Taming The Toddler
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I think I'm starting with the tantrums. I thought we were having an ok day today - until he woke up from a nap this afternoon. I brought him downstairs and was just about to put him on the floor to play when the squealing and back arching started. Everytime I tried to put him on the floor. He wouldn't even let me sit down holding him - I had to be standing up. What's the difference???? In the end I put him the car and went and got petrol which seemed to please him. I cant do that every day!!! Help!
she is still very young to understand about boundaries. At that age I would use distraction, so if she is turning off a tv for example, move her away and play with her so she forgets about it. Cally has this thing about turning off the X box (I never hear the end of it from OH), and I just give her something noisy or something she's not usually allowed like a remote or keys.
pilkers said:
haha sorry i had to laugh. God itsnt it the most annoying thing in the world when they do that! What really gets on my nerves is ky will very slowly reach out, with pointed finger at the tv button and slowly turn to face me, pausing....and i can read his mind..."go on....tell me no and i'll do it!" if i distract him he paddys, if i shout he paddys, if im nice he'll press the button then paddy.My only cure so far has been to move the tv out of reach
as for at friends....um im still thinking of a plan! His tantrums are quiet spectacular now. In the doctors earlier he would not sit on my lap wanted to zoom around the waiting room. then every time i tried to put him on my lap he whined and slide off in an over dramatic flop. great fun
i laugh now but it soooo isnt funny at the time! I guess its just a waiting game until they fully understand! Your not alone!
pilkers said:
This drives me mad...the phone thing. If ANYONE'S phone rings she goes crazy following them going hi hi hi HI HI HI HI HIIIIIIIIIIIIII HIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIII until she gets it and then talks to the person or doesn't get given it and then cries. The diva - ness (not sure how to spell that) is really hard for me to deal with. I want to give her boundaries and I am not afraid to discipline her and be strict with her...but it just seems that she can outdo me!
Im so pleased ive found this thread. Im so upset at the way ive been treated. My LO is 20 months old and is just starting with the tantrums, but he is a proper little boy, he likes to scrag and gets very excited.
This is going to be a long story, if you dont mind sticking with me.
Basically, my LO goes to my friends house on a Monday so she can look after him for me so I can go to college. I cant afford childcare and this is a great help for which im really grateful.
The only problem being is that my LO can be a bit boisterous and my friends LO who is older than him doesnt like it, he is quite quiet (except for one time when he bit my LO, but nothing was said about that!!). My LO scrags him and wants a bit of a wrestle and his little friend will cry at this.But he is playing and doesnt actually mean to hurt him. I am forever telling my LO off and so is my friend when im not there.
Anyway, yesterday we all went to a party and there was a bouncy castle. My LO was having a great time on it and was getting a bit excitable, so I went over to calm him down. Which for a bit worked, then his little friend got on with a balloon. My LO wanted the balloon and tried to wrestle his friend for it. Both me and my friend went to split it up. My friend started shouting at my LO whilst I managed to get him off her child. The looks I got off all the other parents was like my LO was a demon child and I was such a bad mother for letting him do that. They all go to the playgroup I go to and I got the feeling that after that they were ignoring me. Even my friend seemed to ignore me for a while. I could have cried.
I dont let my LO get away with this behaviour, i wont tollerate it, but its hard . Im told its normal and he will grow out of it. It didnt help when my friend announced to everyone that this is what happens every Monday when she has him. Then later on when i brought up the subject she said " to be honest, he is pretty good for me". Which one is it? Is he naughty or is he good? When he is with me, he isnt terrible we have the odd moment but in general he is a good baby and to me is going through the terrible twos a bit early. He certainly doesnt attack other children, he will push them away if they try and get the toy he is playing with, but nothing really more than that. I always make him share with them, which he doesnt like but he has to learn.
I just dont know what to do anymore, as one of the mothers actually said to me that my LO used to be really quiet and suddenly in the past 2 weeks he is into everyone. Well when im there, he has never made another child cry or even really bothered with others,he plays along side them. So does it mean that on a Monday he is a terror?
Any advice will be gratefully recieved. I feel like not going back to this playgroup as i feel like they are bitching about me behind my back. This happened with another little girl who was quite naughty, but then her mother actually did nothing about it and used to ignore it. But they hounded her out of the playgroup.
Thanks for listening.
This is going to be a long story, if you dont mind sticking with me.
Basically, my LO goes to my friends house on a Monday so she can look after him for me so I can go to college. I cant afford childcare and this is a great help for which im really grateful.
The only problem being is that my LO can be a bit boisterous and my friends LO who is older than him doesnt like it, he is quite quiet (except for one time when he bit my LO, but nothing was said about that!!). My LO scrags him and wants a bit of a wrestle and his little friend will cry at this.But he is playing and doesnt actually mean to hurt him. I am forever telling my LO off and so is my friend when im not there.
Anyway, yesterday we all went to a party and there was a bouncy castle. My LO was having a great time on it and was getting a bit excitable, so I went over to calm him down. Which for a bit worked, then his little friend got on with a balloon. My LO wanted the balloon and tried to wrestle his friend for it. Both me and my friend went to split it up. My friend started shouting at my LO whilst I managed to get him off her child. The looks I got off all the other parents was like my LO was a demon child and I was such a bad mother for letting him do that. They all go to the playgroup I go to and I got the feeling that after that they were ignoring me. Even my friend seemed to ignore me for a while. I could have cried.
I dont let my LO get away with this behaviour, i wont tollerate it, but its hard . Im told its normal and he will grow out of it. It didnt help when my friend announced to everyone that this is what happens every Monday when she has him. Then later on when i brought up the subject she said " to be honest, he is pretty good for me". Which one is it? Is he naughty or is he good? When he is with me, he isnt terrible we have the odd moment but in general he is a good baby and to me is going through the terrible twos a bit early. He certainly doesnt attack other children, he will push them away if they try and get the toy he is playing with, but nothing really more than that. I always make him share with them, which he doesnt like but he has to learn.
I just dont know what to do anymore, as one of the mothers actually said to me that my LO used to be really quiet and suddenly in the past 2 weeks he is into everyone. Well when im there, he has never made another child cry or even really bothered with others,he plays along side them. So does it mean that on a Monday he is a terror?
Any advice will be gratefully recieved. I feel like not going back to this playgroup as i feel like they are bitching about me behind my back. This happened with another little girl who was quite naughty, but then her mother actually did nothing about it and used to ignore it. But they hounded her out of the playgroup.
Thanks for listening.
I'm finding the best way to deal with unacceptable behaviour is to tell Isaac he is being naughty and the reason why and then, if he continues, ignore him completely. Seem's to be working so far. Isaac is really testing us at the moment.
