hi all I think I am starting to lose hope. My period is due tomorrow, lots of negative tests, craving chocolates and eating them basically feeling sorry for myself. I have been using OPKs, every month I am getting peak , positive tests , temp shifts so I am ovulating, around 26 day cycle. Anyway I just wanted to come here and share my misery, any help and encouraging words much appreciated.
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10 months TTC losing hope...
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Same here. I'm only half of what you are, but this whole thing is exhausting. Do you spot in your LP? I have a 26 day cycle too and always start spotting early till my next period.
Have you seen a doctor or had your husband's sperm checked?
Hiya no spotting for me but I have mild endo which was supposed to be treated and my husband hasn’t had any tests. We have one child who is nearly 5 now but I got pregnant at 34 with her and now I am nearly 40!
I start getting weird pains straight after I ovulate till I get my period. This has only started since last year so I don’t understand the pains. It’s like really low down uterus pains similar to period pain. I feel like this is something to do with it. I tried all sorts of herbal things , preseed
Did you have any children?
I start getting weird pains straight after I ovulate till I get my period. This has only started since last year so I don’t understand the pains. It’s like really low down uterus pains similar to period pain. I feel like this is something to do with it. I tried all sorts of herbal things , preseed
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So, are you saying they fixed your endo?
Maybe your husband should get his sperm checked just in case?
That's weird about the pains? Are they dull, achy or are they really painful? Maybe it's from the endo?
I don't have any children yet.
Yeah I had laparoscopy about 7 months ago to remove endo but she said I need to go on birth control to stop it from coming back. Even if he gets tested than and even if his sperm count low I don’t know what we can do really and it might just worry me more
The pain is sometimes sharp sometimes dull it changes day to day but not constant. I kind of know that I am not pregnant straight away because of these pains. It’s sad really. I am just so tired of hoping every month than come crashing down. I even thought about stopping this and stick with one child but I just can’t give up my dreams. If it was to go on longer than a year not sure what I will do than.
The pain is sometimes sharp sometimes dull it changes day to day but not constant. I kind of know that I am not pregnant straight away because of these pains. It’s sad really. I am just so tired of hoping every month than come crashing down. I even thought about stopping this and stick with one child but I just can’t give up my dreams. If it was to go on longer than a year not sure what I will do than.
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Hanging in with you maximus. I have lost all hope at various points in on cycle 12 for #1 so I guess all I can say is hang in there keep the faith and love your little one as they are living proof that you can get pregnant so I'm sure it will happen again for you. Hugs x
thanks nikkibiscuit, my AF arrived yesterday so I am feeling better now, and again getting my hopes up for next month. I wish there was a way to stop thinking about TTC but there isn't. I mean it's always in my mind even though I am not obsessing anymore, you can't forget about it really can you, it's impossible like around ovulation time and after especially. I booked a holiday in June so I am really excited about that, getting involved more with more hobbies etc.. I just want to get pregnant and have a healthy baby. I said to my husband last night all that sex in 10 months and no baby how strange. I mean why did I even use protection before, I even said we never have to use protection haha
I am sure it will happen just not knowing when , it could be another year or so ... I hope you can get pregnant too soon fingers crossed for you.
I am sure it will happen just not knowing when , it could be another year or so ... I hope you can get pregnant too soon fingers crossed for you.
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You’re right about thinking about ttc. It’s impossible to not have it on your mind. Even when I distract myself during the tww it’s still there in the back of my head, when we’re having sex and when AF comes. I have endo too and 2 laps to get rid of it. He gave me 6 months to try and conceive and when I last saw him he thinks it’s stressing about Ttc that’s stopping us now. My OH doesn’t like me mentioning baby making ever since but I don’t know how to just not think about it! Part of me thinks my endo is coming back (I’ve been getting pains that are like what I had before my surgeries) but the other half does wonder whether all the sadness and stress is getting to me. I’m on cycle 9 now so not far behind you.
Just tired of all the waiting.
Just tired of all the waiting.
Hi cdk500 our journey seems very similar with endo coming back or it’s something else. I am just so over it at the moment. Next month we are going to try conceive plus lube let’s see if it helps other than get my hopes up. I really hope we get pregnant soon otherwise I don’t know what to do
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I know, I’m just losing hope.
When I saw my gyno I was really surprised he jumped straight to stress being my barrier to ttc. I’ve had endo for years (mostly undiagnosed) and the first round of surgery didn’t stop it coming back. I had a second rround of surgery last year to clear it again. So to say he thinks it’s just stress shocked me a little. At the same time I can’t deny stress isn’t playing a part.
Before my second surgery I saw a different doctor - someone who worked on my consultant’s team - and he said that if I can’t conceive within 4 months after the lap, I wouldn’t be able to at all because endo will come back in that time...so being on cycle 9 now is a worry. He said I would need to then get my tubes removed and start ivf. However when I saw the head consultant back in March he told me just to keep trying (and that’s when he blamed stress). Feel like I get told different things every time I go to the hospital.
My cynical side is thinking that maybe the hospital has had its ivf funding cut and they’re putting it off until I’ve been trying for longer. I don’t know, there’s not much I can do about it but keep trying. Even if it’s just a massive waste of time if my endo actually is back.
I’ve thought about the conceive plus lube - to be honest it’ll help with those times when I really can’t be bothered with sex but feel less me I need to because it’s the “right time”. Hope it works for you....and if it does I’ll get some! Lol. I remember it being a bit pricey
When I saw my gyno I was really surprised he jumped straight to stress being my barrier to ttc. I’ve had endo for years (mostly undiagnosed) and the first round of surgery didn’t stop it coming back. I had a second rround of surgery last year to clear it again. So to say he thinks it’s just stress shocked me a little. At the same time I can’t deny stress isn’t playing a part.
Before my second surgery I saw a different doctor - someone who worked on my consultant’s team - and he said that if I can’t conceive within 4 months after the lap, I wouldn’t be able to at all because endo will come back in that time...so being on cycle 9 now is a worry. He said I would need to then get my tubes removed and start ivf. However when I saw the head consultant back in March he told me just to keep trying (and that’s when he blamed stress). Feel like I get told different things every time I go to the hospital.
My cynical side is thinking that maybe the hospital has had its ivf funding cut and they’re putting it off until I’ve been trying for longer. I don’t know, there’s not much I can do about it but keep trying. Even if it’s just a massive waste of time if my endo actually is back.
I’ve thought about the conceive plus lube - to be honest it’ll help with those times when I really can’t be bothered with sex but feel less me I need to because it’s the “right time”. Hope it works for you....and if it does I’ll get some! Lol. I remember it being a bit pricey
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