DaisyPurple
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I have to get this off my chest as it is driving me mad,
Fathers day I called my Dad and asked him if he had any plans for the day and invited him down for the afternoon and for Tea, he accepted and came down, with his long term Partner,
The thing is that he spent the whole time criticizing my 9 year old, and caused such a stink that I ended up having a 'Discussion' in my kitchen for an hour and a half with him, leaving DH, My son and dads g'friend in living room,
brief background is my dad skipped the country after he & my mum divorced when I was 3 and a half and came back when I was 20, its taken years for me to accept his abandonment and I have welcomed him into my family and have been trying to forge relationships between him and my son,
The thing is he is from a totally different era and from quite a rough area of Birkenhead, and has an idea of how a boy is supposed to be ie.. rough, tough, falling out of trees and cutting himself and getting up laughing, getting into mischief, fighting, (proving he's a man), and Im sure that in his world that's acceptable, but we are bringing our boy up to be kind, gentle, and by nature thats what he is, he loves nothing more than reading, drawing, playing with his toys, and friends, hes not into football, but enjoys swimming and goes to Cubs where he has access to a range of activities that he loves ie, kayaking sailing, camping etc.. he is not at all what my dad wants for a grandson and he is always picking fault with everything he says and does, I have had enough of his interference and am at the point of cutting him off he is a very annoying man and it hurts everytime he does this, its liek being rejected all over again I guess by him, he says Im wrapping up my son in cotton wool, what a crock of shit, Im very aware of the fact and Im trying nothing more than to actually bring him up to be a well rounded individual, but bringing him up with plenty of love he brought up that its pathetic that he still believes in father christmas, and when I explained that I am merely trying to give the boy a childhood,
he came right up in my face and through gritted teeth said..
"when does it end? when are you going to prepare him for the real world?"
I said.."when hes ready! he will come to me and tell me he no longer believes"
Im so sorry to rant on but it has really upset me, and Im unsure of what to do next
Fathers day I called my Dad and asked him if he had any plans for the day and invited him down for the afternoon and for Tea, he accepted and came down, with his long term Partner,
The thing is that he spent the whole time criticizing my 9 year old, and caused such a stink that I ended up having a 'Discussion' in my kitchen for an hour and a half with him, leaving DH, My son and dads g'friend in living room,
brief background is my dad skipped the country after he & my mum divorced when I was 3 and a half and came back when I was 20, its taken years for me to accept his abandonment and I have welcomed him into my family and have been trying to forge relationships between him and my son,
The thing is he is from a totally different era and from quite a rough area of Birkenhead, and has an idea of how a boy is supposed to be ie.. rough, tough, falling out of trees and cutting himself and getting up laughing, getting into mischief, fighting, (proving he's a man), and Im sure that in his world that's acceptable, but we are bringing our boy up to be kind, gentle, and by nature thats what he is, he loves nothing more than reading, drawing, playing with his toys, and friends, hes not into football, but enjoys swimming and goes to Cubs where he has access to a range of activities that he loves ie, kayaking sailing, camping etc.. he is not at all what my dad wants for a grandson and he is always picking fault with everything he says and does, I have had enough of his interference and am at the point of cutting him off he is a very annoying man and it hurts everytime he does this, its liek being rejected all over again I guess by him, he says Im wrapping up my son in cotton wool, what a crock of shit, Im very aware of the fact and Im trying nothing more than to actually bring him up to be a well rounded individual, but bringing him up with plenty of love he brought up that its pathetic that he still believes in father christmas, and when I explained that I am merely trying to give the boy a childhood,
he came right up in my face and through gritted teeth said..
"when does it end? when are you going to prepare him for the real world?"
I said.."when hes ready! he will come to me and tell me he no longer believes"
Im so sorry to rant on but it has really upset me, and Im unsure of what to do next
x
Maybe one day your dad will wake up and realise just what he's missing out on 
