Why cant I relax into my Pregnancy??

[First Baby White]

Just wondered if anyone else felt the same, I am constantly worrying about every ache and pain and find myself so stressed with it all that I feel I am missing out on enjoying my pregnancy.

At the moment I am really worrying about getting to 24 weeks and being viable that I am constantly counting down the days and counting back the same amount of days I have left and seeing when that was and thinking whether that felt long ago or not

I just feel I am becoming obsessive and dont know what to do to relax. My Collegue is 4 weeks ahead of me and doesnt even keep track of how far gone she etc and I just wish i could be that relax.

Am I the only one like this? Is it normal? It is really starting to get me down

 

[Becs]

It's natural to have fears and everybody does. Don't worry. I was quite keen to get past 24 weeks to. I feel much more relaxed now and am feeling really centered and happy with this pregnancy malarky these days. Just keep a mantra to yourself that today you are well, baby is well and all is fine. I promise it helps. Just tell yourself that everytime you feel anxious. Think about the here and now and the days will pass and you will see that all is great!

Bxxx

 

[ASD123456]

You've basically written down how I feel most of the time. I'm always worrying about one thing or another. At the moment it is my 20 week scan (not until 22+5wk), and the 24 week viability thing. I'm sure after that it'll change to soemthing else. At the beginning it was 12 weeks, then it became 13 because I read that was when the risk actually stopped etc.

I too wish I could just relax and stop worrying about everything. I'm hoping this is normal and we are not two crazy women!

Alex xxx

 

[Sandi4Paul]

I'm hoping this is normal and we are not two crazy women!

make that three crazy women


Sandi

 

[Little miss pink]

Make that 4 - apart from i could write for another hour more how much more neotic i am.

But i think its perfectly normal. We probably haven't cared about anything so much in our lives before its our little baby inside of us and we are very protective over it and i think thats normal!! And good - it means we care. To be honest i'd be more worried if you didn't feel how you do!! Don't beat yourself up for careing! I think its the worry of what other people think that makes us feel neorotic. I realised i'm fine with worrying about my LO i was just worried if other people thought i was OTT. But I'm starting to relax and know its normal and i fluctuate from being really excited and enjoying ever minute to being consumed with worry and fretting over little things.

Anyway BTW i've been meaning to say this all day

HAPPY HALF WAY TO US BOTH




Take care hun - what your feeling is perfectly normal in my opinion!!

LMP x

 

[First Baby White]

Thanks LMP, I have been wanting to post that as well but thought people might think we were mad ha ha!!!

The 20 week count down begins......

 

[Sydneysmum]

It's perfectly normal.

When I was pregnant first time around I worried my way to the 12 week scan, then the 20 week, then the 24 week mark, then the birth.
Then I worried about every sniffle and breath when he was born.
Then I worried about each developmental stage and when he would walk.
Then I worried about the terrible twos and potty training.
Then I worried about him starting school.
Then I worried about his SATS scores in English and Maths.
Soon, I'll worry about puberty, girls and motor bikes - it's never ending!

He's a loving, healthy and well adjusted little boy and as LMP points out, I've never cared more about anything in my life.

Needless to say, this time I'm trying to be not so worried!

 

[Miss.Monroe]

thats it Sydneysmum! its never ending! my mums fretting and waiting for me to get to 24 weeks now!

 

[bowmanzoo]

it's quite normal hun, I am thinking this is your 1st time of being pregnant so even more reason to be nervous as you havent done it before. I am more relaxed this time but thats only because i'm on my 4th pregnancy so done that got the t-shirt kind of thing. I've had niggly pains and last night they were quite painful and stopped me in my track but I was quite relaxed about it although did go to the toilet to check for bleeding and there wasnt any so I relaxed back down. Baby has been kicking today so everything is fine. It's quite normal to get the odd pain here and there as your body is expanding to fit a little baby in there. Only worry if the pain is really painful stopping you doing normal day to day things or joined with bleeding. Even bleeding isnt always something to worry about unless you're drenching pads ect. I'm not saying don;t get checked out though if u have the above at any point but i'm saying minor aches and pains is normal and it's normal to panic. Try and enjoy the pregnancy as there will be more worries when baby arrives