Advice please!

[ElsXox]

Hi everyone,

I was hoping to get some advice from you all. I go through bouts of being extremely, crazily broody, to the point where it actually makes me really upset that I don't yet have my own family and I get sad taking the pill each night! This has gone on since I was 19 (now 21). I'm single and a student so not in the position I'd like to be in to start a family. Has anyone got any advice on how to cope with the broodiness though?! It's stopping me from doing work, it distracts my mind and I keep finding myself browsing online for baby clothes... and I just ordered a bib for literally no reason! I'm yearning for a family so much, would be so grateful of advice about this as it's driving me mad and none of my friends/family understand, thank you in advance xxx

 

[Kazz1n]

Hi, I also had this and when people asked me what I wanted to be when I grew up I used to say be a mum. I didn't really have any career goals as such. I found that stopping myself from looking online at baby stuff etc definitely helped. I have worked in nurseries with babies-5 year olds, which then progressed into family support running parenting groups, and I now work in the neonatal intensive care unit caring for babies who are in special care. I am now 28 and me and DH have recently began ttc. Me and him have been together since we were 16 so he has always known I wanted to be a mum. Both of us would have started earlier but this is the first time that we've been in the right circumstances. Don't get me wrong if DH had said a few years ago that he was ready we would have started then. He made it clear that he wasn't ready and that really hurt at times. I'm so glad he is now though and that we are both on board. What helped me was having a plan and asking DH when he would be ready, he didn't always know exactly when but we agreed on when to bring it up again. Sorry for long post but hope it helps.

 

[Sunflower1]

Hi everyone,

I was hoping to get some advice from you all. I go through bouts of being extremely, crazily broody, to the point where it actually makes me really upset that I don't yet have my own family and I get sad taking the pill each night! This has gone on since I was 19 (now 21). I'm single and a student so not in the position I'd like to be in to start a family. Has anyone got any advice on how to cope with the broodiness though?! It's stopping me from doing work, it distracts my mind and I keep finding myself browsing online for baby clothes... and I just ordered a bib for literally no reason! I'm yearning for a family so much, would be so grateful of advice about this as it's driving me mad and none of my friends/family understand, thank you in advance xxx

These days there's a lot of prssure on women to postpone having kids. It's totally natural to feel broody. You don't have to wait til your late 20s to try. Maybe just acknowledge that the broodiness is really real, and make a plan that involves having a family as soon as you are able. Obviously that probably involves finding a partner and getting settled with work, but it could just be a few years away. I wish I'd had kids in my 20s as TTC at 41 is not fun.

 

[ElsXox]

Thank you so much, this advice has been so helpful, I do want to be in a comfortable situation when I'm ttc which is why I know I need to wait, just causing me so much upset in the mean time but glad I'm not the only one, it's just so nice having other people understand xxx good luck to you and your DH xx

 

[ElsXox]

These days there's a lot of prssure on women to postpone having kids. It's totally natural to feel broody. You don't have to wait til your late 20s to try. Maybe just acknowledge that the broodiness is really real, and make a plan that involves having a family as soon as you are able. Obviously that probably involves finding a partner and getting settled with work, but it could just be a few years away. I wish I'd had kids in my 20s as TTC at 41 is not fun.[/QUOTE]



Thank you so much this has really helped me, deffo agree that everyone expects marriage/kids etc to be later nowadays, it's unusual for people to start families young but 60/70 years ago it was the norm! That's so kind, thank you for taking the time to reply xxx and I wish you all the luck with ttc x

 

[Jemmlove]

Hi Els, Don’t worry almost everyone of us on here is a little crazy when it comes to wanting a baby! It’s a good thing you’ve joined here you’ll get a ton of support and it can keep your mind busy! Asides from this website do you have any hobbies you can throw yourself into? Maybe start a blog? Where you can vent to other wannabee mummas. Venture out when you can to meet new people (and maybe future daddy)