A few concerns

[kellylou]

Hi ladies,

Since I was last TTC, I am now in a better place I am almost 4 stone lighter than I was and enjoy fitness, problem is dh has said once I get pregnant that is it no exercise - I am happy to adpat to this but not stop completely as it has become a big part of my life. I will never do anything that is dangerous to my pregnancy but hope to continue walking etc.

Also to try and convince dh to go ahead with a 2nd I said after ds induction and emer c sec that I would have a planned c section for the 2nd, now I am wanting to try for a natural delivery but I really dont think he will go for this so was thinking of waiting to speak with the midwife if/when I am finally pregnant? Have the discussion with a professional.
I had a sweep and straight after I had it I didn't feel right and it basically caused bleeding so I would not have any sweeps this time around any advice?

 

[mylullaby]

Wow! Congratulations on your weight loss. You must be very proud of yourself.

As much as I am sure your DH is only looking out for you, to put it VERY bluntly - your body, your choice. You will get support for your argument from your midwife for both exercise and natural delivery, so in your shoes I wouldn't make too much of a fuss about it now, but would mention it to the midwife and get her on-side to help bring him round to your way of thinking.

I don't think there's any midwife on the planet who would tell you to completely stop exercising just because you're pregnant (assuming there are no health issues to consider). And when it comes to delivery I just think that whatever you feel comfortable with is the best option for you and your baby. Even the most involved father is essentially a bystander when it comes to giving birth.

Ultimately these are both decisions that you would be well within your rights to not include him in. I know you will include him - because it's what couples do - but just keep that in mind, know what you want and if you really want to, you can let him think he's been part of the decision making process even though you know you will do things your way anyway.

I hope that doesn't come across as really harsh. I'm not attacking your DH or anything - was just being blunt to illustrate my point - I'm not a man-hater or anything, lol. xxx

 

[kellylou]

Thank you. I think it just scared him as he wasn't prepared last time, maybe this time he will be?! I suppose from a selfish point of view I have worked hard for this body and want to try and keep it, I also feel I am in better shape than last time and don't want to just jump in feet first without exploring everything.

Thanks for your advice, I know its my decision ultimately I just feel that I am now changing hte goal posts, he brought it up the other day and I just went...yes when really now we are definately ttc soon my opinion is changing.

 

[mylullaby]

Honey, it's not selfish to stay fit and healthy while you're pregnant. Diet is only one element of health - exercise is a big part of looking after yourself too. Anything you can do to keep your baby healthy will be a GOOD thing. You will always have the risk of falling over or spraining an ankle or whatever, but then you will also have the risk of a car accident and I bet he won't be advising you not to drive during your pregnancy. He's probably being overprotective after the emergency section. If he's really bad, you could even suggest counselling to help him talk through his feelings. Can't have been easy seeing you go through that.

If it's going to play on your mind while ttc you could think about laying the groundwork a bit. Drop in a few hints that things are not set in stone. Even if it's just about being open-minded and listening to what the experts have to say? Depends what you think he'll respond better to - a few well-thought out hints over time or one sit down, talk it through discussion about the fact that you want to keep up with the exercise regime and you want to think carefully about delivery as your feelings now are different to how they were when you'd just given birth.

xxx

 

[kellylou]

Honey, it's not selfish to stay fit and healthy while you're pregnant. Diet is only one element of health - exercise is a big part of looking after yourself too. Anything you can do to keep your baby healthy will be a GOOD thing. You will always have the risk of falling over or spraining an ankle or whatever, but then you will also have the risk of a car accident and I bet he won't be advising you not to drive during your pregnancy. He's probably being overprotective after the emergency section. If he's really bad, you could even suggest counselling to help him talk through his feelings. Can't have been easy seeing you go through that.

If it's going to play on your mind while ttc you could think about laying the groundwork a bit. Drop in a few hints that things are not set in stone. Even if it's just about being open-minded and listening to what the experts have to say? Depends what you think he'll respond better to - a few well-thought out hints over time or one sit down, talk it through discussion about the fact that you want to keep up with the exercise regime and you want to think carefully about delivery as your feelings now are different to how they were when you'd just given birth.

xxx

Thank you, very good advice and yes I think that will help.

 

[Mrs M]

Swimming is a great exercise for pregnancy, and there are aquanatal classes for something a little more. Plus prenatal yoga/pilates so if you want to do there are a few things that are purposely designed for pregnancy.

I had an induction and emcs with dd, followed by elcs with ds. Completely different experiences! However at around 20 weeks I had a consultant appointment and discussed my options, but the reasons I needed an emcs first time round was due to a small pelvis so chances are I wouldn't be able to birth naturally - ever! So the decision was already made for me!

 

[MrsS143]

Swimming and walking are great

They say to avoid contact sports or horseriding etc or where you could easily lose your balance
Generally though if you done it pre pregnancy you can do it through out
Just dont start anything new!
Although I'll warn you. If youre like me and feel so dreadfully ill - you will not want to do anything other than die in bed haha

 

[kellylou]

Thanks, I do a lot of high impact at the moment so know it will have to stop such as rebounding, kettlercise and running so walking will keep me fit I just want to try and have a better, healthier pregnancy than last time.