12 weeks today and full of woe

[islandmum]

today was supposed to be such a happy day, i miscarried at 10 weeks t the start of the year and so getting to 12 week safely was so important.
Ive had a rough old time of it, i had such terrible sickness i nearly ended up on a drip, it passed nd has been replaced with dizzy fainting spells. As a result ive had to take a step back and make myself relax a bit more. Im a busy person i have lots of animals as well as two other kids to take care of so it waasnt easy so slow down a bit.
My OH although very supportive and caring has been taking over more in the house and is getting more and more annoyed at tht fact, he doesnt say it but he mumbles when he thinks i cant hear and will stomp around slaming doors etc. its really upsetting me and maaking me feel i should push myself more. My two kids are from a previous relationship and i feel that he resents doing all the work around here for them.
aside from all that i still have no scan date and chasing up the midwife here is a task and a half. I was told due to the m/c i could have early scans but when it came to it i was refused. so waiting for the 12 week scan has been a big deal as im sure most of you here know the worries involved.
Sorry to vent i just feel the day that was supposed to be happy has been overshaddowed.

 

[ceebee]

Sorry to hear things are difficult for you. Life never seems to go the way we expect it to does it... I have had a rough time of it too with sickness and other health issues, so I sympathise with you. Also, I know these difficult times can put pressure on relationships. Even my kind, patient husband has struggled with how ill and grumpy I've been and we've even argued a couple of times, which we never usually do.

I'm sure they have to scan you by 13 weeks and 6 days - would it be worth phoning the hospital rather than the midwife to try and get a scan sorted. It does sound very bad...

All I can say is what I keep saying to myself - this bad stuff will pass at some point and hopefully soon we will both be feeling a lot happier and able to enjoy being pregnant... good luck with it all honey xxx

 

[JJ Mum]

Ah you have had a tricky Tri, I lost at 11 plus 5 in 2010, so I understand the desperate need for that scan to reassure you. Ring them back and really hassle them, ring every day if you can, till they get the message, you should have one at the right time for dating, testing etc, it shouldn't be too late.

What island are you on? is this why things are slower to get sorted medically?

Your OH will get through it, don't forget he may have not done this before, so can't picture himself with the baby at the other end yet. Your having all the symptoms and he won't understand yet, it's like him supporting you through manflu , but for 8- 12 weeks!! Once he sees that scan of a healthy baby in there, it will make more sense to him

Hope it gets sorted soon, but keep your chin up, it's a great sign your safely at 12 weeks with no bleeding etc, so all looking good X

 

[islandmum]

thank you both. After several calls to doctors midwife and hospital i finally got an apointment for tomorrow at 3 and my OH is pretty excited about it all too. Im hoping seeing the baby will make it all more real for him and also that my symptoms pass soon and i manage to do a bit more to take the pressure off.. He's an only child and no other children so i guess its harder for him to adjust to it all.
x

 

[ceebee]

Good luck with it all and let us know how you get on xxx