Another Nephew - born last night

[star fish]

My husband is one of four and they all have kids except us. His mum rang last night and went on and on and on about his brother having just had another baby, on speaker phone so we could both be heard being thrilled, a boy this time, so now they have one of each, how fortunate for them.

Obviously his brothers baby isnt unexpected! We did actually know he was about to have one, but after we hung up the phone we both just sat there looking at each other sharing a moment of feeling sad and kind of low and a that its bit of a kick in the teeth having recently lost our first pregnancy.

Oh well, I'm sure we'll be over it by the time we see the baby, but just wanted to get it off my chest so I dont dwell on it. I hate being miz, I'm such a cheerful person normally, there is almost nothing that phazes me, but this TTC thing is bringing me right down sometimes.....

 

[LouiseB]

Aww Starfish

It's horrible that mutual feeling of sadness and injustice...

It was like that when me and hubby opened up a christmas card with my cousins BFP Announcement in it.

Everyone else was just ripping open cards and presents and me, hubby and my mum (who knows we need IVF) just seemed to fall silent. It really took the wind out of me. It was sureal, like in slow motion.

It must have been really intense with you having had your mc

 

[star fish]

Thanks LB. Yeah, its a bit bad timing, but at least its not like they could help it.

My neighbour on the other hand, talk about tactless! My husband was chatting with him last week and mentioned that we had recently had a mc (god knows why) anyway yesterday my neighbour whacked up a massive 8 ft fence between us and I was really annoyed as it blocks light in our garden and told him and he said "Well we've got a baby on the way and we want privacy, to breast feed in the garden and stuff". How Fecking tactless was that?? I was gobsmacked!

Now I'm glad they put up the fence, I always thought they were proletarian scum anyway..... (lol, yes maybe i'm a little bitter).

 

[Butterflykisses]

Ah Starfish I know exactly how you feel. It's hard to feel happy for everyone having babies round you when you're going through such turmoil yourself. My wee nephew was born 4 weeks ago today. I thought I was pretty much under control until I went to the hospital to visit my sister the day he was born. My dad, who is a big softie, cried and given my emotions I started. Thankfully everyone just ignored me until I got myself together and I then nursed Bradley for the rest of our visit.

Take care of yourself and I really hope you get BFP soon

 

[LouiseB]

Now I'm glad they put up the fence, I always thought they were proletarian scum anyway..... (lol, yes maybe i'm a little bitter).

lol! The guy sounds like a right prat.

Privacy for breastfeeding - what a load of bollocks. I assume you have a second floor window lol

 

[hello]

Aww it must be so difficult for you, sounds like u handled it well though xx

 

[Olive]

I'm sorry star. It's truly sh*te ttc and hearing of other babies (both my cousin and next door neighbour are both currently complaining about being over due - if only!!), but it must be even worse when you've experienced a mc Hope you're ok.

As for you neighbour what a c word!

Xxx

 

[Princess81]

It's not nice is it? Especially when you want to be happy for them but it is tainted with a sadness that you can't control. Can also empathise, I found out my friend was pregnant on the day I had my mc x

 

[laurat]

Just another sympathiser. Ive spent all weekend with my 2 friends who are pg one with twins. Ive been a complete mess of emotions because if my wee bean had stuck I would also have been pg with thrm. Instead I was allowed to drink but it didnt feel good to be one of the lads for a change! Usually love being a lad too!

 

[maybe baby]

xx

 

[JTB]

I have totally sympathy.. I feel like a complete B***h sometimes. Since we have begun trying 2 freinds have both got preg, both told me they werent really trying.. I smile and say I am so pleased but really it hurts! I am so pleased for them.. but also a bit jealous, scared it wont happen for us and a great big bag of emotion.

On friday I heard hubbie swear upstairs... then he said that another friend had put on facebook she was expecting! I promptly burst into tears as my period had just started that day too... then felt guilty for crying at someone else's really good news.. its rubbish isnt it!! It turns out it was an april fool after all that!!

Anyway, I am pleased to read that other people have mixed emotions too.... and i know deep down that we arent complete cows just struggling with something that is quite emotional at times! Hope your feeling better now and just think of all that practicing ready for when its your turn

 

[star fish]

Thanks girls. It always helps to know there are others secretly feeling the same. I'm putting off going to meet my new nephew, which makes me feel like such a massive cow, but there is too much to handle right now, and i keep getting emotional (which I'm hoping is a symptom).

Gotta find the fun again!