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Ive put ryan down in his cot awake for the first time about 5-10 mins ago and he was obviously tired so thought great will probably be fine and he keeps crying!?!!?? I go and put his dummy in and he stops for about 10 seconds then i leave the room and he starts screaming again!! do i leave him?! i dont wanna give in but i hate to hear him cry like that :cry: :cry: :cry: :cry: :cry:
 
I personally would go and get him and comfort him. Fans of controlled crying may differ.

He is only four months. If this is his first-time doing this, he won't know what to do and will feel unsure/scared. I think you need to have a firm idea of what strategy you want to use before you go ahead with one.

You could try pick-up, put down maybe? Pick him up when he cries. put him down when he stops. rinse and repeat until he goes to sleep. (Could be up to an hour on first few nights)

Are you trying to do controlled crying? If you are not keen on that method, this book explains some other ways to get your child to sleep without letting them cry it out.
http://www.amazon.co.uk/No-Cry-Sleep-Solution-Through-Pantley/dp/0071381392
 
I leave Lily for 5mins (you can tell shes tired from her cry) if her cry is getting more tired I leave her and normally within a minute shes zonked if not I go in offer her a dummy or bottle stay wit her a minute and walk back out for 5-10 mins if shes crying but shes normally gone by then. :hug: Hope he settles down for you :hug:
 
Hmmm I tend to go in, leave the room as dark as possible, make no eye contact and don't really speak. I simply lay my hand on my LO's head and gently stroke it to soothe him. He settles really well. Mind you, saying that he has been going in his cot awake since 6 weeks old and is brilliant at falling asleep in there and doesn't fuss. It might take him 20 minutes but he goes off just fine. We use a mobile that has a light and music also and he loves it.

I don't see it as controlled crying as you would be in the room with him and comforting/settling him.

Try to not pick him up unless he really isn't going to settle. If you do pick him up, settle him quietly, again as low key as you can be and then try over again. You may need to have a bit of patience for a few nights till he gets used to it.

Also worth putting on some soothing music in the background to help settle him.
 
I had the mobile on and he was crying in his sleep but i got him out and he's beein screaming his head of and thrusting himself around since i got him out and hes just this second got to sleep :( :cry:
 
We did the putting her in the cot awake thing gradually.

I started by half rocking her off until I could see her eyes going, then I'd put her in there when I was fairly sure she'd drop off. Sometimes she grizzles, if she does then I'll leave her.

However, if she cries I go and get her, I wouldn't be very good at controlled crying I'm afraid. Hence if she gets over-tired she will only sleep by me rocking her off. Its not ideal, but I am happy to do it, as I know that if I get her to bed before that stage she now will sleep after 10-20 mins.

It took a little while for her to be able to sleep from being completely awake.
:hug: :hug:
 

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