wil be OK

 

[lauramumof2]

theres nothing wrong with worrying over the wellbeing of your child but dont let it take over your life. If ever you need to talk over your worries there are always folks on here and feel free to pm me.