A little TMI but I'm curious lol

[JadeL]

Hi all. Been a while since I've last posted here but I got very upset when it just wasn't happening. We are still ttc and I'm currently in the 2 week wait.
Now for the TMI... When i got ill the other year I barely had any energy to move let alone dtd so we did rarely do it. Once we started again, it hurt a lot 'downstairs' and I would end up in tears, partly the pain but then disappointing the OH as I would have to stop due to the pain. As time went on we finally got on track with dtd but.. We had to use lube, just so I wouldn't be crippled with pain.
My question is, more often then not since ttc we've had to use lube, will that stop the sperm on their journey? Can it affect getting pregant? I hope not as my legs cross and refuse to open at the thought of Not using it lol

Thanks everyone. X

 

[holli]

Hey Hun, yes lube can stop the sperm making its way to the egg if you really need to use lube use pre seed as that actually helps the sperm on it's way and isn't harmful for ttc, have you visited your nurse / gp about sex hurting? As that doesn't sound right xx

 

[JadeL]

Hey Hun, yes lube can stop the sperm making its way to the egg if you really need to use lube use pre seed as that actually helps the sperm on it's way and isn't harmful for ttc, have you visited your nurse / gp about sex hurting? As that doesn't sound right xx

Yeah I'm making an appt at the doctors. I'll have a look at getting that lube you've mentioned. Least I know why we haven't got pregnant yet. Hopefuly I can be seen soon at the doctor's so I can Hopefuly be ready to try again next month. Thank you for your help X

 

[holli]

No worries my lovely we are all here to help each other that's one of things I like about this forum, me and oh was using lube at beginning as he's a bit big down there (sorry tmi) but I think I've adjusted to him now as I'm fine but I would certainly get checked out as sex shouldn't be hurting you like that xx

 

[Sunflower1]

Yes, I would definitely see the doctor about the sex hurting as it could be a sign of thrush or an infection in which case both you and your partner will probably need to be treated. Lube will kill sperm...Preseed will help it. Good luck.

 

[Flump1518]

Is preseed in supermarkets or where do you get it? I've not seen any. Thanks.

P.s. JadeL hope you get on ok at the docs.

 

[PeanutButter]

Sounds like you have vaginismus... I have it too. lube helps alot you can buy stuff that doesn't kill sperm though. X

 

[holli]

Can get it off amazon Hun, they sell it in my local lloyds chemist too not sure if they do your end xx

 

[Loveandpeace]

I stopped using regular lube and used conceive plus in my last cycle and got a bfp. I cant say I used it all the time and dont know of it helped but it actually feels better than regular lube anyway. Good luck xx

 

[JadeL]

Sounds like you have vaginismus... I have it too. lube helps alot you can buy stuff that doesn't kill sperm though. X

Hi, I've just been looking at the symptoms for the condition you've mentioned. I seem to experience a lot of the symptoms. But for the last few months we've been able to have intercourse, but it was at my pace and with lube. This month has been the first in a long time that I've managed it without lube. I'm hoping that I don't have an actual physical condition and believe I have more of the mental side of it. Back when it started hurting, at first I found it impossible to have intercourse, but could still use tampons. I lost all sexual disire and had quite bad fear and anxiety when ever we did try. Now I still have a little fear just before we start as I'm always scared it's going to hurt but with lube it doesn't and then this month when we did it with no lube it didn't either. I hope this is me coming out of my fear. I feel so bad as my OH took it as I was giving excuses when it really did hurt. He's more understanding now though.

 

[Donna88]

Whenever we haven't had sex in a while it can be a little painful when we finally do... I think sometimes it just takes some getting used to again.

 

[_GG_]

Jadel, I'm glad it seems to be getting better for you. Fear is the last thing you need going in to intimate times. How can your body produce it's own fluids or relax its muscles when you are in a mentally fearful state? It can't.

It always hurts me if we've not done it for a long time and oh knows that I can't then just hop in bed and go for it...it can take an hour of leading up to to get my brain to catch up, feel properly aroused and so relax and not feel pain.

Try to take the pressure of yourself a little xx