When are we having sex again postnatally?

[Melanie3103]

So... If u dont mind me asking/getting a consensus on how we are feeling about it....

My little one is 6wks old tomorrow, and while i had a natural vaginal birth - i did suffer a 3rd degree tear which needed theatre-surgery postbirth to fix.

Wondering when is normal to start feel like having sex again... My hubby is great and so supportive/understanding (we only did it a handful of times during pregnancy in fact lol!)... I couldnt wait to not be pregnant in that respect - regain sexdrive, to feel more comfortable, less fat, and no longer have all the unattactive symptoms of pg like discharge etc etc... So as i start to feel mentally more ready to 'jump back on' lol... Are the rest of u feeling up for it yet?

I know hubby is keen and hes not pressuring me at all...

Those that have tried again - did it go ok? Bit concerned it might hurt.... Assume thats a definite possibility right? Anyone care to shre their experience ?

Hope u dont mind my asking xx

 

[naomip]

I think we're going to try this weekend. My lo is 8 weeks old and we haven't done it yet. Like you we hardly did it during pregnancy either. I had an episiotomy so I'm quite scared too x

 

[hayes]

We dtd after l had my 6 wk check up n then went back on the pill so was probably about 8 wks n all was fine I was very nervous but all felt the same. He's 17wks on weds n we dtd about once a week if I'm not knackered lol.

Michelle.x

 

[Melanie3103]

We dtd after l had my 6 wk check up n then went back on the pill so was probably about 8 wks n all was fine I was very nervous but all felt the same. He's 17wks on weds n we dtd about once a week if I'm not knackered lol.

Michelle.x

Did it hurt ? Did u have a tear?
Thanks for sharing x

 

[heatheror12]

I had a episiotomy and 2nd degree tear. Had sex when son was 10weeks. Didn't hurt at all was just uncomfy. X

 

[kedi376]

I had an episiotomy with my first and I think we waited until about 8 weeks. Had a 2nd degree tear with the 2nd and she is now 5 weeks old. I know OH is keen and I feel ok down there so am happy to try, we just need to sort contraception out first.

I remember from my first it didn't hurt but was more uncomfortable and OH had to go slow. It was hard to relax which didn't help, as I was too scared it might hurt. I would recommend trying with some lubrication to start with, makes things a little easier if you are tense.

 

[Melanie3103]

Thanks all - think im just nervous after tear and stitches. I doubt it will be as bad as i think, and i feel ready at least. Thata half the battle.

 

[hayes]

I had a second degree tear n no it didn't hurt hun.

Michelle.x

 

[Msclaireypants]

I had a third degree tear and 16 internal and external stitches. I was actively in pain day to day so we waited until 16 weeks after birth to try. It was very painful. It was less painful with each try. Only do it when you're ready if you're worried and tense then it'll make it uncomfortable for you x

 

[StaceyRainbow]

I had sex after 3 weeks I didn't have a tear but I did have a graze and needed a few stitches, I was a bit nervous but it was absolutely fine I have been doing my pelvic floor exercises, I was worried it might feel different but it didn't I think just go for it when you feel ready, to be fair in the week after giving birth I thought I'd never feel ready again! But you will know when you are

 

[Louise2013]

I am in the same boat but only three weeks' post delivery. I had a third degree tear and a lot of stitching and waiting to feel fully 'normal' again and will wait until the six week check up to try.... Same as others we hardly dtd in pregnancy anyway so my poor hubby must have blue b*lls by now!! I am planning on a) lots of lube b) a few glasses of wine and c) I will try with a erm, toy, in the week beforehand to see how it all 'feels' etc.! Good luck!! Xx

 

[Kaedin]

I had an episiotomy, but it wasn't too bad and healed pretty quickly from what I managed to see from the outside!

Still not DTD yet, been abit nervious like you - and always been waiting for my period to start to begin taking the pill. So will wait a little while longer to make sure we don't have any little accidents!

I think the main thing is to wait until your ready. If you do it and your not ready you will tense up and it will hurt (even if you didn't have a tear ect!) so just relax and wait til you do feel the time is right. And make sure hubby is slow and stops if it's uncomfy or sore for you.

 

[Gemma_22]

I did at three weeks. Had second degree year with stitches, hurt a little but just have to take it easy x

 

[JD.Deedee]

The same happened to my lady bits with the same procedure after. We did it 4? weeks pp or maybe the 5th week. Take it slow, loads of foreplay and try to relax the muscles. If you want to be safe use a condom to avoid infection just for the first time. My muscles started cramping after for ages because I had some trauma inside and it made some muscles tense up making it feel painful during sex. Physio sorted that one out.

 

[T84]

I had 11 internal stitches and was so stressed about dtd. I wanted to get it 'over and done with' so did it at 4 weeks pp. I was grand in every area bar one way up high that still stings at certain points. Hubby knows he just has to take it easy and make sure I'm ready! I also would advise lube. Everything seems super sensitive aswell so maybe I'm still a bit swollen inside. Good luck! x x

 

[Hoping for no2]

I waited about 3 months after my son. I had forceps and an episiotomy and took ages to heal down there. It hurt me to walk for months. It was painful to start with and 4 years on its still uncomfortable in certain positions but not painful. X

 

[Natalilly1288]

Don't like all these painful after forceps n episiotomy posts I'm 8 weeks pp and it's still aching down there If I walk too far or stand up too long etc feel like il never heal down there! Xxx

 

[Mummy2toddler]

i had sex with my partner when my daughter was 2-3 weeks no tears etc in labour was uncomfortable though x

 

[Louise2013]

Okay I tried it last night just over six weeks post delivery. Not painful, a little uncomfy but nothing bad at all, but afterwards I had a very very small light amount of bleeding. Nothing much at all, but it has freaked me out. It seems to be coming from the very entrance to my lady bits id that makes sense, and. I can see a small red line which I guess is the epi line, but there was no pain, just a very small amount of blood.

Did anyone else have this? Want to call mw to discuss but no longer have a contact number as I've been discharged from mw care xxx

 

[Natalilly1288]

Not sure Hun we still not even tried now 8 weeks pp! It's a mixture of me being scared n oh not wanting to either! I'd go to docs if it worried Hun xxx