Agrrrrr!!!Mum is driving me mad sometimes!(sorry, long)

[MissThing]

Grrrr! Ok, where shall I start... Mum mum was always quite authoritive, but in the last few years I managed to be reasonable independent! But, since I am pregnant, she sometimes (well, quite a lot) drives me mad on things considering pregnancy and having baby!

She seems to have quite a different opinion on everything what is connected to these topics! And I don' t mind, but seems she is trying to convince me in it too (and she doesn' t care if I have a different point of view!!! ) Like the last thing, what totally p****d me off today (sorry for being rude)!

I could feel the baby move for a while, and I got quite depressed and worried, called the midwifes, and had to have to monitorings, evrything is fine , the little bubba had just a bit of rest Midwifes were really helpfull, and to make sure everything is ok, they will get me another scan to check the baby! Of course, I called mum, to tell her, that 1st-everything is fine, 2nd-I am going to have another scan (what I am quite pleased to have, cos it will let me see the bubba again ) But, instead of being glad and supportive (after I had quite a stressful day), she started to lecture me about how ultrasounds are dangerous! Insisting she knows!!! (btw, no relations of medicine, the word epidural was heard 1st time from me few weeks ago) Aggrrr! And it wasn't just like "darling, i've read somewhere so and so", it was more like " I know much better then you, cos I am a mum, and it doesn' t matter, that I absolutely don' t know what I am talking about!"

And it is like that all the time! About everything connecting with the baby! I almoust started to appriciate, that she lives in a different country I love her a lot, but doesn' t she understand, that I am a grown up adult! And I am not stupid and can be responsible for me AND my baby! I have a very strong urge just not to tell her anything

Is it like that with all of the mums?

 

[HappyAlice]

our parents will always treat us like silly kids, even when we are 60

 

[Tangerinedream]

I dont know what thats like because my mum isnt like that but her partner who is a man (as in somebody who doesnt have babies) is always trying to give advice about being pg and having babies it always p*****s me off

 

[Nicola]

Lots of people will offer you advise during pregnancy whether you want it or not and whether they have been pregnant or not seems irrelevant. You'll be amazed at some of the things my friends have come out with (none of whom have had children or are planning children yet) and Mum just things most things I want to do with the newborn are cruel, apparently I'm cruel for taking him to swimming lessons, cruel for taking him on holiday with us.....mothers really do have some strong opinions that can really upset the best thing to do it let them fly over the top of your head and forget about them.

 

[enn]

nah my mums not like that shes just letting me get on with it same with alll my family actually. even my oh parents aint saying much and we live with them lol

but u will get alot of advice from people wether its good or bad cause after all they know best

 

[topbird]

My mum has been next to useless too... just won't talk to me about being pregnant and snorts and laughs at anything I say as it is not the way it was in her day...

She had all three of her children flat on her back with her feet in stirrups with more drugs than can possibly be legal from the sounds of it. I told her how I had been to look round the hospital and liked the look of the birthing pool and she laughed and said

"Trust me.... just take every drug going and stop kidding yourself!"

My MIL has been my rock throughout this pregnancy, she has been brilliant, so not all mothers are like that luckily!

Ultrasound is not dangerous in the slightest, they wouldn't do it otherwise... people assume it is the same as x-ray, but it isn't! the sonographers would be behind screens in lead vests if there was any danger of radiation as they are exposed to it all day.

 

[mrs_tommo22]

Carina, your mum sounds like mine - a nightmare! Yes my mum sounds bang on your to the t unfortunately and yes it is annoying being patronised and spoken too like a child, but we are children to them!Sucks i know!
Lets hope we dont do the same to our kids!

Its your first pregnancy as well aint it acarina, so you will get a lot of the 'in my day crap off loads of people' just smile politely and agree for as long as you can.Dont do whati did to my mum in my first pregnancy and threaten to rip off your mums head if she said 'when i had you blah blah blah' yes my mum didnt speak to me for nearly a month - silence was bliss
Its perfecting the art of not getting worked up when mums do that - they cant bloody help themselves,interfering buggers!

Like you topbird my MIL is a gem and doesnt question what i want to do, she just accepts it and knows its my second and lets me get on with it.

 

[*saulino*]

Hi

sorry shes being like that hun my moms not like that but other family members are, i just told them nicelythat things are done differently nowadays and not like when they were having babies
Katrina

 

[mrs_tommo22]

You must have the patience of a saint katrina!