Your thoughts please.....

[Jen & Her Men]

On "wetting the babies head" party for the dads.

My DH (or not so D at the moment grrr) has announced to me this morning that on the 9th March, 2 weeks after the baby is due to be born, he is off out to celebrate his first borns birth with a wetting the babies head do thing.

I immediately felt myself get p*ssed off. I mean is that not just a bit out dated??! I carry him, get fat, have all the symptoms, go through the labour, give birth, etc etc etc and he gets to go out and get drunk?? It doesnt seem fair to me some how.

I am feeling ultra sensitive and pregnant today though so i dont know if Im being unfair at feeling like hitting him over the head with the nearest blunt object. Whats your perspective on this ladies? Should I just go buy some chocolate and chill out or do I have a point?

 

[lisa&alex]

no i dont think its old fasioned...if alex wants to go and celebrate it he can gladly go, i would ask him to move it to a month after its due jsut incase baby is late.

 

[Kimbo]

you have a point

 

[ella]

I personally don't think it is a big deal - but a bit insensitive to be thinking about nights on the p*ss so soon after your baby is born. Men are thick though!

 

[Kimbo]

sorry i turned my reply into a moan about men thread

 

[lisa&alex]

kim.. thats coz he aint had chance.. uv bought everything!! theres nothign else to buy!!!

no im just kidding. dont fret! shes not born yet.

 

[Kimbo]

kim.. thats coz he aint had chance.. uv bought everything!! theres nothign else to buy!!!

no im just kidding. dont fret! shes not born yet.

he's been offered a job in spain and im praying to God that he takes it

 

[youngmumtobe20]

personally, i'd let him... i think that by that point i'd be glad of a night in on my own to have some private time with bubs. i've got a feeling that i'll be competeing for attention lol or... if you felt like it, you could invite some grilfriends round for a an evening in... a few nibbles (courtesy of the local takeaway cos im sure u wont feel like cooking) and just chill a bit (but of course that all depends on how you're feeling and if bubs is a quiet one or constantly vying for your attention lol)

who knows... your LO might be late and then ur DH cant go out for his lil planned evening anyway, i'd say yes and hope for that scenario
mean? maybe.. but im sure thats the way id think if i was annoyed with my OH

 

[jenna]

he is off out to celebrate his first borns birth

i think thats a nice idea. Dont see it as just another time to get wasted. He wants to celebrate!!

 

[Jen & Her Men]

Thanks ladies. I feel really mean now!! I havent actually responded to what he said. Just been a bit sulky. So I will pretend that Ive just been busy working hard and tell him its not a problem!!
Dont you just hate days when everything feels like a major issue?! I cried in M&S before which was just plain embarrassing!!!

 

[Squiglet]

kim.. thats coz he aint had chance.. uv bought everything!! theres nothign else to buy!!!

no im just kidding. dont fret! shes not born yet.

he's been offered a job in spain and im praying to God that he takes it

I don?t want him over here

I though the tradition of wetting the baby's head was when the dads got kicked out of the ward after the baby is born and they go off and get p*ssed... thats what my dad and my ex (mind you my ex did it every night )

 

[Gem & Leland]

thats what u thought ! i thought it was when u were in hossy lol


tbh , im a bitch to live with right now and brian will probably derserve a night out , altho not as if his helping me at all now and doesnt derserve anything lol

 

[Kylie1007]

Sounds like an excuse to go out with his mates. If it was a real celebration to wet the baby's head I think he might have arranged for people to come around to your house and involve you & the baby!

 

[Jen & Her Men]

Sounds like an excuse to go out with his mates. If it was a real celebration to wet the baby's head I think he might have arranged for people to come around to your house and involve you & the baby!

I have to say I agree with you Kylie. Im trying to be good about it but it still "feels" wrong to me if you know what I mean.

 

[Kylie1007]

If I put myself into your shoes I would be mad actually! If he's that "into" having a celebration to wet the baby's head, why don't you invite people around to your house for drinks on a Saturday or Sunday afternoon? After all, you're doing all the hard work at the moment and it's not just his baby!

 

[Kylie1007]

..or if he's that keen on celebrating the baby, he can look after it that day while you go to a spa for a pamper session!

 

[Jen & Her Men]

..or if he's that keen on celebrating the baby, he can look after it that day while you go to a spa for a pamper session!

Ooooooo now I LIKE that idea!!!

 

[UmmAli]

Not being British I didn't know about this tradition...

...but it does sound a bit selfish!, I mean, when your baby is 2 weeks old you are gonna need him there!...i think that's a very bad timing for him to go enjoy himself while you are gonna have your hands full...

If he was my husband I'd tell him not to go

 

[paradysso]

if mu OH wanted to go out with his mates to celebrate becoming a daddy then i would let him, same as i know if my girl friends wanted to go out once im healed etc, he would let me.

my OH doesnt come across as the best daddy whilst im pregnant, hes not fussed with alot of it, he wont buy any thing or get excited about any thing. , but i know hes just trying to ignore the fact baby is coming as hes got less petience then me and hates the whole 9 month wait, i have to make him come to scans etc

but once baby is here it all changes, he becomes the world best daddy, he was excited about changing the first nappy, doing the first bath, he was like a kid in a sweet shop. he cant do enough to help me with the baby. really he did every thing for first 3 monts as i was quite ill for a while.

i think men prefer visual things so hes excited when theres actually a baby to fuss over. plus men must feel like a spare part, they have nothing to do really until labour, i really cant imagine what it must feel like expecting a baby and not carrying it or feeling it inside you

 

[emma28]

I encourage mine to go out. I'm b!oody terrible to live with anyway and he deserves a treat sometimes. I'm sure he needs to vent at his mates bout how hormonal I am, and it's better than a row! Plus I'm sure I'll be out asap with my friends, telling them what a pain he is....

For who ever suggested drinks at home....sounds madness to me. You've got enough to do, you're still tired and emotional, you'd have to do some kind of nibbly rubbish and then they wouldn't go home when you wanted them to, you'd have all the tidying up to do. You DH will be p!ssed and no help whatsoever and your baby will be chewed to bits by people wanting to hold him and sqeeze his cheeks!! I'm knackered just thinking of it.