2 days Post Natal and feeling a bit rough!

[Rooster30]

Just a ramble to say that i'm feeling overwhelmed - but not exactly by motherhood, but by everything that has happened recently and more the trauma of recovering from the birth itself. I had a beautiful daughter via a water birth - all natural, painful, but natural - however it all went to pot when my cervix closed too quickly to get the placenta out and I was sent to surgery to get it out with an epi - it went well but I got a 2nd degree tear. My private parts are swollen and sore and to add to it i'm suffering pretty badly from incontinence

My daughter is breastfeeding really well, however, as to be expected in the early days it is constant. Doesn't feel like she is ever off them and my nipples are becoming very sore and one is cracked and bleeding.

I'm frustrated by my sore sore woohoo and my sore sore nips

To top it off, our first night home was horrendous because my son was/is ill and up throughout the night. My OH really wanted to help out with my daughter but had to tend to my son instead - so I had my third subsequent night of no sleep as my daughter will not sleep in her crib and i'm not comfortable co-sleeping with her at such a young age so I was awake holding her as she slept, dealing with her wind and feeding all the other times - all the while in the back ground my son was in distress.

My OH rushed my son to the doctors this morning as my son started to vomit, and pant - we feared a return of a viral wheeze which he got admitted to hospital with only two weeks ago. Thankfully he has been kept at home with a chest infection and with extra super strong antibiotics but we're still waiting for those to take affect and fully suspect another long night ahead.

It's so so so frustrating and sad. Just not what we visioned for our first day/night. Thankfully I have not experienced any baby blues (or PND) like I got with my son. But, I am feeling overwhelmed and ticked off at the state my body is. I'm mentally willing but my body is not. I'm sad that my son is so poorly and that instead of it being time as a family it's fragmented.

To top it off, got an all day visit from the in-laws tomorrow. Sob sob. Though, on the positive, it might mean a break somewhere to catch up on some well needed sleep.

Sorry for the moan. Just to add, I am so so delighted with my little girl and overjoyed to just be feeling that way as I never ever felt like this with my son because of super horrendous baby blues and PND. I'm just ticked off with the 'situation' not my daughter.

 

[mylullaby]

Rooster!!! Congratulations on the safe arrival of your baby girl. So happy for you.

Sorry to hear you're feeling crap. I have no experience, but remember the old adage: "this too shall pass" - I hear it a lot and it feels appropriate to say those words to you right now. Your sore bits will heal in time. Your baby will settle into a more manageable feeding pattern eventually. Your inlaws will be gone after tomorrow. Your little boy will be all better in no time. I'm sure there are loads of ladies with more practical words of wisdom than me!

Really pleased for you hunni - enjoy your gorgeous bundle of joy xxx

 

[northerngirl]

Congratulations Rooster glad your daughter is doing well
It sounds like you feel exactly how I felt for the first week after labour, I had the tears, sore nipples and incontinence, so yeah very similar! Moan away 'cos it's awful, I don't know how you do it with another little one as well 'cos I hardly managed just with the one! You're doing so well so you should be proud of yourself!
Do you have any other family members or friends that could help out? Just take all the help you can get 'cos sleep deprivation can be one of the worst things physically, take good care of yourself xo

 

[TTT]

Unfortunately I think you just have to ride ut out and accept all the help you can get. Look at things more positively, your baby is well and you aren't suffering from pnd just now, don't put too much pressure on yourself to have a post card/Hollywood moment, its not realistic. Be proud that your doing so well bf etc.

I had an epi and had to have some remaining membranes removed on day 3 which was awful and we had to ask my parents for help. I only let immediate family visit for the first 4 weeks to give us some space and I would strongly urge all mums to have the courage to do the same. Make sure your inlaws make you a cup of tea in exchange for a hold of the baby too, the last thing you need is to be hobbling around sore making guests drinks.

 

[littlemonkey]

Congratulations! But I'm so sorry your son is poorly again! It's the last thing you need with a new born!

Talking from experience with my first after needing a c-section, try not to get frustrated with your body. I felt like mine had failed at the final hurdle for the first few weeks. I'm already feeling similar now after ending up in hospital with a bell's palsy. Keep thinking how can I look after a baby with one eye?! But these things happen and we just have to ride it out. This is what being a mum is all about and none of it is your fault!!

Could you not cancel the inlaws visit? I honestly can't imagine anything worse! At least that takes some pressure off you and your OH. Do what you need to get you all through each day at a time. You will get there!!

 

[clairebear22]

My first labour was a 42hr nightmare ending up in a forceps delivery (i'll never ever forget the feeling *shudder*) I literally felt like i'd been hit by a double decker for weeks!! Touch wood i'd always been pretty healthy apart from general bugs so this and then 10 days later being rushed into A&E and admitted with pancreatitus and a swollen liver caused by gall stones I was shot to pieces!! Our bodies take a complete hammering but our minds usually wake up and function pretty quickly. It completely threw me anyway!

My 2nd Son was induced and by complete surprise popped out 2.5hrs later without even a whiff of g&a!! I was home 4hrs later in time for dinner!! That was more bizarre than the first! lol

All you can do is rest as much as possible, my boys are 20.5mths apart so I know it's impossible but rest does help.

I can't help re, sore boobs i'm afraid but hopefully someone can. Chin up hun and congratulations. Hope your Son is better soon too

 

[hellywelly]

Those post birth hormones are a complete bitch... Congrats on your beautiful daughter but sorry to hear you're having such a rough time with your son as well. Have you got some Lansinoh for the nips? It's very good. Just remember, the hour is darkest before the dawn, in a weeks time, you'll still be knackered but at least your son will feel a lot better and the feeding will settle down. And the in-laws should only be allowed to come if hubby makes it clear they are to help and not hinder!!!

 

[kitten2014]

rooster, sorry to hear about your situation, I would simply reiterate what everyone else has said, I didnt have family over til 4 days after birth and that was only for 30mins, I now have my mum visiting but strictly on a 2-6pm schedule so dont have to worry about meals and she is also helping out. I also had 44hr labour and whilst didnt have the same afterbirth complications also felt like was hit by a bus...constantly out of breath, couldnt properly sit down and couldnt walk unaided for first 3 days...like they say its a marathon and they dont call it labour for no reason so perhaps when postponing your in-laws visit you should relate it to something like that...they should know tho tbh....