Too you to self soothe?

[pinkymum]

Need some advice please girls.
Emily has started getting quiet restless after she's been awake for a while. She's fed, changed, cuddled, sang to, rocked, warm enough etc. She just wants to fall asleep on me or while I'm walking about the Livingroom.
I'm scared she's getting into bad habits, but worried that she's too young to be left in.her basket to cry. So what do I do? She doesn't seem to be in any pain and as soon as I pick her up she's fine! I think I'd be able to leave her to cry but just not sure if that's the right thing to do.
Any advice would he great!

 

[catty1]

We have the same problem with Owen. On Monday we resorted to giving him a dummy and he's now a different baby and quite happy to lie in his basket or on his mat sucking away. Do you use one?

I see no problem with letting babies cry so long as there is nothing wrong with them. We have let Owen cry himself to sleep a couple of times and I don't think he is bothered by it really.

Let me know how you get on. Any tips welcome

 

[Esoames]

We cuddled Isla for months! i can't get enough of her. Now shes older naps are in her cot. At that age they want to be held, i spend the first 8 weeks on the sofa recovering from my section so i was more than happy to have her asleep on me.

try a dummy and see if that helps, Isla took an age to self sooth, but she happily sucks her fingers until shes asleep

 

[pinkymum]

Thanks Emma and catty!
Catty - Ive been giving her a dummy, sometimes she'll take it and other times she just spits it out. I think I'm going to have to let her cry sometimes
Emma - I love cuddling her for ages but I just don't want her to get used to always falling asleep on me. I think I'd have less trouble with letting her cry if she was a bit older, she's so wee. X x x x

 

[rbryan0205]

i would let her get drowsy on u then put her in her basket x

 

[Baby Bean]

She's so young I wouldnt worry too much about giving her too many cuddles, they say you can't spoil a baby under 6 months! Sounds like you are doing a great job hun x

 

[Yodabo]

i would let her get drowsy on u then put her in her basket x

This is what i did with Drake. I'd cuddle him till he'd just nod off and then put him down. Worked wonders.

 

[Maria1977]

I'm the same as Esoames, I couldn't get enough cuddles with my new baby. I still can't. I'm making the most of the cuddles as he'll soon be on his feet and into everything lol

Your baby is so young, I've never been able to leave oscar to cry I just can't bear to hear him upset when all he wants is comfort. I don't think a baby can be spoiled, esp a newborn. She's been with you for 9 months and doesn't realise she's still not part of you at the moment so I say cuddle away lol

xxxxxx

 

[Me, My Girls & I]

I let E do it at that age! I know they say it's wrong and stuff, all the professionals, but when you're a single parent to 2 under 13 months, sometimes needs must! I think she properly self settled about the same age Emily is now, luckily mine have always been really good with day/night recognition and she knew when it was bedtime! Don't get me wrong, if she needed cuddling/feeding she'd get it asap, but I could tell the different types of cries really early on!

 

[Elfs Mummy]

I used to cuddle Maisie to sleep at that age then one day she just didnt want to be cuddled to sleep so during the day i put her in her carseat of pushchair and shes asleep during the night its a different story

 

[amyjayne77]

Have you tried swaddling her? Mine didn't like it so much but people I know swear by it. It gives them the comfort of being held I think. Don't use one of those naff swaddling blankets, they are so flimsy, just use normal ones and tuck her all up cosy x

 

[pinkymum]

Yeah Alice when you've got bottles to make up or stuff to do its not always easy and I can imagine to look after both girls you would have to let one cry!

I did try to let her cry yesterday evening but it breaks my heart seeing her cry (softy) she's already got me wrapped round her finger haha. She seems to be able to settle herself at night, I can feed and change her and put her back down and she goes back to sleep. Tonight I've decided to put her upstairs at bedtime, she's been down with me all the time but the tv is starting to disturb her. I don't feel too nervous, I've got a good monitor and sensor mat. I'll be up and down the stairs all night but it'll be good exercise
I think I'll just be cuddling her for naps during the day.
Thanks for the reply girls, its hard to know what the right thing to do is!

 

[pinkymum]

Have you tried swaddling her? Mine didn't like it so much but people I know swear by it. It gives them the comfort of being held I think. Don't use one of those naff swaddling blankets, they are so flimsy, just use normal ones and tuck her all up cosy x

Yeah she just kicked the blanket off when I've tried! Little monkey

 

[pinkymum]

Oh I was thinking about buying a sling of some sorts so if she is upset she can be close to me but I can get stuff done. But then I have the problem.of putting it on myself! Helen123 said the moby was difficult to put on on her own at first. Anyone know of a good sling that I'd be able to put on on my own that doesn't cost a fortune?

 

[Baby Bean]

I swear by my moby and it was pretty easy to put on even the first time x