What am i going to do?

[Lola's Mummy]

I'm back at work in 3 weeks time I'm going to be doing 3 days 8.30am to 5.30pm and i can't get Lola to take a bottle
I've tried all different bottles including the adiri breastbottle. I've also tried giving EBM cold from the fridge, Room temperature and warmed up.

I've even tried offering some of my nephews formula but she just won't take anything but milk from the breast
The feeds she is having at about 11am and another at 3pm are the ones i will be missing.

The only thing i can think of is traveling to feed her in my lunch hour but then i won't have time to eat!

I'm so worried about it

 

[smile]

this probably sounds stupid but.. have you tried a cup? and someone other than you giving it. Baby smile will drink anything but only from Daddy. With me it is breast milk au natural

 

[Lola's Mummy]

She will drink out of a glass or a sports bottle but only water or juice if i but milk in it she will spit it in my face

She will have cows milk on her cereals in a morning and tries to drink it from the bowl but i know she's far too young to be having it as a drink

 

[smile]

If she is on solids and juice/water hon then feed her morning and evening and she will be ok - she will be getting enough fluid andnutrition during the day and will take her milk requirement when you get home

 

[Tasha20]

Make sure you give her boob in the morning and when you get back and it will be fine hun
You may find she will feed more in the night

Oli never took booby milk from anywhere else BUT boob!!

 

[Lola's Mummy]

I have been trying to get her to drop these feeds for over a month now but she still seems to want them and will just cry and cry until i give in and feed her

My mum is going to be looking after her for me and said the crying won't bother her and she'll just leave her to get on with it. I just feel so bad and guilty about it knowing she's going to be crying for my milk and i won't be able to give it to her

I even started crying the other day when i was talking to the OH about and starting to think that i was selfish breastfeeding her knowing i had to go back to work before she would be weaned from the breast and maybe i should have just but her on formula at the start then she wouldn't have to go through this

 

[Babylicious]

maybe express some milk and let your mum try, if she wants it she'll take it from the bottle.I don't know what else to suggest

 

[Tasha20]

Oh goodness me hun, no not at all, wether you were bfing or bottle feeding she would of still been upset that you wernt there.

She loves being with her mummy! and she loves her mummys booby milk.

Leave booby milk with your mum and get her to have ago at cup feeding, it takes alot of perserverance and will.

Give it another go this week and see what happens, if shes wanting booby milk you need to leave some, she will take it if she really wants it, but she wont if your there, give her a chance, its all very new and different to her normal routine of being with you and feeding.



Your mum needs to perservere with the cup feeding and if shes not bothered by the crying im sure she will give a good shot, and keep trying.

Let her play with a cup with it in too, so she gets familiar or why not do her some momsicles?
Freeze your breastmilk and make ice poles for a treat


For every problem there is a solution, try your best to feel confident that this will work, she needs that reassurence from you

 

[valentine]

Oh Lola's Mummy, I'm sorry you are having to go through this. If you are anything like me, you will be so worried about going back to work anyway, that this is just added worry that you don't need.

I would agree with other posters who have mentioned that you should give her ample opportunity to feed from you morning and evening - I'll bet she'll take her fill of milk from you and will soon get used to doing that. It will be hard initially but going to visit her in your lunch hour is not practical and will likely only upset you both.

I would also definitely feel better that your Mum is looking after her and that she's not with a nursery or childminder who might not deal with her crying as well - you Mum sounds confident and I would put your trust in her to handle the situation well.

You HAVE NOT been selfish in breastfeeding her - I do know what you mean, but how can you think that? You have given her your milk for 9+ months, a brilliant start in life, she will reap the rewards of you feeding her throughout her childhood and life. You know this. I know you are feeling shaky about things changing, but please don't think like this.

Good luck honey, please keep us updated.

Valentine Xxx

 

[Lola's Mummy]

Thanks Valentine

I've decided to take her to my mum's for a couple of hours today and I'm going to sit upstairs out of sight to see how she gets on. I'll gradually increase the amount of time i leave her over the next 3 weeks. My mum is more than capable, She had 6 children with only 1 year 3 days between the youngest

Lola is really fond of my mum (even prefers her to OH ) I'm sure she's going to be ok and this is more of a problem for me than it will be for Lola

My sister and 9 month old nephew are going to be there when my mum has Lola as well. My sister practically lives there and Lola loves her cousin so that should really help keeping her occupied. It's likely she won't even notice I'm gone and I'm just worrying about nothing

 

[Lola's Mummy]

I didn't take her to my Mum's on Monday cause i just kept putting it off until it was too late to take her

I did take her yesterday afternoon though while i went to the supermarket. I felt sick the whole time she was there
I took her at 2pm and didn't pick her up until my mum rang me to go and get her at 5pm. My mum said if i went back too soon she would send me home again

Lola didn't cry all the time she was there I'm so proud of her

I'm going to try and take her again this afternoon but take her maybe an hour earlier.
I feel really bad about leaving her at my mums when she could be with me but i know it's better to get her used to it slowly now then just leave her there for a full day from the start

I'll let you all know how i get on with it today

 

[KJ]

Hiya,

at her age she'll be fine without a breastfeed during the day. Is she on 3 full meals of solids a day?

Asher is slightly younger and has 2 breastfeeds, one morning and one evening. He then only has 1 bottle during the day at 3.30pm. To be honest, he eats so well with his solids he wouldn't even bother if he didn't have that bottle.

I think that's the way to go for your LO. Try and get her eating 3 full meals a day and then at least you know she doesn't need the milk, it's just out of habit that she cries for it.

I think also, you'll find that when you do leave her. Leave some expressed milk with whoever is looking after her. If you're not around to give in and breastfeed her, I'm positive she'll take the bottle if she really wants the milk.

I just went back to work this week (3 days). and I was really worried abotu Ash being distraught without me. But he didn't even notice! Was really happy and good as gold! I don't think we give our babies enough credit. They're very adaptable.

K.xx

 

[maybebaby]

I had to go to work 2 days a week when DS was 3 months old and my wonderful mother and MIL (who looked after him 1 day each) brought him to me at lunch time for his feed. I just used to make a packed lunch in the morning and eat whilst he was feeding.

But he was a LOT younger than Lola is. As the others have said she'll probably be fine to drop those feeds if you're not around, or she might even be happy to take a bottle from your mum, if she knows there's no other option. I know you'll be imagining her crying the whole day but the chances are she'll have a lovely time playing with Grandma and being thoroughly spoiled

 

[Lola's Mummy]

Yeah she is on 3 solid meals a day now and she also has snacks. I know she's just doing it out of habit but I'm just finding it really hard not to give her what she wants as I'm so used to seeing to her as soon as she cries etc.

Today I've managed only to feed her now at 11.50am (she didn't want a feed when she woke up) so i think she would be ok to wait till my lunch at 12am.

I can't get to my mum's this afternoon now as my nephew's there and he's not very well. I'm going to try and get her to wait for her 3pm feed till about 5.30pm as she waited till 5pm yesterday

I think if i gradually move the times she feeds I'll be able to get her to drop them

 

[leckershell]

I would say if it was coming from somebody else I bet she'd have no trouble... Ryan does all sorts of stuff at nursery that I couldn't get him to do, like they put him in the cot and he just sleeps...! And they've shown him how to use his beaker properly whereas when I show him he tries to throw it at me.

She'll only cry for so long and then she'll think well I better get food from somewhere so this'll do. She'll just get used to when it's your mum the food comes from a bottle or a beaker, and when its mummy its boobys.

x

 

[Redshoes]

Wanted to pass on lots of Lola is being cared for and seen she gets the best by her Mummy, she will be just fine, she will probably feed a little more morning and evening like other Mummy's have said And very best wishes for going back to work too, I do hope you find you slip back into it and enjoy your work life, remember Lola would want you to be happy, you're a great Mummy

 

[Lola's Mummy]

I'm back at work in a week now

I've managed to get Lola to wait for her feeds and somedays she's not even bothered about them.
She's at my Mum's ATM and she hasn't had a feed from me all day

She will sometimes still want one when she gets tired but if you take her a walk or a ride in the car she'll fall asleep without

I'm really proud of her today 8)

 

[Babylicious]

awww thats fantastic, how many days a week are you going back? Are you still on same team?

Just think you'll get to see les again aka "skeletor" thats what we call him

 

[Lola's Mummy]

No I'm moving onto Debbie's team in collections. I don't know what I'm doing yet though. I'm going to go in next Thursday for a chat
If they are planning on giving me something crappy I'll go back to my old team

I'm going back 3 days a week

I saw Les the other week when i went in and he asked if I'd been ill cause he hadn't seen me for a while
I think old age must be getting to him We call him skeletor as well

 

[trixipaws]

melissa wouldnt take a bottle at first, but she did at 6 months. i think by 9 months she wasnt having milk during the day any more, just morning and evening bottles (i forget now! )

have u tried a beaker? i was concerned about not giving enough milk when i switched to formula and could see how much was going in; i was told to give milky product in the diet, eg. philadelphia cheese on toast and yogurts and fromage frais for desserts, get milk in that way!

hope u work something out, let us kno how u get on. xx