When does it get easier?

[maldives]

I hope I am posting at the right place.
I need to know something. really i feel soo tired and exhausted but at what age does it get easier to take care of a child? is being a toddler easier than a baby? what age exactly u felt that ur child started to be independent? I am freaking out as I am expecting a second while my first is almost 5 months old! I didn't plan it but it happened! I need to see the light at the end of the tunnel coz to me. it feels like forever!

 

[Squiglet]

I'm going to upset you... but its harder having an older baby than one smaller imo... at least when you put a little one down, they are still there when you come back... and not screaming cos they've trapped their fingers in doors, head butted the coffee table yada yada yada..

 

[Babylicious]

when they leave home

 

[Sammystar]

lol!

Mine are five, four and 20 months, and I'm still waiting!!



(if it helps, I was PG with number two at the same time you were. I coped. You just do! Once you hit tri 2 it will get better )

 

[Kylie1007]

I think that each stage has its challenges!!! Finn is a year old and although its nice that he can "do things" now, he needs constant entertaining and chasing after.
You get rid of one phase and another comes in!!! When he was your baby's age, he went through a stage of having inconsolable screaming sessions and the moment I began to wean him, it stopped!

 

[aramintalovegrove]

Really sorry to say but I found DS only got 'easy' when he turned 7/8 years due to the fact I got some peace once in a while as that is when he started entertaining himself a little.

Kids go through ebbs and flows of needing attention, awkward stages,boundary pushing etc etc.

Its a full time job until they leave home, seriously, if you ask me!

Enjoy it when you have an easier period and cling onto the fact one will be round the corner when its rough.

 

[Rubys mummy]

I have always been maternal but WOW I had a shock with my own

I HATED the first 6 weeks-got easier at 3 months as she was responsive and it was fun....then it sort of goes in fits and starts since then!!

She is nearly 2 now, and I love this age-she is talking, walking and soooo funny but still VERY hard work!

Sending you BIG hugs xxxx

 

[newmum]

Somethings get easier but it does seem to be two sides of the same coin.

I am happy that I don't have to carry her around, facing forwards for hours and hours a day because she couldn't sit but wanted to see everything. On the other hand, she just uses walking to find me and make me pick her up so I still end up carrying her around just with an extra 5 kilos now.

Feeding used to drive me up the wall when she would get so distracted and I wanted her to feed so she wouldn't 'starve' or get cranky. Glad that she is weaned. But now she just spits her food out, throws it off the highchair, rubs it into my clothes etc.

But tbh I did find a lot of things easier once she was walking.

 

[sarah113]

im still waiting for it to get easier too my lot are nearly 5 nearly 4 nearly 3 and haydens 19 months

 

[BabyMagic]

My LO is not that much older than yours but I have felt that it has been getting easier all the time. LO is in a lovely stage at the moment - happy to sit down and play on her own, laughs a lot and just seems to enjoy life. She is happy to be taken out for lunches/ shopping etc.

I thought that she was a delight a few months ago, but for me it has just been getting better and better. We still play together, but my place in great condition as I have loads of time to tidy up etc.

She still wakes up a lot at night but that has never bothered me (we co-sleep).

I am not expecting this to last when she starts crawling properly and walking though - or maybe that stage will be lovely in it's own way.

I do hope that it gets that little bit easier for you in the next couple of months - particularly if you suffer from morning sickness.

Congratulations on your new pregnancy. I know it will probably be tough for you, but I am sure your LOs will appreciate to have a playmate with such a short age gap

 

[Redshoes]

Try not to see things as easy or hard, because we all have good and bad days, its normal Having had my second baby I do think babies are very easy, although Isaac was a screamer and I'd never do him as a baby again ever lol Isaac is now a lot easier in that he can sit and read books with you, obviously he can't read yet but he loves to sit and have you read to him, he also likes to look at his sister and watch me with her, he's very interested in everything and its very inspiring I find, he's quite amazing but he also has his toddler tantrums, which are awful, but he's a toddler so I go with it. What I'm saying is he is now communicating and learning and not a baby anymore and its great to see the personality spilling out, obviously its going to trying at times but all relationships are. The problem I have with Isaac is that I think we get a bit fed up with each other as we spend SO MUCH time together, having Ophelia has actually been a great addition in our case, and he does adore her, and she will sit for hours just watching him, please think positive, its not necessarily going to be hard, just challenging as others have said, but there's no reward without challenge

 

[maldives]

Thanks all for ur great replies..
Sorry i didn't reply sooner.
well I guess it's a challenge as most of u say. and I think some mums have the skills to master parenting better than others. I still lack alot of skills as I get worried, upset, panic..u name it!
I seriously think now I don't want to get pregnant again for at least 10 years! I am only 25 now and number 2 is on the way and i can hardly cope with my baby!
it's tough and i think what makes it more tough the fact i am having trouble with my family atm. and my mom is not talking to me unless i call and when i call she isn't bothered to talk and I miss her soo much!
I really need support from my family.
sorry I've turned into a completely different topic i just felt upset and wanted to talk to u girls

 

[Emma58]

when they leave home

I'm thinking this is true. George is almost 13 and by god do i know it! He is hard work at the moment getting him to crack a smile is rare, everything and everybody is boring.

Sam is a terror, as Squiglet said at least when they are little they are in the same place you left them. Sam is always crawling to things he can't touch, trying to stand up in somewhere not safe . If i put him in his travel cot he will sometimes play for a short time but then becomes bored because there is no mischief he can create whilst in it.