who is being selfish, me or OH?

[positivity :)]

so we were just having a lovely chat about the baby arriving, OH said once he's here he would like to start thinking about the second one by the time our little man is 1.

i agreed and we both felt it would be good to get it out the way (in the nicest possible way) so that we have our children and can move on with our family life together. i agreed but then said, that's fine, except if its another boy, then we will also have another one after that so we get a girl.

OH then says, no way! a max of 2 kids, if its another boy then i will have to accept i'm not gonna have a girl i know this is all very premature but its upset me, i know it may sound silly but i can't imagine life without at least one of each!

what do you girls think, my OH is coming from an entirely practical and financial sense so i can see why he says this but.........one day.....i want a girl!!

xx

 

[pinkyprincess]

I think he might change his mind once the baby's here! No matter how much or little money you have there are ways of making it work!! Xx

 

[Piglet10]

WSS!!! xx

 

[ZMD]

He may change his mind Hun, But i hate to say Im the same as your OH! we have a 9 month old little girl plan to ttc next year and i've said even If its a girl that's it even though OH would love a boy, i say this because our house is to small for more than 2 and we haven't the money to move. If our circumstances change then id happily have more than two x

 

[vickib_1984]

i agree with pinkyprincess i think when your little man is here he will change his mind xxxx

 

[knopk@]

I can see where your OH is coming from but as girls said people do change their mind. My OH wants two but we will see how it goes

 

[Olive]

I agree with the other ladies hun. He might change his mind come next year. And hopefully, next pregnancy you'll have a little girl anyway

xxx

 

[marshma]

I don't think he will know if he will want a third until after number two comes tbh, it all very well saying i will only have x amount of children but the reality of it is probably much different

 

[Lilmoomin]

Ash was same hun & we ended up with 2 boys plus I had the problems with the Pre-eclampsia! 10 years down the line, he changed his mind!! I am high risk pre-eclampsia again and we are skint, but we are finally getting our little girl Just think of it this way hun, you might be one of those who gets one of each I am 99.9% sure he will change his mind if you get 2 boys x x x

 

[l_maclean]

Dont stress about it just now hon (easier said than done im sure) - but for a start you might get the girl your hoping for, and if not - well you cross that bridge when you come to it - one or both of you might feel totally different with 2 little boys to be running about after.

xxx

 

[1986princess]

He will change his mind! My oh has a son from a previous relationship and now were expecting twin boys( we think to be confirmed) he has said it would be nice to try and get a girl later on wen were ready even though 3 Is enough really! He said he would be happy to have another. At first he was like twins and that's enough! He will change honest x

 

[nik106]

I'd see how things go, he may change his mind. My OH was desperate for a little boy but when they told us we were expecting a girl, he had tears in his eyes, but good tears. He wants to keep having babies until we get a boy but something tells me that if we only ever have girls, in the long run, he'll be happy!

 

[Pickledonions]

id keep trying personally haha

 

[pinkyprincess]

I've heard that there are ways of helping to influence the conception of a certain sex. Don't know how true this is tho!

 

[l_maclean]

Ive heard that to pinky - my mates auntie was determined to have a girl after two boys - and she said theres something to do with when you have sex in relation to ovulation - cant quite remember which way may round it is - but think its that X sperm tends to live longer - so if you have sex 4 days before ovulation you have more chance of getting a girl - where as at a day before ovulation - you're more likely to concieve a boy.

and - she got her girl!!!


Just had a quick google cos I couldnt quite remember - http://www.disabled-world.com/artman/publish/baby.shtml

 

[Susanne]

I don't think either of you are being selfish, it's just a matter of your OH thinking with his brain and you thinking with your heart. Neither is right or wrong, just different. Hopefully you'll have a girl next time, and then there will not have to be any further arguments!

 

[positivity :)]

aw thanks girls

i suppose you are all right! i'm being totally premature anyway but i just really really want a girl one day!!!! xxx

 

[Jayceesmumma]

I dont think anyone is ever financially ready for children..
He can never say never, its not fair.. would he be okay with two girls?
He cant say he only wants two kids and thats it, coz u never know what life brings!