today i've been upset

[neeko_1]

today has not been a good day for me.... I've been crying and just not feeling happy i hope it's just my emotions and not something else .... but I've just been crying on and off...

but this might be partly

me and my mum are not getting on still, she still wants me to get rid of MY baby she thinks i'm not ready to bring a child into this world. I'm only 19 , 20 when i give birth but i need my mummy by my side helping me... i'm scared myself, this is the most important thing you can every do... bring up up a child, but i need her support not her anger she's know for 14 weeks now and still nothing has changed i just don't know what to do any more.. i just don't feel happy in my home and want to leave because i can't afford to be upset when i'm carrying my child...


oh sorry ladies please for give i'm just teary today

 

[Melly+2]

ive just posted on your other board hun x

 

[*saulino*]

Hi

Sorry your going through this, im sure once the big day comes she will change and once she sees her grandbaby shes gonna be sooo happy.
Also i think 19 and 20 is a good age to have babies if your ready for them im having my second at 20 and wouldnt change it now, ill be a young mommy and young grandmother
Katrina

 

[Riley's Mommy]

like you im 19 and will be 20 when i meet bean. i think its a good age. ive always wanted children young.

im sorry she is being nasty to you. i hope she will come round. id hate it if my mom wasnt supportive

 

[Becs]

Blimey Neeko, you're not a kid! Although I am now 31 and ttc I very clearly remember being 19 and 20. Yes you have a young mind but you are more than capable of raising a child. Your Mum obviously sees you as her little girl still. I recommend taking steps to plan how you would manage without your Mums help. Not in a nasty way to get at her, but seriously because it sounds like you will feel stringer knowing you are in control of the situation and not relying on an unsupporting Mother. When she sees you are serious and can clearly cope without her she will probably see the woman you have become and come round. She hardly wants to push away her own daughter and Grandchild too. But if she doesn't feel relied upon she will not assume this will be a burden for her which is probably what her concern is.

Good luck!!

 

[Jayceesmumma]

My mum was the same at first too but came round eventually. Everyone does when they see the baby lol! Are u in a stable relationship? If she knows ur well looked after then she might not worry so much hun? That was my mums main hang up, she was worried about me and my OHs relationship.

 

[*britney*]

Hunnie 19-20 is not YOUNG as in child young,you're a woman now and im sure you're more then capable of being a mother!You're not a kid ...i think she has a problem of letting you go..she'll come round when the time is right

 

[MissGobby]

hey sweetie, im sorry your mum is being like that

im sure as soon as she sees the little one (or maybe even earlier!) she will come round, it may just take a little longer with your mum!!

i (think) if i told my mum i was pregant she would have a few words to say to me and probably have the face on for a few weeks, but eventually they will come round, i suppose they just want whats best for you, but like my dad says, they have to let us live our lives!!!

good luck hunni

 

[emx279]

hiya, i fell preggers with my first when i was 19, and 20 when i gave birth at first i felt abit young but now im 23 with my 2nd i feel alot older, i feel like im 33

 

[Strangeness]

I had my son at 19 and to be honest I don't think it's such a big deal. I'm coping just as well as any mother does. My son is happy, healthy and loved so much. It's not the end of the world and you'll do just fine!