Whenever I am with a group of my family outside of my main family, I'm always worried that the topic of babies will be brought up, as my partner and I have been trying for 2.5 years now. My mum knows I worry about this when seeing fanily. If babies is brought up in conversation, there's always a chance that someone may ask me about babies and this would upset me as I'd have to lie and say I'm not ready yet.
Anyway, so we were at my uncles new house last week. There was me, my partner, mum and dad, gran and grandad, and auntie and uncle. My cousin is getting married in April and we were talking about her wedding. We were then talking about another cousin who recently had a baby, and then our chat changed subject to something different. My mum then again mentioned the cousin that is getting married (she brought it back up again) and said "they'll be the next ones to have a baby". I could tell my dad knew it was inappropriate to say that when me and my partner were there and luckily the conversation ended quickly. (My mum and dad both know our situation).
It didn't bother me until the next morning when I got upset. I know my mum just wasn't thinking as she is a lovely person and she would hate to think she has upset me. I feel like I need to say something to her though as I've told her before that I feel awkward in that kind of situation, so I feel it was unfair of her to bring it up. But the part that annoyed me most was that she said my cousin will be next. The point is that my cousin is planning to go travelling for a year or so with her new husband so I doubt they will be trying for a baby during that time. I feel like she's kind of writing my partner and I off as we've had no luck so far, and she knows we'll be on the IVF waiting list soon. I know I'm probably just over reacting which is why I'm asking you ladies how you would feel if your mum had made that comment?
Anyway, so we were at my uncles new house last week. There was me, my partner, mum and dad, gran and grandad, and auntie and uncle. My cousin is getting married in April and we were talking about her wedding. We were then talking about another cousin who recently had a baby, and then our chat changed subject to something different. My mum then again mentioned the cousin that is getting married (she brought it back up again) and said "they'll be the next ones to have a baby". I could tell my dad knew it was inappropriate to say that when me and my partner were there and luckily the conversation ended quickly. (My mum and dad both know our situation).
It didn't bother me until the next morning when I got upset. I know my mum just wasn't thinking as she is a lovely person and she would hate to think she has upset me. I feel like I need to say something to her though as I've told her before that I feel awkward in that kind of situation, so I feel it was unfair of her to bring it up. But the part that annoyed me most was that she said my cousin will be next. The point is that my cousin is planning to go travelling for a year or so with her new husband so I doubt they will be trying for a baby during that time. I feel like she's kind of writing my partner and I off as we've had no luck so far, and she knows we'll be on the IVF waiting list soon. I know I'm probably just over reacting which is why I'm asking you ladies how you would feel if your mum had made that comment?
