Advice Please

[Charlotte & Emily]

hiya
ive put this here to get more response
i just want your opinions, good or bad

well it all started off when i got pregnant my sister really didnt agree with it (even though her best friend got pregnant at my age ) anyway she was horrible to me and even said to me once 'im going to punch you in your stomach'!!
well since i had emily she has had nothing to do with her and even called her an 'IT' by purpose!
i now no longer want her to have anything to do with emily ever again! i dont talk to her anymore, which is hard as i still live at home.
Do you think im right? She has just hurt me so much why should i speak to her?

Any response will be considered and i thankyou in advance

 

[libs]

How old is your sister hun?

 

[Charlotte & Emily]

21

 

[hannahbet20]

well id say shes well out of order maybe if she apologised i would reconsile but if not then id say you dont need that around your baby so i think ur doing the right thing

 

[hannahbet20]

god i thought she would be 16- 18 im 21 and i would never say those things

 

[foxymum]

hmmmmm shes 21, well shes certainly old enough to know what she saying.
this is hard coz you all live in the same house so you cannot possibly never speak to her again, or all your lives will be unbearable.

will you one day get a place of you & Emily on your own?
if yes then you can't really cut her out till them, i'm not sure what to say hun, but what an awful unforgivable thing that she said.

do you think she could be jealous?

 

[libs]

Can I suggest she might be a little jealous? Guessing you're younger by your teen mum blinkie? She might feel a little put out by being the older sister without a child (guessing she doesn't have one) Although she's old enough to know better, you can be the bigger person by just ignoring her bad behaviour. She may also have been a little disappointed that her "little" sister "ruined" her life by having this baby. Would it help to ask your Mum to intervene or take a big breath sit her down and explain that she's not only hurting you but also your daughter. Don't cut off all contact now. Sisters can be useful babysitters if and when she comes around to the idea - also it's easy to ignore a baby, I'm sure when your LO gets older and starts chatting to her etc she'll come round.

 

[Charlotte & Emily]

yea im moving into a hostel soon
i think she could be jealous

 

[Nic'n'Keeley]

It sounds as tho she's jealous
mayb once you've moved out she mite say sorry to you...
i really don't see why you should say sorry

you've done nothin wrong

 

[foxymum]

why are you moving to a hostel hun?

 

[Charlotte & Emily]

because im currently sleeping on the living room floor
and its the only way i can get a house other than being on a housing list for a year
and my dad wants me out the house

 

[foxymum]

because im currently sleeping on the living room floor
and its the only way i can get a house other than being on a housing list for a year
and my dad wants me out the house

oh hun, i'm sorry good luck & i hope you get a house ASAP for you & Emily.

 

[trixipaws]

anyway she was horrible to me and even said to me once 'im going to punch you in your stomach'!!
well since i had emily she has had nothing to do with her and even called her an 'IT' by purpose!

omg that is horrific! she sounds evil

 

[lozzi]

I think she is jealous hunny. If you ever need to chat then im on ur msn

i think we shud meet up next time im back in preston!!

 

[Charlotte & Emily]

thanks girls

lozzijane - great idea let me know when your going to be here

 

[mum2be?]

yea im moving into a hostel soon
i think she could be jealous

hunny have you tried to find a rented accommodation, as my friend has and she also expecting in Oct & there are going to pay her rent for her



Good Luck

 

[Charlotte & Emily]

alot of places dont take housing benefit
and i cant afford the depostit

when i go into the hostel ill be able to discuss my options and maybe ask them about a 'community care grant' or 'crisis loan' for the deposit

 

[Freya]

I think like everyone else has said she is jelous. Maybe in the future both of you will feel differently and after she has appologised (a lot) there could be a chance of a reconciliation. As for now don't let it bother you too much and I hope you get away from her soon.