Why touch the bump?!

[handbagqueen]

I mean really? Its sooooo rude. I went to a work do last night and 3 ladies kept feeling my bump. Not just a fleeting touch either, they were vigourously rubbing it at some points
I've never been a skinny minnie and have always been self conscious about my body so this has really upset me. I tried telling them politely, then I made a joke about it, then I almost went to smack one of them in the mouth (though better of that one though as need to keep work sweet!) Seriously i don't get this belief that my flabby tummy is now public property just cos theres a baby in there! I would never dream of touching someone else.
I was already fed up cos I didn't get out of work till late and had to make my way down to the other side of London for this do and nearly everyone was already drunk when I got there. They all stank and I had to stop myself from gagging when they were breathing all over me and then to be molested by these women! I feel violated

 

[xJodieLoux]

Aww, sounds like you had rubbish night.

I'm going to a party on saturday night which I'm kind of excited about (haven't been out for ages) but at the same time I'm dreading it. I've got a feeling people might touch my bump and I've always been self concious of my belly, it's my worst/flabbiest feature. I don't want anybody to touch it, it's my belly Also I'm dreading the fact that everybody will be drunk too

 

[Strangeness]

People in work always touch my bump. I used to hate it but I'm used to it now

 

[*Star*]

i've never really had that problem!
but yes, the few times people did i hated it!

 

[Mrs_Jay]

argh i dont know why ppl think they can touch your stomach now just coz ur pregnant, coz well no one in there right mind would do it if you werent

 

[handbagqueen]

When I 'pop' and have a more obvious pregnant belly then I don't think I'll mind so much but I felt like they were going to go away saying to eachother 'cor ain't she flabby!'

 

[handbagqueen]

argh i dont know why ppl think they can touch your stomach now just coz ur pregnant, coz well no one in there right mind would do it if you werent

Thats exactly what i think- it's still my belly! my own flesh, my tummy- its not a baby yet!

 

[Mrs_Jay]

When I 'pop' and have a more obvious pregnant belly then I don't think I'll mind so much but I felt like they were going to go away saying to eachother 'cor ain't she flabby!'

aww im sure they werent thinking that tho

 

[abcd1234]

I HATE being touched, i wouldnt even let my best mate touch my bump until recently
Customers in work are always going OMG you've grown so much since we last came in!! And staff sometimes touch too! luckily the ones who actually know me always ask before they touch, and im fine with that.
But lets be honest, ive nearly screamed at soemone before for touching my hair on a bus so why now im pregnant should my belly be regareded any differently

 

[daftscotslass]

When folk do this to me I do it back to them regardless of whether or not they're pregnant. They don't like it and get the message!

The biggest problem I had was children at work, it got so bad that one was even inviting others who weren't touching to have a feel! She soon got the message when I said "watch out, it bites"

 

[Mildly]

Luckily I haven't had anyone except my OH and my Dad and Grandma try to touch. I really don't want strange random people touching me though, I mean people don't touch fat men's bellies do they? I'm thinking I might just scream if someone does and say it hurts

Eww to bump molestation though, we should all get ourselves those 'Don't touch the bump' t-shirts

 

[millylillyrose]

now there is no way ill be letting people touch my stomach!!! i just say no if someone asks and i dont feel bad about it at all, its MY stomach, just cuz a baby is in it doesnt mean just anybody can touch me, UGH!
My sister trys to all the time, and i dont even show yet, it pisses me off!

 

[Sandi4Paul]

did they ask first?

I have had one person who wants to feel a kick and if it happens when she is close by i would let her touch, but that isn't a general thing for everyone to cop a feel.

If someone didn't ask i would probably use it as a perfect excuse to let off some of the pregnancy agner hormones.

Sandi

 

[handbagqueen]

Nah they didn't ask at all and I even explained to one of them that it isn't nice but she kept doing it. I knew I'd have a problem with it as I used to discuss it with my old manager when she got pregnant. We both thought it was so rude to do it and I would never ever dream of touching someone like that- I'm not very tactile anyway- (except with my dh) so I found it even more absurd that people know this and still touch me like that!

 

[Penstraze]

Aww sounds like you had a lousy night
When my sister was pregnant I didn't get to see her much and really missed getting to see her bump grow so the few times I got to see her I really wanted to touch her bump and feel alittle conection or something to my nephew I know she was feeling quite self concious about it and didn't really let other people touch it so I would totally have understood if she said no but was so touched that she let me I'd never have dreamed of doing it without asking and thats my sister let alone someone at work or something!

 

[bowmanzoo]

I've not really had many problems with this pregnancy but I think it helps that it is still winter weathr and so I'm still wearing jumpers and coats when I go out anywhere. I think when the hot weather comes in and bump is more visable then I will be under attack from the tummy rubbers I think the only person other than my hubby is his step sister and I really don't mind her as it's just larking about and I did it with her when she was pregnant. We just love to wind each other up and I expect it will continue until baby is born.

I hate people saying oh arent you getting fat even when they're just joking but I usually say yeah well i'm pregnant, whats your excuse usually shuts them up.

 

[xkikix]

It just gets worse as you get bigger hun!!

I have randoms at work who dont normally speak to me really fondle my bump!! This lady actually ran across reception when she saw me and started vigorusly rubbing saying "oh i love to feel a bump!" GET LOST!!!

I love hubby and my mum and sis feeling it tho!

 

[NickyB]

I'm scared of getting this! I've got a flabby tummy too, and so I don't want people touching me when I have a bump. I guessing asking if they can feel a kick is different.

I'm already very conscious of people looking at it or talking about it. I hope they're not just seeing chub! I'll have to get you a pic soon, but I'm a bit too shy to even do that!

 

[dannii87]

Argh how annoying! We have a horrible neighbour who is SOOOO nosey and just "in your face" I haven't told her I'm pregnant - and planned this line especially for her;

We were doing the bins last week and she said "ooooh how far gone are you?" and touched THE BUMP I just said "I'm not pregnant" with a bemused face and she apologised and went to quickly run in - I laughed and just said "nearly 18 weeks" - Hope that taught her a lesson

 

[handbagqueen]

Thats so funny, I might do that one if someone random goes to touch it! I work as a building manager and some of my tenants have started to really stare at my bump. I'm not hiding it as much- even though I still think it looks like flab!- and I'm just waiting for who has the courage to ask me the question! Can't wait...