Will sex hurt?

[crackers24]

I had a second degree tear and its been six weeks i havent tried sex. I dont feel pain anymore but was wondering whether it would hurt during sex.
Thanks

 

[Laur_250]

This is gonna sound really bad but I had no tears/stitches and yet have found it really uncomfertable since, I'm not trying to make you feel bad just trying to say that i think once you've had a baby it is likely to be uncomfertable for a while, when I enquired about this I was told it can be up to a year to feel normal again. Alot of it is where you are tense though so get some lube!!xx

 

[Sherlock]

Probably yes. No word of a lie, it was sodding painful when we tried it the first few times. Maybe more than that. Its scar tissue and isn't as flexible as non scar tissue.

 

[daftscotslass]

Everyone is different hun. I had a nasty second degree tear and a lot of stitches and we tried at 8 weeks. It was fine. It felt a bit different but definitely not uncomfortable or painful for me. Just try to be relaxed about it and don't put too much pressure on yourself to do it before you feel ready to

 

[trixipaws]

sex was extremely painful for me but i put pressure on myself and tried it after less than 2 weeks after the birth. i wasnt ready, but desperate to prove a point to myself that i was still sexy it was stupid i ended up nearly in tears every time which definately isnt sexy! you will know when youre ready dont do it before you are

 

[lisa282]

You wont know until you try hun I had second degree tears with both my babies, although the first was far more extensive. After my first baby I didnt even attempt sex for about 3 months after the birth as I was too scared!! I have to admit it was very uncomfortable even after that amount of time, although tbh I think a lot of that was because I was so tense and nervous about it, rather than it actually being painful iykwim? After my second baby I felt more comfortable much more quickly and never experienced the same amount of pain or discomfort despite my tear, and we attempted sex after about 6 weeks, which was absolutely fine

At the end of the day it is bound to feel a bit wierd and uncomfortable, you have just had a baby, but the best thing to do is try not to get tense and worked up about it as this will magnify it no end and may make it feel worse than it actually is. Just relax and enjoy it! x

 

[maybebaby]

Like the others have said it could just be uncomfotable but might really hurt. Also if you're breastfeeding you may need to use some lubricant as the bfing can make you dry down below. Just try to relax and don't put any pressure on yourself.

 

[ASD123456]

I first had sex after 6 weeks and tbh it didn't hurt at all. I had had 2 glasses of wine though so was relaxed. I had a 8 stiches too. Go for it, take it slow and make sure OH takes your lead.

Good luck

xxx

ETA: he now thinks it's better than before and has defo gone back to normal

 

[krissie23]

Probably yes. No word of a lie, it was sodding painful when we tried it the first few times. Maybe more than that. Its scar tissue and isn't as flexible as non scar tissue.

I have to agree, it was bloody painful when we first tried it, which was about 7 weeks after giving birth. I had a second degree tear and a lot of stitches, and I wouldn't have dared to try it before then so we waited.. after a few months though when everything had healed it was fine, but it did take a good few months for it to start feeling 'normal' down there again!

 

[barbiex]

i tried sex 6 weeks after birth and it felt a little uncomfortable at first but i really enjoyed it. it felt much more intense and much better and has been since! and i had stiches due to tears etc x

 

[millylillyrose]

i had 2 internal tears and wasnt given the all clear for sex untill 8 weeks. /

we tried it then and goodness, i felt like id been stiched up and was being torn apart. not nice, but when i talked to my dr about it she said that often when exclusivly BF'ing, the body's way of preventing you getting pregnany is to make you not desire sex as much and she said it could take anywhere from 6-12 months to be normal.
I havnt tried again since poor OH.

 

[berit87]

I did it about 6 weeks after giving birth and it did not hurt at all really. But I had also had a few glasses of wine, that might've helped x