Telling friends who have been ttc for 2 years that you're pregnant

[Skyeway]

Hieveryone im about 6 weeks in and am due to be married in June. One of my bridesmaids has been struggling to concieve for a while. I want to tell her soon, but don't want to be inssnsitive. How do i go about this with grace and love, being happy about my news without upsettjng my friend? Im just pfaying she concieves soon, but in the meantime what advice do you have? Xx

 

[M1chelle]

I would personally wait until the 12 week scan and tell her then. She might be a bit sad but it's unlikely she'll show it and will no doubt be happy for you. Just be honest. I'm sure she'd rather know than find out second hand or feel that you couldn't tell her.

Congratulations by the way!

 

[tashap]

I tried for 7 years before getting pregnant. I was hard hearing other people's news but what hurt the most was people hiding it or feeling uncomfortable. She may feel sad but she will also genuinely be happy for you x the most important thing is for you to tell her rather than she hear from someone else or guess. You'd be supprised how good those struggling to have a baby are good at spotting it. I knew a girl and work was pregnant before she even knew! X the

Congratulations though xx

 

[lisey]

I would tell her over the phone rather than in person. When you have been trying a long time, the news of others can be hard. It's not that you are not happy for that person, just sad for yourself.
I even found it hard over the phone and would have preferred an email or text explaining that they know the news might be difficult etc and that's why they were telling me that way. Trying to hold tears in is hard, When my cousin told me she was expecting I was quite shocked and taken back, I held it together on the phone but balled my eyes out as soon as phone was down. I had been trying 4 years at that point.
As long as you're sensitive about it, I am sure she will be ok, my cousin was very sensitive about it all throughout her whole pregnancy and it made it a whole lot easier.
Good luck and congrats xx

 

[JoeyClare]

I have a work colleague and friend who is having a hard time TTC and I know she's experienced several friends, sister and sister in law all getting pregnant and she's been gutted. I'm not going to tell her until I have the 12 week scan and from things she's said before, she's found it difficult when it's been done in person as she sort of feels a bit ambushed with it. I'm actually thinking that the best way to tell her may be a text, then she can read it and digest it in her own time. I'd just be a bit worried about her getting it when she's out, which would defeat the object really,

 

[lisey]

I have a work colleague and friend who is having a hard time TTC and I know she's experienced several friends, sister and sister in law all getting pregnant and she's been gutted. I'm not going to tell her until I have the 12 week scan and from things she's said before, she's found it difficult when it's been done in person as she sort of feels a bit ambushed with it. I'm actually thinking that the best way to tell her may be a text, then she can read it and digest it in her own time. I'd just be a bit worried about her getting it when she's out, which would defeat the object really,

I think this is a good idea. You could maybe send a few general messages first, saying hi, asking how she is, what she is up to etc, to find out if she is home xx

 

[Eryinera]

Aye i agree with the text or email. Every time I got news that so.and so was pregnant it hit me like a freight train I was happy of course but my initial reaction was hurt. And its hard to hide that and makes you feel bad you can't show the genuine happiness you feel.
I know one of my friends is struggling we have both been finding geTring pregnant hard for different reasons. She's found getting the bfp hard. I found getting the bfp "easy" but I suffered 4 losses. I actually found out I was pregnant at work and I asked if I could ask her opinion in private and asked if I was actually staring at a bfp or if I was imagining it. She was the first person to know even before my husband! (Well I told him.first but he didn't believe it lol) I've tried to not rub it in her face and I've felt awkward when mutual friends have made a fuss. But I've tried to bring her along in my journey and I made her a hamper for my 12 week scan date of my newly unwanted ttc things plus a few new saucy things too. Just to let her know I was thinking of her too. I've also supported her through her diagnosis of pcos and through her inept and frankly insensitive dick of a doctor lol. It can vary depending on the person and you know your friend better than us so may be able to judge best how to go forwards with how you react and support her.