anyone else feel like they will have to compete for their own childs time?

[keepontrying]

I cant help but worry.

My own mother has said 'I plan on being around a lot when the baby is born'... she means A LOT. What I want to say in response is... why bother you basically cut the cord and I was on my own, you can bloody well wait to be invited.
Additional to this she has said ' I think this baby is mine, if its a girl the eggs in her ovaries are what I gave her'... my response here was actually ' WHAT? do you realise how crazed you sound, this is MY baby not yours'

MIL - (we are moving in to a studio bungalow at the bottom of their garden temporarily due to financial issues.)
'You cant have the baby till after april 18th because i cant take any leave from work' - errr why would you feel like you need to take leave from work???? please leave us to it!
'I did want to work full time again but i wont now so i can spend mondays and fridays with the baby every week'.....
' stay for much longer than the 6 months because then I can have the baby for 2 years'
'I dont know what your take is but **** makes her mum call and plan if they ever want to come and see their grandchild because of its routine i think thats terrible' (so you want to descend on us whenever you see fit regardless of our routine and plans and wants???)
'dont give up your career, take it from me, you will regret it - you should go back to work and I will have the baby with me'

SIL2B - 'Im so happy your moving in and we will see the baby every day' (she doesnt even live there)

I already feel like i will compete for time with my own child, i dont want people there each day I want to enjoy our little family - me Oh and baby... the 3 of us!!!!

i think i may blow my top shortly after baby comes

 

[Rachaellius]

Oh gosh that doesn't sound good at all hunny.
It'll be fantastic to have family around for support but they also need to understand that you, your OH and baby need time to settle into a routine and bond together.
I hate to say it and I know it can be difficult where family are concerned but your just gonna have to be blunt with them and say you appreciate they're excited at the prospect of having a grandchild and want to help but that you need time to yourselves too.
xx

 

[BabyBrain]

Thankfully there are so many kids in our herd that the novelty has worn off a bit. It's only if Podge turns out to be a girl that they will be all over us but at the end of the day with a good stout lock on the INSIDE you don't have to let them in!
Tell them to back off....all of them. Tell them now and get it out of the way. If they then give you the guilt trip and it causes rows you can back down a little and blame your hormones xxxxxxx

 

[Nurse 26]

Oh dear, they sound very overbearing, i would try not to worry, get hubby to have a word with the MIL and SIL and tell them that you will need your own space but will be very grateful of their help when its needed.

I have the same worries but luckily we live 200miles away from both sets of our parents so its not going to be too much trouble

 

[leannesxb]

Thankfully there are so many kids in our herd that the novelty has worn off a bit. It's only if Podge turns out to be a girl that they will be all over us but at the end of the day with a good stout lock on the INSIDE you don't have to let them in!
Tell them to back off....all of them. Tell them now and get it out of the way. If they then give you the guilt trip and it causes rows you can back down a little and blame your hormones xxxxxxx

I'm with you here. Theres been tons of babes in our family so the novelty has worn off though since there hasn't been a girl in 16 years if this ends up being a girl everyones gonna be getting involved. I was very quiet when I had dylan and never said when people were being over powering or interfering but I am older and wiser (and gobbier!!) so I shall tell them when they piss me off. lol

 

[BevG]

lol sounds hectic, so far it seems like only my OH and me are really interested in our baby, my mum will love it and happily babysit but shes not threatening to visit more, or even visiting me more now lol

 

[RachelJ]

bless you - just stick to your guns x