Think i may be paraniod!!

[abcd1234]

I thought i'd been really good not getting all worried about losing the baby or bad things happening and i was convinced that after 24weeks and all my scans i'd settle in nice and calmly and relax until she turned up.

However, my "baby daddy" has decided he wants to walk back in and on monday he left me letters saying he loved me and wants us all to be together etc, and i've decided i will let him talk as we need to discuse whats goin to happen with baby and birth etc, but i dont think we can be together, too much has happened.

Since monday i have been having really awful dreams about losing baby, and having her now, and baby daddy stopping me being around my baby and other people stopping me knowing what was going on etc. I physically felt sick when i woke up cos i really dont wanna lose her.

Now a few weeks ago baby gave me a scare and we ended up at the hospital cos hse wasnt moving, but trust me since then she's been none stop so god knows why i'm like this.

It only seems to be when i go to bed as well and i dont know if him trying to walk back in has had an affect. I know shes fine, shes kicking me now, grr im dreading going to bed again tonight especailly as im meant to be talking to baby daddy tonight and i'm convinced he's going to stand us up again

 

[Krystal]

Sounds like baby daddy walking back into your life has turned things upside down a bit and your feeling anxious about things - your dreams are just telling you that

 

[kabey]

Hey! Aww you must feel awful, so have these
Firstly... these dreams. Dreams in pregnancy are very vivid, realistic and often quite upsetting, and I've found that if something is really affecting my day-to-day life, I'll have nightmares about it. But things have settled down a little bit for me now, and the dreams have calmed down too. So hopefully this won't last for you.
Don't worry, you're going to be a great mummy and no one can take your little girl away from you, unless you were addicted to heroin or something! So try to take time out to relax about this, maybe write your thoughts down (like you did on here), have a bath, go shopping or eat something you really enjoy... and hopefully both your dreams and conscious mind will return to normal soon!
Secondly... I also have problems with my sperm donor. As I type this he wants nothing to do with the baby, but I'm so scared that he'll "walk back into our lives" so I completely understand why you're worried.
Give him a chance, hear him out, and if the fucker stands you up, then don't give him any more chances!
At least you're being strong and saying you DON'T want to get back with me. You don't need him messing you about anymore so I think that's reasonable!
We all get worried, so I definitely don't think you're paranoid! I thought I'd stop worrying after 12 weeks but I still to, and do be honest we're going to worry about our children from now until death us do part!! So that's totally normal as well.
Sorry for going on! Let us know what happens xxxxx

 

[Sandi4Paul]

i had a weird dream tow nights ago about a recently banned memebr who said her real name began with a C!!! Don't remember anything else.

I think you are right to give you sperm doner the chance to talk (if he shows up), but your number one and two priority is you and you LO. if him comeing back is not best for you both then don't feel under pressure to let him do so.

If it is the best thing for both of you then feel free to do it without anyone judging you for the decision you have made.

if the tosser doens't show up then don't put your self through the stress, both you and the LO don't need it and he should be more considerate of your needs.

Sandi

 

[Mildly]

I agree, i think your dream is just you expressing your concern that your sperm donor is going to upset things by trying to get back together with you. I'm sure your LO will be just fine and it is human nature to worry

Hope the meeting with your ex goes ok

 

[dannii87]

Aww Clare I really feel for you... I can't really help because although I'm doing this alone and am 99% sure Gray won't want to come back, I don't think I would let him even if he wanted to... I want it to be baby's decision now.

I do understand how you feel about losing her, maybe subconsciously you mean losing her as in having to share her and losing 100% responsibility, not literally losing her... If that makes sense?

Lots of hugs being sent your way! Hope all goes well tonight hun x x

 

[abcd1234]

thanks everyone i m hoping tonight i wont be having more horrible dreams.

As i suspected he messed around trying to change times and ended up not replying ot messages and trying to blame us not meeting on me.

I give up now. Im happy it just being me and her, dont need the stress he brings