Am I mad?

[Naomi D]

Hi Girls.

I met my fella about 18 months ago, but we've only been an item about 8 months. We have fallen madly in love. Im nearly 34 and he is 42, and we both feel we're at the stage in life where we want the same things, and both want to start a family (especially as time is moving on!).

However, Im a terrible worrier! Do you think it's too early in our relationship to start ttc? We have had our arguments, but we always make up, and there is never any bad feeling. We plan to move in together in the next few months, and both work together, and we have talked about getting married.

I also worry as Im studying for a masters, and still have 2 years left, which I know will be really hard - I dont want to take any time out of college, but I have the option to cut down on the modules I take, and take an extra year or two.

So what do you all think? has anyone else jumped into a relationship/family this quick? And does anyone else study?

 

[amyjayne77]

Hi,
I can only speak from my experience as only you know what is right for you, and if that's moving on fast, then that's fine.

My hubby and I started seeing eachother on dec 11th 2003, I moved in with him on the 14th, ( i was previously with someone so it was kind on inevitible I'd have to move out) , and was pregnant in the march!!!
I knew from the minute we became friends (a few months before hand) he was a wonderful genuine person (bleuuurgh I know).
I wouldn't change a thing about how we got together. We married in 2005, have 3 children of our own and 2 from his previous relationship. He is still my best friend in the whole world and I love him with all my heart.

 

[Misstinkerbell]

Hi Naomi

I actually met my fiance online. He lived in Tenerife and we were chatting to each other for about a year, just as friends. The job i was in at the time really started to get me down, all of my friends had settled down, i was the only single one and nobody wanted to do anything anymore, so one day i just decided that i would ask my online friend if he wouldnt mind if i moved out to Tenerife but would it be OK to stay with him just until i got a job and my own place, id never seen him before, apart from one bad photo but we met, within a week we'd fallen in love and i never did find my own place. We got engaged 7months later and have been trying for a baby for 2 and a half years!
Im a worrier as well but i think you know when you have found the right person and you start to realise that no matter how many arguments you have or many times you fall out you still love each other and whatever happens you will always be together! If you feel that the time is right then you should just go for it, you may take a while to get pregnant like me or you may fall straight away, either way you will be having a baby with your soulmate and all of the things you worried about and thought were important before will be forgotten!!
Good luck with whatever you decide!
PM me if you ever fancy a chat Ok!



Kim

xxxx

 

[Naomi D]

Thanks amyjayne your story is very romantic, and reassuring.

Kim - you're very kind, and Im sorry it's taking you so long to conceive, why does it always seem that lifes good people have a hard time?

Thanks for being so supportive, and putting my mind at rest. I've read stories here about so many lovely people, but everyone seems so settled with their partners, and most are married already, it makes me feel like I'm rushing into ttc. But yes, you are right, it does feel right to me, and I have met the most amazing man - I am very lucky!

Good luck to you ttc, babydust all round!

 

[lrb]

God misstinkerbell ur story of meeting ur oh is like a fairytale!..aww!

Naomi, try not to worry about things to much, if its what you both want then the other things shouldnt matter, things will fall into place. And when u have your bubba you may not even wanna go bck to college/work?

sending you lots of

 

[puzzle]

Hi there Naomi such a lovely name you have there, not many of us around . Me and my OH Have been together for 1 year and 2 months and he moved in after being together for about 6 months and we have been trying for a baby for 7 months now. So if it feels right to you then go for it. On the other hand i was with my previous partner for just 2 months when i fell pregnant and we split up barely 3 months into my pregnancy. But i already knew deep down just before i found out i was pregnant that we weren't working so slightly different situation.
Go with your heart and your gut. They usually know best.

 

[lrb]

oyeah and i was with my partner for a few months and i moved into his place(was his familys home tho) it was kinda i stayed over a few nights a week then went to full time, moved into our own place after about 6 months and have now been in our flat for 1 year. Ive always done things quickly..if i have to long to think about things id probs talk myself out of it!
but yeh go with your gut feeling