19 month old tantrums

[Colleen1988]

My DS is 19mo and has recently started throwing the biggest screaming tantrums when he doesn't get his own way... how do you all deal with this?? It's getting ridiculous now, he throws a fit if you don't let him walk everywhere, he throws a fit if you say no to him, basically just throws a fit ALL the friggin time, it's exhausting! Everyone tells me I'm to soft with him because I try and comfort him when he's throwing a wobbler but I don't know what else to do????? He's so bloody naughty sometimes, but sometimes he's a little angel! HELP xxx

 

[Shepherdess]

Thankfully my little girl is good as gold when out and about but when she throws a tantrum at home I flat out ignore her, to start with she'd scream for a minute but now she gets over it very quickly. My little one likes to walk everywhere to and I let her. If she's in Tesco and grabbing things then she gets a warning that I will carry her and if she does it again I pick her up and she'll let out a scream but only for a second and then she just gets on with being carried as even if she did scream I'd just carry her and ignore her

 

[kumber]

Definitely don't comfort him as you're giving him attention for bad behaviour which will enforce that behaviour as ok as he gets older. The best thing to do is completely ignore the behaviour (whilst keeping an eye to make sure he's not doing anything dangerous of course) and then carry on as normal once he's calmed himself down.

It takes a while for this to work as they find limitations frustrating now that they can see, understand and do everything, but you'll get through it

 

[redbear]

Stick to your guns. No means no and he will learn that throwing a tantrum doesn't equal getting his own way. And as the others said ignore his behaviour because it's just rewarding it so he will not learn it's a negative. It's hard but persist and before you know it he will learn it doesn't work and stop doing it. Kids aren't as stupid as we think and they are crafty they will play to your weaknesses.
Sometimes my girls would ask for something and I would say no and half way through the drama I would think "would it hurt to just give in I should have said yes" but I never backed down once the word left my mouth that was it. Now they are 3 and 5 and I get no tantrums at all, and they know what I say happens.
For example some parents will say "Bob if you don't stop that behaviour we will go home." Knowing full well they are enjoying their coffee and a chat they won't go home and the kid knows that too. Where as if I threaten that I will 100% do it and my kids know that. You only have to do it a few times before they realise your not lieing to them.

I think I'm super strict but you know what my girls are perfectly behaved, nice to others, share and listen to teachers which means they are achieving excellent in all areas of their learning. So it may feel harsh or mean now but it's for their best in the long run. Xx