Some of you will know I have 4 older stepchildren (16 & 17 year old boys and 19 & 21 year old girls). Anyway I'm now just over 17 weeks pregnant expecting my first and get the bombshell dropped on me this afternoon that the 21 year old is expecting also and is currently 6 weeks pregnant. So I'm going to be a grandmother about 2 months after I become a mother - I'm so upset, I know some of you are younger mothers but for all that she's 21 she's got her head up her a*se and smokes/drinks like a trooper, she lives in a bedsit above the pub she works in and has a boyfriend who we have never met (he's new on the scene even to her) and I can well see him getting fed up with the baby idea and walking out leaving her as a single mother doing somehting I don't think she realises how hard it's going to be, she has no money and has apparently just applied for council housing so I'm presuming claiming for benefits and giving up work will be the next thing. God I'm just so upset I feel like DH is kinda going to be going between our son and her baby and although he says he has no intention of playing the doting grandfather I wonder if that will change when he meets her baby - god I tell you between the 4 step-kids they ruined our engagement, spoiled the wedding and don't seem to be the slightest bit intersted in their baby brother - although I can just see them doting on their niece/nephew. Why did she get pregnant now? It's not like I dont want her to have children but aged 21 and sooooo immature and irrisponsible etc? I'm just upset about it, it's my turn to be pregnant and yet somehow they manage to find a way to ruin that for me too. She never comes around to see us though, she's been once and moved out 18+ months ago, we have no clue who this boyfriend is and I doubt highly that she'd bring him around to see us. I'm just upset I suppose, mine will be learning to say Mummy as the other ones starts to learn to speak and calling me Nanny....my pregnancy hormones are not helping.....She's not even told us herself she's told her sister who in turn told her Dad and said he wasn't to say anything but he told her he would be telling me as his wife and her sorta mother etc....oh god sorry for ranting, what am I supposed to do though? I feel so crappy!
What do I do? (long/rant!)
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This should have been posted in Relationships i think 
To be honest there isn't much you can do, I hope you sort it out though!
To be honest there isn't much you can do, I hope you sort it out though!
As the others have already said there isnt a lot you can do. Maybe having babies so close together will bring you closer together???
Maybe you and your husband could try talking to her and finding out what her plans actually are and maybe meeting the boyfriend? It is quite likely that she is jealous of you and your new baby!
Whatever the outcome I hope that it works out for you all.
Maybe you and your husband could try talking to her and finding out what her plans actually are and maybe meeting the boyfriend? It is quite likely that she is jealous of you and your new baby!
Whatever the outcome I hope that it works out for you all.
