advice needed badly

[mandii]

I am currently almost 5 weeks pregnant and also have a 2yr old son, when my 2 yr old son was born my hubbys family were always up visiting they were up twice weekly since my son was 3weeks old till he was 1, then it was twice a month now its once every couple months, for example my son hasnt seen my hubbys dad since january, he sees his 18yr old auntie once every few months as well, the only one who makes an effort is my 15yr old sister in law. we take our son to see my mother in law because she stays in glasgow and it would take her ages to get where we stay as she doesnt drive, our son sees his great grandparents reglarly but thats it.

with me being pregnant again and knowing that when baby is born they will visit all the time its making me mad that they dont bother with the child i already have what should i do?

 

[jojo3972]

hmm thats a toughy but either u just keep ya gob shut n grin and bare it or u say summet like ok this is how its been and i dont want this again that u would like it to be consistant say once a month not wen they feel like it as its not fair on the children they cant come all the time for a yr or watever then all a sudden just stop and come wen they feel like it its just not on gd lcuk with wat u decide to do xx

 

[mandii]

im just fed up with being told they will come up on such a such a day, i sit in all day and then an hour before they are due to come up they cancel its happened twice in the past fortnight and they havent seen my son in months, they make out to everyone that they do everything for my son when they do nothing, no one came to see him on his birthday or even the day before or after it. its heartbreaking to see my son get excited about seeing people and then when they cancel im the bad one, my son doesnt see my family because of a severe fall out that happened 7 months ago, and now through no fault of ours or my sons my OH family dont bother to come up xx

 

[jojo3972]

no its not on at all ur oh or u are going to have to say summet if its upsetting ur son like this its not fair bless him and for u to wait in like that and them not come well its disgracefull and i realy do hate that family or deliveries it boils my peepee grrr, and for them not to turn up on his birthday well im sorry but that would defo get my back up not ur little boys fault and he dont understand but he will do as he grows up and starts to realise then they will be sorry, chin up dont let the beeps get ya down xx

 

[mandii]

i dont want to play god with my sons life but if need be i will just stop them from seeing him, im fed up with them not bothering with him but getting excited about the new one xx

 

[Jayjay027]

I would ask ur OH to have a word with them. Tell them how upsetting it is for ur son and if there isn't a little consistency, ull have no choice but to stop them seeing him as u don't want him getting upset because they can't be bothered x

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[mandii]

we will be jayjay, at the end of the day they havent made much of an effort for months now, im fed up with my son being mucked about, my son is going to be a brother in december hopefully and i know when the new one is here they will be up all the time. xx

 

[jojo3972]

then u see this will have a massive impact on ur little man he isnt stupid and when the baby comes he will think hang on they havnt been for ages and now this new baby is here and they are here all the time! no its not gd enough needs sorting now before any more damage is done give them the chance and if they blow it then see ya x

 

[mandii]

well father in law is due up tomorrow if he doesnt appear thats it finished not putting up with it anymore xx

 

[jojo3972]

gd for you xx

 

[mandii]

my son deserves consistency i dont want him resenting the new baby if people are up at the house to see the new one and theyve not made the effort with my son xx