weak cervix. Baby kicking on cervix

[Trixie's Mum]

Hi- I'm new to the forum. I have to admit, I'm here because I have a very specific question.

I have a weak cervix. It's not that common. It essentially means that the cervix isn't too great at holding a baby in. They stitich it, but you still have to be very careful, as the cervix could still give out and end up with a very premature baby anyway. They only diagnose this after you lose a baby to the problem. We lost our son five years ago. Perfectly healthy baby. Born at 22 weeks. Just a little to young to be in with a shot.

I am currently 22 weeks pregnant. I am stitched, and being fairly well monitored. And I am keeping my activity levels very low. This baby is very active- I can feel her moving about almost all the time, it seems! This is lovely most of the time. But some of the time, it feels as if she is dancing on my cervix.
Given that my cervix is weak to start with, this makes me feel extremely anxious. I wonder whether I can only feel it because the cervix is starting to shorten (that's what they do before they open- be it unnaturally early, or just as it should be in the run up to labour). Obviously, whether or not this is good for my cervix is not something I can do anything about- all I can do is ASK the baby to stop doing it.

I was just wondering whether people without (or with!) this problem had felt their babies dancing on the cervix. It's very uncomfortable. I LOVE to feel my baby kick. But this kind of kicking just worries me.

Thanks,

Trixie's Mum (that's her bump name)

 

[claire81]

Hi

First of all sorry for the loss of your son, but congratulations on your pregnancy. Have you ever used the website SANDS?

 

[Trixie's Mum]

When we lost our son we looked to all sorts of organisations to try to get some support.
We thought SANDS would be ideal.
We wrote to them.
We emailed them (from the website? I don't remember).
We had NO reply from either.
So, frankly, we don't rate SANDS. They did not help us when we needed them.



TM

 

[Manda]

I was diagnosed with incompetent cervix without losing a baby, luckily for me i was in Australia and when i told them i'd had treatment for pre cancerous cels they made me see a specialist who the refered me to have my cervix scanned, my cervix was very short and at one point was under 1 cm, i was given the option of a stitch or to be monitored, i decided to go with being monitored but also made myself housebound, it seems extreme but it was only for a few months and i knew that if i didn;t carry long enough i'd done all i could, thankfully i carried until 35 weeks (i did initially go into labour at 33 weeks but they managed to stop it). no wi'm back in the UK i have brought allmy medical notes home so that when i TTC again they will have to keep an eye on me.

As for carrying Abi i was in agony from 15 weeks couldn't sit down or stand for long as ot felt like everything was gonna fall out

Hope things go well for you hun x

 

[Trixie's Mum]

Thanks Manda,
And (rather belated) congratulations on the birth of your daughter. I think that after having had the scare of treatment for precancerous cells- you really didn't need to lose a baby as well. I think it shows a lot of forsight on the part of your care providers that they screened for a weakness. Well done them- good for you! But I have to say, that if you have another baby and are offered a stitch, don't be afraid of it- I had a stitch for my second pregnancy, and although I had lots of rest (including seven weeks in the maternity hospital) as well, my daughter was born at term, and is now four years old! I had a stitch put in at eleven weeks in my current pregnancy, and although I worry, I'm sure I would worry more if I didn't have my stitch to keep things together if I do get shortening between scans.
You say you were in agony from 15 weeks by feeling as if everything was going to fall out- well poor you! It sounds as if your stress must have been ten times what mine is now! I'm just worried about some dancing on my cervix. If I felt that everything was bearing down in any way, I'd be in the delivery unit being checked out before you can say "preterm birth"!
Thanks for sharing.

TM

 

[claire81]

I'm sorry they did not help you in your time of need, but i was only going to say they have a forum on the website where you can ask other women who have lost babies due a weak cervix who have gone on to have other children. They will be of more halp as they know your situation.

 

[rusks]

i have no knowledge of this i just wanted to say cross your legs trixie and i hope the baby stays in as long as possible.

 

[Manda]

I had horrendous pregnancy and was at the hospital all the time lol, and unfortunatly the birth was no better, in short Abi was back to back and was born forceps after 4 1/2 hours of pushing and then i retained placenta and ended up in theatre to have it manually removed and lost half my bodys blood :-0 but after 4 blood transfusions i soon started feeling human again and i would do it all again in fact i will sometime soon i will have the stitch next time hopefully at 12 weeks i was 20 weeks when i was offered it last time, apparently they can do it up until 28 weeks, and thought i was too far gone to risk anything nasty happening from stitch .

Hope all goes well for you lot x

 

[Jayceesmumma]

Sorry for your loss and congrats on this pregnancy.. i have not idea on the subject but even when i was pregnant with my daughter it felt very low down kicking and was uncomfortable. I felt alot of pressure there at times too. I delivered har at 39 weeks so all was well.
I hope u go full term with this one, and i hope u have an enjoyable pregnancy, it must be hard worring all the way through it.